He's too young to feel that way I know, but he's always afraid that his classmates are going to laugh at him for something he wears and things like that. This behavior just started and I don't know why but I want to correct it so that he can be a more confident adult. Any suggestions?
2006-07-26 02:00:18 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
It's really not just about what he wears, that just happened today when he had to dress up for western day. He always says things like the little boys in his class say he's a little kid and not a big kid and that upsets him too. I know that kids can be abusive with words and not know it and I try to explain that to him but he just doesn't understand and I can't get through to him.
2006-07-26 02:07:37 · update #1
You have to determine if his behavior is a reaction to something that had happened in school, for example, teasing, bullying, etc.
If it is, let him tell you what it is and help him to overcome it. If it is not, it could be an inborn characteristic that he is manifesting.
For example, some children can be shy or more sensitive. If you can identify his strength somewhere, try to encourage him and show him that he is unique and do have strengths of his own.
Children will go through many phases in their growing years. The most important thing to them is your support and unconditional love for them. In fact your belief in them is what will make them strong.
2006-07-26 02:12:15 · answer #1 · answered by ideaquest 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My son was that way and still is to some degree (I don't think that anyone REALLY grows out of it until adulthood - remember being a teenager?). Point out all the good things that other people (especially kids) say about him. Point out how many friends he has. Point out that everyone has things that they are insecure about, but those who are successful are the ones that can still move forward. It doesn't stop the fear, but it alleviates it and teaches him to look at all his good traits. It also helps him to understand he's not the only person worried about those same things.
2006-07-26 02:09:39 · answer #2 · answered by alisha_kelly 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I believe you can try to provide him the assurance when needed. Home is usually the place children will seek refuge in when they are young. Love and security provided in the family is the main reason why children would grow up steadily to be a more confident person.
I do hope he will grow up to be a wonderful adult in the following years. All the best!
2006-07-26 04:40:51 · answer #3 · answered by Daniel R 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds to me as if your son has meet his first bully in school. talk about a hard one! the teacher needs to be aware of the problem. talk to the little one. maybe go to school with him one day and watch what is going on. do not interact if you see the problem there!! but at home copy the problem. mock it by repeating it with him and giving him a reaction to it. the comercial on tv about what your kid does in any given situation is one he is taught to deal with by his parents. well this is a situation he has not yet been taught. it is imporant that he has a taught reaction to things like that. not easy!! but important! you are a good parent to notice this! good luck!
2006-07-26 02:35:43 · answer #4 · answered by mouse c 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Without going into boring details, make him feel that he is good, he is handsome, he is witty
this will develop his self-confidence and thus even somebody told him that his clothes are bad he will say "No" and defend his viewpoint
2006-07-26 02:07:39 · answer #5 · answered by RosyNut 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my daughter is going thru the same thing its jus a phrase hell soon find out at school that he wont get laughed at jus tell him that hes perfect to u and to ignore it if anyone says nethin because u love him
2006-07-26 02:10:32 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
why not have him amke more decisions and you guide him along-or is there an olser male sibling or relative in the family to take shopping to show him whats cool
2006-07-26 02:04:27 · answer #7 · answered by Lola 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my daughter is younger, at three yrs but she is much the same, she thinks everyone is out to get her, shes very shy, but i have been told just to be patient as she will grow out of it
2006-07-26 02:03:56 · answer #8 · answered by Julie A 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
WELL MY DAD HAD A SAYING WITH MY BROTHERS THAT SEEMED TO WORK,"STOP CRYING LIKE A WOMAN.SUCK IT UP AND DO SOME PUSH UPS,MOMMAS BOY!!"
2006-07-29 07:55:02 · answer #9 · answered by b_rachelk 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
teach him not to feel so insecure
2006-07-26 02:04:25 · answer #10 · answered by edwinvandesar 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋