im so annoyed!!?

Question

my mom has dont countless things to invade my privacy including reading my diary,checking my text messages and then i get in trouble for it... like i used some profanity in my diary & stuff but its not like i was hurting anyone!! its annoying that i dont have privacy!! okay im going to be 14 soon and i told her that i kissed a boy once because she asked me and she freaked out and told me i was 2 young.. but the truth is that ive made out before and i wish i could tell her things about my life like that but i just dont want to get in trouble for it.. i wish my mom was cooler about boys and stuff she thinks im gonna go out and f*** the world or something... shes also telling her friends every little thing that i do.... and she whispers to them while im in the room as if i didnt knowe.... so one day i said "mom i can hear you im not stupid" and she just says i know and keeps talking about me... its really annoying

Answer 1

You should have a serious talking with your mum. Tell her how you feel about her actions towards you and that you would like to talk about sensitive issues with her. If she does not see your point and still on invading your privacy which means that she does not trust you. Then lock your stuff up where she can't get access to them. That way you will be sending the message loud and clear that you don't trust her. And that will make her think because parents wants to be trusted by their kids - although they don't want to admit it. best of luck amigo.

Answer 2

In Your Moms Eyes Your Still Her Little Girl And No Matter What You Do Or Are Trying To Do, Nothing Will Ever Change That. You Have To Sit Down With Your Mom And Try To Come Up With A Better Way To Communicate With Her Without Her Getting Angry Or Upset. Explain To Her That Your Not A Little Girl Anymore And No Matter What Your Growing Up. Also Explain To Her That You Need To Trust One Another For This Mother Daughter Relationship Yo Work. And Try To Respect Your Privacy. Also Tell Her That You Would Like To Share Things With Her, But Your Afraid That She'll Get Upset With You. Tell Her Whats On Your Mind, She Will Come Around Trust Me. A Mother Daughter Relationship Comes Once In A Lift Time And You Need Each Other In Your Lives. You Only Get One Mom And No Matter How Upset She Is Or Gets With You, Just know This She Really Is Trying And Has Your Best Interest At Heart.

Answer 3

Your mum just loves you and is probably over-stepping the boundries a bit because she feels she can. I'd keep your stuff a bit more hidden (maybe an online anonomous blog instead of a diary etc.) and try not to be too harsh on her. I lost my mum when I was 16 and there isn't a day that goes by that I don't wish she was here to tell me all the things I was doing wrong. Enjoy her sweety - she's the only mum you'll ever have! But don't stop doing your thing - it's who you are, and she'll love you no matter what.

Answer 4

Well, she should respect your privacy. I agree, but at the same time you need to not be in such a hurry to grow up. You are too young to be doing that stuff. You won't agree, but it's the truth. If you are lying to your mom or doing things that you know she would not approve of, you shouldn't be surprised that she doesn't trust you. I know you want to be treated as an adult, but you aren't... you are 13 (almost 14), enjoy the age. There will be plenty of time for all that stuff when you are older and are better able to handle the things that will be thrown at you. I know you probably think I'm full of crap, but you're mom isn't going to trust you if you give her reasons not to.
Also, she shouldn't be telling her friends. You should talk to her and tell her that it makes it harder for you to talk to her if she can't keep it confidential.

Answer 5

Well... i can understand what privacy means to u. I m in india and over here girls cant even speak abt guys... dating is way too far. My mom also dosnt let me buy clothes of my style it really makes me feel angry. I m 15 and i have a crush but the problem is that i can speak to that guy coz over here its termed as WRONG so i guess most of the girls face similar problms all over world. o u have an elder sis or a bro if yes then talk to them. If no then speak to ur DAD abt this.

Answer 6

your mom only has your best interests at heart... and yes if you are not yet 14 and 'making out' every mom would be worried.

maybe you should give it a break and listen to her ay ?

she's only trying to protect you and give you good advise. pls dont hate her and push her away. remember she loves you more than anything and shes was a teenager once and probably knows what teenagers often get up to doing so shes just worried. fact : teenage pregnancies are on the rise...


wait till you're 18 i would say and then wait for the right guy !!

Answer 7

At your age your mom doesnt want you to dislike her,but boys(men)of today are really bad,some of them,boys will say anything to get into your pants.Just reassure your mom that you are listening when she tells you to be careful around boys.You have the whole rest of your life to have them break your heart,right now enjoy being young while it lasts.Go to the mall with your girlfriends,make good grades in school,most of all be happy being 13,soon it wil all be gone.Good luck God bless:O)

Answer 8

Because of your age, you can't do much about mom's invasions. In a way she's trying to protect you, but on the other hand, I don't respect her decision to talk about you to others while you are there. Don't let it wear you down too much. That negativity will turn you into something you won't like. Respect her rules and guidelines for now.

Answer 9

WHEN I was starting my teen years my mom did the same thing, nothing I did would stop her from doing those annoying things to me and my sisters(3).
I even wrote a swear word(s--t) on a book report I was suppose to be doing and she walked in and saw it on my paper and made me use soap in my mouth,: I SAID, I ONLY WROTE IT, DIDNT SAY IT.
she said so ,that it was the same thing.
so i dont think you can stop your mom from doing those things. just keep telling her it is bad to you that she tells her friends.
but really wont stop her though.

now im a 43yr mom and I dont do that my teen daughter. I even got her a diary and said I would NEVER, EVER have to read it, unless she wanted me to see it. and I dont snoop .
I didnt like it when my mom did it, so I told mydaughter I wouldnt do it to her. and I havent.

Answer 10

Yeah.Been there. Your mum probably just wants to make sure you are safe, but sometimes it can cross over the line. This might not be the first thing you want to do, but talk to her. Tell her everything you just wrote. Hopefully she will probably understand you. Who knows, maybe when she was younger she had the same problem...