why more separation in families in modern trends?

Question

Nowadays husband and wife are getting divorce very easily even in India and they separated even without divorce is it good for the future generation?. The future generations are their children they do not have chance to enjoy the love and affection of parents because of this separation. Is it adviceble? Why this is happening even in so called traditional India which is known for its culture for family organization

Answer 1

People divorce because they are no longer fit into the family. That will be better in the long run. They don't need to keep a family together under hatred, anger, jealousy, or sadness. Tradition is for the old generation, it needs to change with time to fit into the society. Probably that is the newer version of Indian tradition and maybe the world tradition.

Answer 2

The holy Bible and other scriptures are replete with warning us of all the terrible challenges that will befall man and society in the Last Days - before the Return of Christ for the Second Coming.
And they say that "every nation" shall feel the terribleness of the situation in the last days.
The challenges are really only just beginning though, for we are told it will be worse than Sodom and Gomorrah, and God destroyed them!!!!

Harking to another's question though, let me give my story:
I'm glad you asked this question because I have somewhat to say about it.
In fact, I've often thought about writing on such topics.

Let's just start with a few basic personal facts:

My parents separated when i was 3 and my younger brother - 1.
We lived with and grew up with only a mother - a matriarchal home only.

Both of us, now in our 50s, have been divorced.
My brother is yet to find another.
He has also spent 5 years in jail - not sure whether he was really guilty or not, but either way, even innocent, the whole ordeal could carry other implications that stem from lack of male authority in the home, and reluctance to accept public authority.
I don't know.
He was interned on the charge that he privately violated his oldest 2 daughters.
He has 7 children, and even now that he has been out for 18 months, none of them will contact him.

My first marriage failed quite quickly, even with our strong Church background and personal active service.

I remarried, but BOY!! has it been tough and quite a struggle in many ways.
We have been married about 23 years now.
I still find some situations overwhelming; in fact, I often think I am still failing in life, despite that I have 5 children to my 2nd wife.
And I still have problems with pornography

Fortunately, we have the Church ... and underneath it all, I know all my family loves me [ which is more than my poor brother can say - God Bless him. It must be tough! He also lives 2 states away]

To make things even togher here, my wife is from a 3rd World island country of small population ... an entirely different culture altogether .... PLUS [and this is most KEY to your query]
She also hails from a Fatherless home - til she was 18.
Apparently, the original father had 2 [I think] then ran the field and left for America.
Underneath it all, she has never really forgiven him and has not learnt how to get close and affectionate to males.
I find that very tough - especially, given my own uncertain background!!!

I hope this applies food for thought for those considering becoming a broken family!

You ask if it is better then, for the children to witness arguing, fighting parents that remain together, or whether they are better off if the parents separate?

WELL .... YOU TELL ME!!!

Answer 3

Ibelieve this is happening because people are not taught the morals we were in the past. We are now in a generation of anything goes. If it feel good then go for it. I also feel that the Internet has played a big part in causing people to cheat on each other. It is easy to be caught up in wrong doings. I believe the only way for this to stop is for parents to raise their children in church and go back to the good moral beliefs we once had.

Answer 4

In the Middle East the pendulum is swinging toward divorce now because women there are becoming more liberated. They have found their voice and leaving marriages that are horrible for them. This is what happens when people are liberated. In time the pendulum will move more to the center, but things will never go back to the way they were before.

Answer 5

I believe that the world mindset has become more materialistic. People have lost the ability to be satisfied. In America, everyone wants the newest and best of everything; it equates to power. I believe that once a person develops the mindset that one needs a new car every year, it spills over onto the spiritual side of being. How can one commit to anything when there is always a shiny new bauble to be had over the horizon?

Answer 6

Well there is a lot of selfishness involved, husband and wife don't think of feelings of their kids and of couse that destroing their life too, because they wouldn't have a good role model when they get married, people don't want to wark on their issues, it's easier to run away from problems, but it's not true- problems will always get back to you...so I think it's better to hang on and try to figure out what to do, when you are not happy in marriage, it's 50/50, takes two to argue and blame each other...but we could choose to go in the opposite direction too:)

Answer 7

owe my with the computer age technology and jobs going over seas families are spliting up in certain areas in this country our young are seeking out better job oppurtunities you cant make it bye working at mcdonalds anymore etc, ove afection or anywhere is, losing its ense of family values, etc, as we sek out out more fame, fortune and the fast bucks, ounce your yong leave the nest its like bye bye now days just to busy working making a fast track or a fast buck, more more families are divorcing etc, seperation, yes, at first people are changing from family values especially in this country and it spreads it self around, to other parts of the world, divorce may be good like i said, when you enter a marriage, the one thing i ve seen is either partner changes from night day drastically, its a emotionally drain on the systemm so that one cant take it at all, daily presssures, money sex, what ever comes in to play here, i dont think anyone really knows what there doing when they get maried especially the menn, thery think with something else, instead of what they got upstairs, womenn have a power over us, that i cant quite understand, and wont try too understand this is one of the many reasons i have a gay partner and so ami, the mariage family thing is just so confusing at times, etc, if i had toodeal with it i could, i soppose, but 2 days after a marriage and the honeymoon is over ask eith one face too face if its all that godam glamirouss, etc/

Answer 8

Well yeah i know since I am an indian also.
This hasn't happened to me but has happened to some of my indian friends. I think that sometimes a divorce is good in a way, because you don't want your kid to suffer what you are going through also that's just wrong. But sometimes it's bad. It actually depends on why they divorced, but most Indians divorce because the don't want their kids to suffer with them.

Answer 9

Nope, i do not. Marriage is a biblical organization though, and that actuality has been lost in civil unions attainable to maximum Western international places who enable freedom of religion. The bible is extremely, very sparkling on marriage being between a guy and a lady (makes you ask your self what existence replaced into like decrease back then huh? LOL pondering how uncertain it must be on different concerns in society) and hence as a non secular or sacramental marriage -- definite, might want to be as bible states. My greatest argument is provided in that church homes might want to under no circumstances be forced to marry similar sex couples. branch of Church and State back, purely yet another attitude. besides the undeniable fact that, you requested if I easily have a non-non secular argument, the answer is not any. those who love one yet another might want to make sure to at least one yet another. pretty in the experience that they have got toddlers.

Answer 10

Because in the old days women sucked it up and tried to make it work more, now they run as soon as they can, sometimes its warranted but women don't put up with as much crap as they used to, esp in the US.