My mom grew up in poverty.When young,she worked hard 2 earn money so that her brothers and sisters can get proper education.When she married, it was not exactly a happy marriage but she held on for the sake of me & my brother. My father died 10 years back & she had to work again after a gap of 25 years.I became an engineer and my brother a doctor because of her hard work. i had a love marriage 3 years ago,not exactly against her wishes but she was not exactly happy with it either.Now, after a big fight, my wife has walked out of my home.and my wife has flatly refused to try to reconcile.
my mom, in her old age, has to witness all this. She is upset all day. I WANT 2 MAKE HER HAPPY, BRING SOME CHEER IN HER LIFE. HOW DO I DO THAT. PLEASE ADVICE, PLEASE HELP ME.
2006-07-26 01:18:58 · 22 answers · asked by archer 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Be the best son you can be. Never forget what you mum has done for, and all that she has provided. I hope I never do. Just ask her how you can make-up for any hurt you may have caused or what would make her happy. I'm sure by now you can tell what would her cheer her more than anything. Maybe being closer to her. Try to make sure she doesn't she you hurting from your breakup...because mothers usually feel more pain of their children than their own.
2006-07-26 01:23:42 · answer #1 · answered by Reality 3 · 3⤊ 1⤋
I'm sorry to hear that your wife has no desire to try and work things out. I would just talk with your Mom and tell her that things will work out for the best in the end. Re-assure her that you will be ok as well, but it will take some time for you to mend a broken heart. Also tell her all you wish from her is emotional support and if you have that, it will make your seperation/divorce process a lot easier for you.
She sounds like a typical Mom that worries about her children. In most cases as long as she knows that you are doing fairly well during this time she will be ok too.
Good luck with your Mom and your marriage!
2006-07-26 01:36:15 · answer #2 · answered by sammy22005 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, your mother was right concerning your wife!
As far as I understand, No kids. Good.
Tell your mom she was right and that you should have listened, then talk as little as possible about your marriage. Try to talk about the happy times in life when you were kids. Take her out to dinner now and then and see if you could do some "man-work" in her home. When did she go to a movie?
Out for a coffee and an ice-cream? As she is just human, she would probably like to do the same things as you and me.
As an engineer you've got to have fantasy and initiative. Use it now. It's to late when she's gone.
2006-07-26 01:59:40 · answer #3 · answered by ranietsd 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Concentrate on UR Mum 4 a while & hopefully the rest of the mess can stay outta her way.
Look at it as a temporary measure 2 reassure UR Mum.
Yes,it hurts me if my daughter is unhappy & with a getting 2gether 4 a while I know that really she's stronger than she looks & I stop worrying.
UR mum wants U 2 B happy, that's all She lives 4.
Better than UR stroppy wife, she'll B back when she wants something, make her grovel a bit!
2006-07-26 01:26:25 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Has we get older we learn to live a little differently than are parents. Deep down inside all parents are proud of what their children accomplish with their lives and they want nothing to go wrong in their childerns lives which may have happened in theirs. Reassure your mother that everything is okay and that you are happy, even if you are not. This will help to raise her spirits. Maybe take her to lunch visit or call on a regular basis.
2006-07-26 01:28:19 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should shower your mom with all the love she has ever showerd you, you should plan a crusie or far away vacation and I am not talking about a vacation out of the state I mean out of the country. Perhaps the country of her background? Maybe just maybe you can bring your wife too and they can enjoy a new atmosphere together. What about kids? Are there any children involved? GIVE HER GRAND BABIES!!!
2006-07-26 01:26:43 · answer #6 · answered by pretty_lesbiian 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Me too i want to get my parents much happier after i disappointed them when i got pregnant and the guy left me.. i suggest your mom would be happy if she will see that your happy and that your not super frustrated or anything... if you can pretend that everything is cool and you accept what life brings you.. be it.. i never cried in front of my parents coz they will feel much sorrry for me.. they're saying that they're happy that im a strong person if they only knew i cry every night.. i hope this will help.. be strong for her.. tell her your trying to do your best but in life we cannot control events and other people.. we can only control ourselves.. tell her your doing your everything to win her back but whatever her decision will be your going to respect it and just be happy for her..(hard to do but you can say that atleast on your mom).. ask suggestions from her too.. she would feel her opinion is still important to you.. just say your so happy that shes still beside you through ups and down.. goodluck!!!!
2006-07-26 01:32:06 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
She may have numerous aches and pains. Ensure that she's been to the doc and feels well. And ensure that she has physical activity daily. (Not just work)
Take some time to take her for a refreshing yet relaxing morning or evening walk. Mind and body need peacefulness to retain happiness.
2006-07-26 01:33:58 · answer #8 · answered by iyamacog 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let your mom know that you love her. You appreciate all that she has done for you. Tell her that because of her, you were a happy child , and your dreams have come true. Let her know that you have made mistakes, that they weren't her fault, and that you have learned from those mistakes. Your mother will love you no matter what.. she may not always like what you do, but she will love you. Tell her that you love her.
2006-07-26 01:37:52 · answer #9 · answered by Imani 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your Mom isn't disappointed with you, she's disappointed that you're unhappy and it concerns her. It's normal... it's what everybody's mother does.
Whether your wife wants to reconcile or not is between you two.
Take care of your Mom and don't worry her unnecessarily with the other elements in your life. Prove to her that all that training and upbringing she poured into you didn't go to waste.
2006-07-26 01:23:09 · answer #10 · answered by J.D. 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋