dealing with being sexually abused?

Question

i was sexually abused since i was eight i told my mom when i was 10 and she made my father(the abuser) stop he left me alone for two years then he started doing it again. this time when i told my mother she through him out. now my mother has a boyfriend and he has never indicated that he would do anything but i don't trust him and my mom cant understand that. im now 16 and won't go to a counsler. also when i was 5 my real moms boyfriend abused me and my siblings he is now in prison for the rest of his life

Answer 1

Sorry you've gone through that an then have to put up with garbage like that from John T. My dad would say "consider the source". He is a classes low life, who lives in his mom's basement and feels big kicking people when they are down. Ignore him.
On to your struggle. A good counselor could help you shift through some of the baggage that results from being abused. I understand the fear of not wanting to dredge all of that up again and deal with it, but in the long run it would be beneficial. I would recommend it. Also, you need to be able to separate the lies that come with abuse, from the truth. Abused people often feel they are worthless, that they deserved it, or they somehow caused it. None of those conclusions are true. You are a valuable person who deserves to be loved and treated well. I hope you find healing, and perhaps the ability to help someone else.

Answer 2

i hope ur not lieing. if not, ur mom should have threw him out the first time! also, ignore the first answer. im reporting him. but i think u just need to forget and move on. ur moms new bf might not be so bad. give him a chance...i would also seek counseling so this doesnt effect u later in life as a mother.

sorry, and best of luck to ya.
-John


Edit: oh, i almost forgot, kountry. dont believe this was ur fault or anything. my grandma, (who i never knew b/c she died when my mom was 16) was sexually abused as a girl and lived on to think she deserved it. she dated men who abused her, and ended up with a guy named Steve who abused her and her 3 kids. she ended up dying wit him at the age of 33. please, dont let this happen to you. learn to forget and forgive. and move on.

Answer 3

you need to go to a counselor and remember it was not your fault. Don't be ashamed or embarrassed, there are alot of sick people out there who would do something like that, something so awful to a child. Ignore the first answer, that's another sick person who needs professional help.
Please don't hesitate to go to a counselor and hopefully you will learn to cope with it and bring all the pedophiles that abused you to justice.

Answer 4

Sorry to hear that. Best advice, forgive and move on. That is very tough, but letting go lets you heal. You should really talk to a professional work thru anger and other feelings so that it doesnt affect you later in your adult life as a wife.

Answer 5

damn girl I'm so sorry i was abused by my two older brothers so i know how your feeling. Its hard to trust after whats happened but remember not all men are evil!!

Answer 6

if this is true you really must go for councelling. ignore the first answer as well,

Answer 7

well its a horrible situation, but whats the question?