How old was your first child when you decided to go back to work full-time and do you do daycare or something else? Is is worth it, financially and emotionally? Opinions GREATLY appreciated!!!
2006-07-26 02:30:49 · 19 answers · asked by neener68 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I wish I had the opportunity to be a stay-at-home mom. Unfortunately, my husband at the time decided family life wasn't for him and left me with 3 small children. I had no choice but to go to work. My children went to daycare part-time and my mom and grandmother watched them some too. However, I was fortunate enough to get a job that allowed me a great deal of flexibility with my schedule, which enabled me to go on field trips, take them to appointments, etc. I think the ideal situation is a home with two parents, with the mother staying at home. All though there is less money coming in it is a less stressful environment when there is someone at home to manage things.
"No amount of success can compensate for failure in the home." - David O. McKay
2006-07-26 02:50:38 · answer #1 · answered by tnmtngirl 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Well after my first child I went back to work after a couple of months, and I continued to work until my second child was born where I took two weeks off. However, during the end months of my third child's pregnancy I quit working and have stayed home since. I feel that throughout the working I was drained and I feel like I missed a lot of my first two children's lives, plus as soon as I got home I was constantly cleaning and trying to catch up around the house. Both my husband and I switched rounds watching the children while the other one was at work, but I know too many people who had jobs and put their children in daycare where they were working to pay the daycare. If you are able to make it without having to work, financially, enjoy staying at home, or if your husband can watch the child two or three nights or days a week so you can get a part time job if you both are in need of the money then I would suggest that. It gives daddy and the child alone time as well. Plus many times your children pick up habits from other people that you would not want them to have, it's much easier to instill your morals and values that you believe in into your child when you stay at home. Hope this helps.
2006-07-26 03:17:47 · answer #2 · answered by Young Mommy 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
With my 1st child I went back to work after 6 weeks. He went to a relative of my ex husbands(it turned into a total nightmare). I ended up quitting my job when he was 3 and babysat at home. I never went back to work til after I had 2 more kids and left my ex(the youngest was 18 mo.), and worked until I had my last child 16 months ago. I would look into a home daycare for an infant. There can only be 2 kids under the age of 2 in a home setting, where in a center there can be 5 infants for 1 adult (in Ohio, it could be different where you live). They will get more personal attention. Good luck!
2006-07-26 02:40:56 · answer #3 · answered by momx4 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My son was 6 weeks old when I "had to" get back to work but I had a family member as his nanny for a while, who lived in the same house as us, so I felt alot better. If you have to because of financial reasons then you haven't got a choice but if you can afford to not work, then you should spend all the time at home raising your kid. This time in their life comes just once. I am also sure you would want to be around when you kid gives his/her first laugh out loud, when the first word is said etc. If I could give up my job and take care of my son fulltime , I'd love nothing better than that but, some of us are not that lucky. I wish you all the best!
2006-07-26 03:05:40 · answer #4 · answered by daisy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Daycare can be wonderful for you can your child. But if you are worried about child sickness being spread to you and your mother, then that could be a poor choice for you. Most children in childcare experience more sickness then children that get cared for in a home setting. But children in daycare often do better in school. They are used to an organized setting, and many have more skills starting out then the children that are cared for at home. Not that we as parents can't teach our children mind you...
As for going to work.. with my daughter, I took kids into my home as a side income, nearly immdeiately. I had a baby, so what was a couple more kids that were older and could entertain my baby while I got things done around the home? Providing you keep up your cleaning and make sure none of the children you are caring for are ill, this might be a good choice for you. You could make sure to wash their hands as soon as they walked in the door... and keep them that way the entire day. Other children generally help with the little ones.. freeing your time for other chores to be done.
2006-07-26 02:38:31 · answer #5 · answered by Mary J 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was fortunate enough to be able to stay home for about 2-1/2 years after my first child, but 2 months after my second one was born, I was unable to stay home due to financial pressures. I started work full-time and the children were cared for by their aunt until they were old enough for daycare. It's a little hard (emotionally) to get used to, but in time both you and the child will adapt.
2006-07-26 02:39:27 · answer #6 · answered by Avid 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i live in canada and when i was on mat leave 10 yrs ago we were only provided with a 6 month leave. i tied vacation onto my leave and ended up going back to work when my son was 7 months old. i wanted so badly to stay home with him but couldn't afford to do so being a single mother. luckily my mother babysat for me and i didn't have to send my son to daycare at such a young age. if your questions is are having kids worth it financially and emotionally, then the answer is more than you could even imagine!
2006-07-26 02:36:20 · answer #7 · answered by gummi bear 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i waited till she was in school the whole day. then got a 9-5 job so that is wasn't so hard. She is in school 7-3 so she would ride her bus to my moms and i would just pick her up at 5:30 it worked out. now she gets out of school at 4 so she can stay at home for like 30 min till i get home. financially i have to work because I am divorced and her dad is bilking on child support ( go figure ) Emotionally you just do what you have to do and let God handle the rest.
2006-07-26 02:35:43 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
My daughter is 10months, I am a stay at home mom. I do some freelance work from home. I think this will be my duaghters foundation. I think of going back to work but then I think of her and the time we are spending together. I will never get this time back so I am cherishing it everyday. Things are tight financially but you have to way the pros and cons.
Some moms have to work and I respect that. You have to do what is best for your family and situation.
Good luck.
2006-07-26 02:53:45 · answer #9 · answered by angelsmommy 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I did not return 2 full-time work until my daughter was happily settled in Secondary Education.
Babies/young children need their mums, money had 2 take a back seat, while I stayed at home & raised my daughter.
What's the point in more funds when UR kids aren't having any fun & missing their mum?
2006-07-26 02:36:20 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋