i feel humiliated?

Question

my mum had the front of our house painted bright, sunshine yellow. itr is soooooo ridiculous and humiliating. it is more noticeable because it is a double fronted house of a terraced street.'ve just built up my self esteem to go out on my own and now i feel i cant even goo out of the house. my self esteem has gone right down like it used to. i was doing good until the painting took place. its like she's in south africa or some hot country where its ok to have that colour but in the northwest of england and in a city, well...thats a different thing. what the hell does she think she's doing. i think she's trying to get back at me and my dad. she has been ill since 16 yrs mentally and physically and reckons having that colour gives her happiness. i dont think so coz she dont even go out at all and how can she see her house frm the outside from her window. its stupid and ridiculous. when we all told her its wrong colour and that we all should have had a negotiation of what colour...

it should be, she demands its HER house and no one elses. it aint, its my dads too and what about us kids living in it but NO! its hers and everything is hers. my dad hates the colour and the whole world seems to be against us. since saturday, we've had everyone making silly comments on our house and laughing way bad as they go past. i hate it too but its not fair! why do i have to suffer the consequences coz of my silly mum. why is she not normal and why dont she let us live in paece. she did it on purpose so the whole world knows theres a mental person living in this house. i hate it and i hate myself now coz i used to hate myself but just when i started getting my self esteem back, she goes and ruins my life. how can someone not go out and come in of thier house in peace without being laughed at. she wont even let us change it or else ahe goes mad. when i mean mad, i mean a total nutcase. what can we do? any ideas to help us and to help me? thanx

does it remind you of balamory, kids programme.

Answer 1

I bet it looks cool. Yellow is nice. Don't let the colour of the house get you down, just be glad you have a house, don''t live in hot Africa.

Answer 2

I dont really know what the question here is but what i will say is if you and your dad disagree with the colour, change it!

You said she doesnt go out and so therfore cannot see the outside of the house so paint it back to white or atleast get someone to do it for you.

If that is no help then the only other suggestion i have for you is to talk to her and try to make her change her mind.

I never used to be able to go out on my own, i always had to have someone with me, im 19 now and sometimes still do. Not because im embaressed though, there is always lads hanging around my local shop and they whistle and say things and i feel intimmedated, it is hard to overcome, but if you start doing it, just step out of the front door the first time then go back in, you will eventually get there!

Answer 3

Honey, your self esteem should not depend on the color of your MOM'S house, get over it. When you grow up and buy your own house, then don't paint it a happy color it you don't want to. Are you to scared that your little 14 year old friends will point an laugh at you? Well get over that too, it is just what kids do. Grow up and stop complaining about stupid stuff. Focus more on the major things that are going on in the world, like poverty, and war.

Answer 4

You resent your mother feeling buoyed up by living in a house painted yellow: why should you take this to your person? You doubt here sincerity because she would seldom see it herself, but that is not the point -- people use make-up and hair preparations that affects how they look -- not how they see|! Allow yours mother this small indulgence.
You say you feel humiliated about the colour -- but you should instead rejoice for several reasons:
1. mother is blessed by it
2,. it is a happy, positive colour
3. you have now a distinctive house
You should learn to rejoice in having a distinctive house: it speaks of originality and confidence: why should you want to be one with the crowd?
You criticise your mother for her self-centredness, but that is what you insist for yourself! You have a golden opportunity here: capitalise on your mother's eccentricity and enjoy the diversity of life this situation brings. Nobody is laughing at YOU over the yellow housepaint: if others enjoy the sight, why can't you?

Answer 5

How about your dad and you sit down with mum and say that although the colour is very pretty but perhaps for the outside of the house it isn't as good a choice as she usually would've picked. Suggest another colour but then suggest you'd like the yellow colour in a room that your mum DOES get to see often. Yellow is a very cheering happy colour perhaps that's all your mum is attempting to make you all. Take care and please don't be too hard on her. :-)

Answer 6

You shouldn't be so hard on your mum- especially if she has suffered with mental illness. Yellow is such a lovely colour and if your mum has decided to paint her house this colour then you shouldn't be so negative towards it. Okay you have problems with your self esteem, but you should not let people's comments affect you.

Answer 7

it is strange yet regrettably that is genuine. i ask your self if sometime they're going to say, "you're a non-Muslim and what you breathe out pollutes the air. So we are going to might want to kill you!" yet does no longer Christianity attack different beliefs too? Does it no longer, like Islam, condemn Idol Worshipers? did not the inquisition homicide Galileo? i imagine the purely genuine religions are the Indo-eu Dharmic Religions, Hinduism, Buddhism, Zoroastrianism, Taoism, historic Roman and Greek religions. All of those are/were Idol worshipers. i imagine it is the reason Europeans and human beings of eu descent are tolerant in the route of faiths that worship Idols. i replaced into deeply indignant the way the Bamiyan Buddhas (Afghanistan) were destroyed. Whoever did which aren't to any extent further even worth of hatred. the reason that lots of the Christian international in the present day is civilised is because the Romans followed it, yet purely after enhancing it to compare their circumstances. They even replaced Jesus's date of start so as that it coincides with the Roman day of Worshiping the solar (solstice) an historic prepare between Zoroastrians, Assyrians and proto-Indo-Iranian-Aryan tribes (purely from a historic attitude). This did not take position with Islam. besides, they imagine that they could take over the international by reproducing and multiplying. that's apparent in Kosovo, a traditionally Serb land and the jap 0.5 of Turkey, a traditionally Armenian land.

Answer 8

It appears rather interesting to see how outside influences have an effect on your self confidence..or self esteem..If that is where you are looking for help in gaining self esteem, you are looking in the wrong places.

Self esteem is something created and formed within ones inner being. It does not depend on outer influences to make it work. It is the confidence you feel inside that gives you the courage to be all you can be. You then allow other telents or gifts to become your focal point and make them work for you.

Answer 9

a few years ago there was a short terrace of houses on the hillside just north of pontypridd (south wales) where the first house was pillarbox red, the next lime green, banana yellow, puce, magenta ....

there are lots of streets like this in south wales. the welsh are colourful people. and we don't care what anybody else thinks of us.

perhaps your mother is welsh.

things could be much worse.

at least you're not.

Answer 10

I'll be up front about this. The color of the house is NOT the problem. I think you have deeper issues surfacing here.

I suggest you seek out a counselor you can talk to about this to find out what's REALLY at the root of your discomfort...because I guarantee the color is NOT the problem...

A counselor (psychologist) will help you learn more about yourself and why this particular situation has you so up in arms...gaining understanding of what's driving the way we feel is the first step in dealing with it!

Good luck