Lately it seems that every guy i start to fall for or just really like there is always something that is stopping me like for instance he just wants one thing or he doenst live here and is only here for a short period of time or my family , I just feel that something is telling me that i don't deserve to have somebody or i dunno , what do you think?
2006-07-26 01:56:27 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You just haven't met the right person. Try, when meeting new people, to keep things light. Breakfasts or brunches. Get to know them a bit before romantic dates. Then you can weed out those who don't meet your requirements. Also, focus on yourself for awhile. Make sure you're the best you can be. Start enjoying life without a man. Surround yourself with friends and family. And then when you're busy enjoying life, you'll be surprised and meet someone new. Have faith.
2006-07-26 02:03:49 · answer #1 · answered by ShellRe' 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It seems possible that you have a preconceived notion about what "should" be in your life. It also may well be that you further are pretty set on exactly how that is supposed to look and feel. It is entirely possible that - just now - being in a relationship is not what you should be doing with yourself. I'm not a big believer in destiny, but I do think that you have to take life as it comes to you. It may be that for now having a boyfriend is not the way to go.
Your question as to whether you "deserve" to have someone in your life just screams that you have a self-esteem problem you might wish to look at. If you look around this website, you will find a number of people who think only young, good-looking people "deserve" to be in relationships, but if you take a look at the real world and really see the humans who are in it, you will see that relationships run the full gamut of humanity. I don't know what would disqualify you from "deserving" to be in a relationship unless you are someone who mistreats those around you, degrades and devalues other human beings, is rude, uncaring, uncompassionate, and ungiving. If you lie, cheat and steal and lack integrity and morality, then maybe I'd agree you may not "deserve" to have someone in your life - mostly for THEIR sake - but I am betting this is not the case here.
The hardest thing for someone who is as young as you --- and if I don't miss my guess, you are young ---- is to take life as it comes; not to push it; not to put yourself on a timeline that indicates "now, at this point, I should be in a relationship; now I should be getting married; now I should be having kids" and so on and so on and so on.
Breathe - be in your life as it is now; look to the future and shape it the way you want it to go - and when the right guy comes along, you will have made yourself the right woman.
2006-07-26 09:09:37 · answer #2 · answered by two 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
U KNOW U LOOK TOO DEPRESSED ' yaar the life is just for a few yrs get it yur way actually there r two types of persons 1-who dance on fingers of life Ndestiny and 2- who make life dance on their fingures
go and hit the spot ; u r their to get whatsoever\wheresoever\whomesoever u want
BEST OF LUCK
2006-07-26 09:04:36 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are trying to make yourself like these guys too much. Take a step back and let them come to you. It will be more rewarding for you in the long run.
2006-07-26 09:01:44 · answer #4 · answered by ** 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you are Trying to hard just slow down and don't put so much emphasis on this and everything will fall in place.
2006-07-26 08:59:36 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you looking in the wrong places and meeting the wrong guys, maybe look for an older guy or ask your guy friends to introduce to some of thier friends, good luck girl, trust me lots of us have the same prob.
2006-07-26 09:03:45 · answer #6 · answered by JJ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give yourself some time. God made everyone a partner. Your probably focusing too much on this. Don't focus so much on it and it will come to you. "Patience is a virtue".
2006-07-26 09:02:28 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wait till you get Mr. Perfect, who almost suit your perception.
2006-07-26 09:00:51 · answer #8 · answered by ajai 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
let nature take its course when the right man comes along you will know.They always appear when your not looking
2006-07-26 09:00:41 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think you're just unlucky like somebody else said.just try not to critize the boys to hard........or just wait.
2006-07-26 09:01:37 · answer #10 · answered by livelaughlove<3 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋