Okay, so I've been exchanging messages with this guy for about 2 months now and we've opened up to each other a bit. Like we've talked about our child-hoods, friendships, relationships, goals, family..stuff like that, but we haven't really flirted. At least I don't really think so. We're moving (seemingly) slow..super slow & I can't help but feel that maybe he isn't interested. I mean, I would understand b/c he lives in L.A..me.. Arkansas. He's in a R&B group (lots of a**, ya know what I'm talking about girls.) He hasn't exactly seen a pic of me either. A glimpse once, but with all the ppl that visit his page and all the pix, (mines been off for about the 2 months we've passed messages).. I'm sure he doesn't remember it. I don't want to post anymore until I take new ones. (in about 2 days) Anyway, I don't want to keep trying to "inch" my way into his heart if he isn't interested..so how do I tell if he is and is maybe just trying not to get 2 excited until he see's my pic??
2006-07-26 02:08:49 · 6 answers · asked by Rih-Kim 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
okay, just to add a lil' more to the equation. He's already asked me to visit. I was already making a trip there in about a month..and I plan on moving there for my own reasons at about the end of the year or the first of next year. he IS in a group, but they aren't really out there like that yet. I'd say more locally, so NO its not as easy as the last girl mentioned to just fly out to each other. Either way, I'm perferctly aware that online dating and long distance relationships are things to look out for, but I can't help that I'm falling for the guy.
2006-07-26 02:25:00 · update #1
OK, I guess maybe I have a different slant on this that what they others have given you. I met my g/f right her on Y'answers. (she is in AL, I am in IL ) We talked for a couple months before we met, but we DID exchange pics. The timing of my visit to her wasn't because we either one was concerned about how fast/slow things were moving, but just because that's when I could make it down there. I DO agree with everyone else that online dating, long-distance relationships, etc ARE things to be leery of. But in our case we were the exceptions. My guess is, if he's inviting you out w/o seeing you, he's probably being 'nice' ( there ARE exceptions though..) So, my advice would be to get him some pics of you ASAP, tell him somewhat of how you feel about things and see what happens. I knew that there was no one in MY area that was for me and it just happened that my love was 9 hrs away. (as soon as I sell my house I will be moving to be with her & her kids ) So, just because 99.9% of things are a certain way, DON'T let yourself fall into THAT catagory. YOU (and he) may be the exception to the rule. (just like me & mine were) Whatever you do, remember that communication is the key.
Good luck. Be smart. Be careful.
2006-07-26 03:24:29 · answer #1 · answered by barhopper 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Where/how are you exchanging messages with him? If it's on something like a blog or a myspace page, the things you've discussed can't be that in depth. Two months is not super slow. It takes much longer than that to really get to know someone.
Maybe he enjoys having someone to chat with outside his "real" life. You have to consider what you think might happen, if you develop a relationship with him, due to the physical distance between you. Is he prepared to move to be with you? Are you prepared to move to be with him? Naturally you would want to see pics of one another. Being attracted to the person you're with is not everything, but it is important.
Whatever you decide to do, just be careful. It is so easy to get wrapped up in "online world" and forget about your real world. People can SAY ANYTHING to you. Don't fall for him based on what he messages to you. You need to spend time with a person and see them in a lot of different situations before you truly know and understand who they are. Have fun with him and don't forget...there are probably real guys where you live that would be interested in a relationship if that's what you're looking for.
2006-07-26 02:17:37 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you're letting this exchange into an obsession, you will get ahold of your self and not positioned all your hopes on some thing that may no longer take place. Be friendly with him, say hi and doubtless u2 can strike up a friendship, you will get to be attentive to him and notice what happens. seems are actually not each and everything, see what he's rather like. a foul character will smash issues everytime. do no longer enable this keep away from you from getting in contact in college, on your city, going out with friends, doing issues you like and assembly new human beings. You never be attentive to, you would be able to fulfill somebody else you rather like and likes you decrease back too.
2016-11-03 00:53:15 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
save yourself more aggravation later on....you guys don't live anywhere NEAR each other. Long-distance relationships are EXTREMELY DIFFICULT!!!!....and unless one of you is willing to move, they eventually become impossible. Don't use the internet for dating or meeting people for romantic reasons....unless you know that the person is within a reasonable distance from you - a distance where you guys can see each other when you want. Trust me - this is the best advice you will get on this one.
2006-07-26 02:16:11 · answer #4 · answered by captain2man 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you're being overzealous. If he's in an R&B group, he has women throwing themselves at him all day and all night. So, you shared a couple of emails. If he was interested, you guys would have already met. It wouldn't take much for him to fly to you or fly you to him....until he says otherwise, you're dreaming.
2006-07-26 02:18:45 · answer #5 · answered by Dee M 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Love is blind, deaf and dumb but important, consider all pros and cons before falling in love and if you really feel for that guy dont wait just tell him, if he finds someone else you will regret. Go Baby jump.
2006-07-26 02:14:59 · answer #6 · answered by sajid_icfai 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋