He is hot, and he agreed to to out with me tonight...he does not smoke cigarettes, but I do. I am not sure how he feels about women who smoke, but I am not about to stop smoking...I want him and my cigarettes both..I want the best of both worlds....
Should I bring up the issue with him on our date and tell him how I feel or just let it go...I don't want to lose him and I don't want to stop smoking either...we have been flirting with each other for a while now...and I want him soooooooo bad!!!
2006-07-26 01:18:07 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
I would not even consider to date a smoking girl, sorry.
So the best is to consider your addiction to cigarettes and the reasons behind. I hardly know anyone who really likes smoking as such, most just make themself think they like it not to confirm being addicted.
BTW: I can read the invitation for "women smokers only", but could not hold back writing after a once-and-last-time try to kiss a walking ashtray.
2006-07-26 01:22:49 · answer #1 · answered by swissnick 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I would say don't even bring it up. Depending on what state you're in, chances are you can't smoke at dinner or at a bar anyways. If you feel the need to light up, just excuse yourself or get some gum. If he's the guy you make him out to be, your conversation or chemistry should be enough that you hardly think about smoking.
2006-07-26 12:00:37 · answer #2 · answered by Jonathan S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My husband sometimes says it's like kissing an ashtray. It's not sexy and is a huge turn-off for most guys. It might work out OK for you for a brief romance, but there is no future in it for either of you, if you don't even want to think about quitting.
I have been quitting and starting again for a long time, and I can tell you it's not worth it. It isn't the best of both worlds. It's the worst of one world.
2006-07-26 02:38:16 · answer #3 · answered by Zelda Hunter 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't bring it up unless he does but I certainly wouldn't smoke around him. You have to respect that he doesn't smoke so I'm sure he doesn't want to smell your smoke.
I always used to wash my hair before a date with a non-smoker and I didn't smoke around him. Then if it was an overnight date, I would tell him I'm going outside for a smoke and then I would wash my hands and brush my teeth when I came back in. Its a little extra work but worth it if you really like the guy.
2006-07-26 02:01:39 · answer #4 · answered by treasures320 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hopefully, he will respect your choice to smoke. When you crave a cigarette, just ask him if he minds if you smoke. Hopefully, he won't have a problem with it. If he does, don't worry about it they're are plenty of guys who would be thrilled to date a woman smoker.
2016-09-10 05:44:32 · answer #5 · answered by Bob 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he can't except all of you including you smoking then you don't want him anyways. Don't compromise who you are to be someone your not for someone else. Just do what you would normally do if you smoke after you eat then smoke after you eat, don't bring it up purposely, if he feels the need to bring it up let him. Other than that just be yourself and have a great time! :o)
2006-07-26 01:25:18 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't tell him you smoke, don't smoke on the day or the date or around him at all.
Let him catch you smoking. Then tell him you're trying to stop. He will believe you and try to help you stop.
That's the only way you can have your 'cake' and eat it too.
2006-07-26 01:34:11 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would wait until your out on a date and just ask him if he minds that you smoke. If he says yes, dont light up around him but atleast he will know now that you smoke. If he says no, he doesnt have a problem with it.
2006-07-26 01:22:34 · answer #8 · answered by sea_sher 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Chances are, he'll smell the smoke on you when you go out--especially if you're sitting close to him. I'd mention it casually during your date. Ask him how he feels about smokers. No use trying to hide it and having him find out later, only to get upset and stop seeing you.
2006-07-26 02:38:23 · answer #9 · answered by brevejunkie 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just tell him you smoke. if he likes you like you like him he want care.
2006-07-26 01:23:25 · answer #10 · answered by brandi g 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋