My mom takes care of my son while I work, and he gets along great with her. She is going away for 6 weeks, and now my mother-in-law will be watching him for 2 of these weeks. Everytime I drop him off and she comes near him, he starts to cry and scream, and won't let go of me! How can I get him to warm up to her? He usually sees his paternal Grandparents once a week, so I don't know why he is making strange?
2006-07-26 02:37:21 · 13 answers · asked by Chewie 7 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
My son is 2-years-old by the way.
2006-07-26 02:39:37 · update #1
my 15 mnth old is the exact same way every since he was born he wouldn't have anything to do with my m-inlaw. he will scream if she even looks at him. i've been just going over there more often getting him used to them a little bit at a time. i smoke so when we go over there, i'll sneak outside and leave him inside when he realizes i'm gone i'm normally walking back in & i stay out a little longer every time it seems to be working he gave her a kiss the other day, he normally slaps her in the face if she gets that close, i love it though lol good luck
2006-07-26 09:02:19 · answer #1 · answered by chickenlittle 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
For kids a week is a long time- hell, a minute is a long time!
Obviously you are close enough to have them see each other more than just once a week, do so. Let him get accustomed to granny.
Don't force him to go to anyone, kiss anyone or speak to anyone. Respect his boundaries, he needs them as we all do. The only difference between him and you is his age, so respect him as you would wish to be respected.
I dont think it's a matter of him liking her or not, at this age kids like almost everyone they can recognize as a steady being in their life.
Another thing you might keep in mind is that most everyone needs a routine, but to kids routine means saftey and security. They know what to expect and what is expected of them when there is a routine. If you know there will be a big change like this before hand, you should try to make the change easier for him. Discuss it. let him know what is coming, make "practice" action (as in spending the day with grandma while mom or dad is there and things like that.
Good luck!
2006-07-26 02:53:31 · answer #2 · answered by An Opinionated One 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you like your MIL? Did she do a good job raising your husband and any other siblings? Something strange may have happened at a past visit--an encounter with a dog or cat, he may have gotten in trouble for misbehaving or maybe didn't feel well that visit. These things stick with kids and take a while to work out.
Your son is going to do what he is going to do. Tell your MIL what is going on and if she is willing to give it a try, let her. Maybe she knows of some ways to relax and calm your son. Do a test. Leave him with her for a few hours and see what happens--they may both surprise you by getting along great!
2006-07-26 07:15:30 · answer #3 · answered by Beth W 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
2 year olds don't take change well. And, this is mostly a show for you so you'll feel guilty for leaving him and changing his world. (He can't understand "2 weeks")
Just assure him that things will be fine. Remind him that you will come get him after work just like you always do. Don't let him get to you. Also,
Ask her to just sit and let him come to her. Some kids don't like people to "come after" them. He needs to have some control in his relationship with her. Let him lead the way with her. He'll warm up if he's given the space he needs.
2006-07-26 02:45:25 · answer #4 · answered by jymsis 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My son did this with my Mom. Just walk out the door and leave him for a short time - go get your hair done. If after that he is still crying, see if she changed her soap or perfume. My son didn't like a new perfume my Mom was wearing.
Also, my sisters children didn't like one grandma because she was stricter with them than the other. He just may not like being told no more often.
2006-07-26 02:44:00 · answer #5 · answered by kny390 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Children are good attelling who's bad or good...or perhaps this is a sign that there is some foul play that has gone on when you were absent.Don't tell him he has to like her..just encourage him to be polite and respectful,and tell himif anyone does anything he doesnt like or makes him feel funny,to tell u and u will ALWAYS believe him and handle it and make sure it doesnt reoccur!
2006-07-26 02:43:16 · answer #6 · answered by Direktor 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-11-26 00:39:24 · answer #7 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well babies have a funny way of letting you know that they dont want you to leave them with that person. There is a reason. I would take him somewhere else. You never know even if it is your mother in law
2006-07-26 02:52:56 · answer #8 · answered by Kim 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's best when they give him treats and stuff. I had a niece that didn't like me when I began dating my fiance and now she loves when I come over. I used to let her play with my digital camera, because she loves to mess around with their computer and cell phones. She's still shy sometimes but she doesn't tell me to go away anymore.. She's 4.
2006-07-26 02:42:03 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You cant force your son to like some one . You just need to give him time to get to know her.It takes time but not rushed . the love is there from her and in time he will see. Just be patient it will work out .I went through the same ordeal
2006-07-26 02:55:15 · answer #10 · answered by blackice28459 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋