I've been seeing my fella for about two months, although we only made things official the weekend before last. We currently see each-other every weekend and at least once during the week, which is cool. However, I'm already getting paranoid that I've mucked things up, as I made a bit of a drunken idiot of myself last weekend with him, and I think I may have put him off, although he did call me last night for a quick chat, which was nice. However, we had tentatively planned to go for a meal this week at his friend's house, and he seems to have forgotten about this, as last night, when he rang off, he just said 'see you soon', and didn't arrange a definite time to meet up next. Should I be worried or am I being a paranoid idiot? Sorry, I sound like such a prick!
2006-07-26 00:52:59 · 19 answers · asked by calebolly 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Yes, I think you are worrying too much. If he wasn't happy he would have told you so on the phone or would have taken more time to ring you. If you don't want to feel like that anymore, just control what you drink. Have non-alcoholic drinks or just cut the number of you have with alcohol.
2006-07-26 01:00:55 · answer #1 · answered by Sissy 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Yeah you are being paranoid. Stop guessing or you will be making it up as your imagination and your mood may become worse.
Be honest and open and ask him how he felt about your drinking. I'm sure he will let you know how he feels about it. That way you can get undestanding of what he thinks...and from then on just becareful next time.
But if his a really nice and understanding guy I'm sure he doesn't mind as long as you dont do anything silly and if drinking was for a special occassion he will definitely not mind as well.
He was either in a hurry or tired that night. But i'm sure he does remember...its just he doesnt like to repeat himself. If you want to know then you need to talk and remind him to make sure if he still remembers the plan.
2006-07-26 01:08:28 · answer #2 · answered by gucciRUSH 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
God this is soooo the sort of situation I'm always getting myself into:-)
I find the best course of action is to bring up the drunken idiot incident and talk about it openly. Explain what a fool you feel and how sorry you are if you upset him or showed him up. Unless you said/did something utterly unforgivable or he's very conservative he should be able to laugh it off but will probably avoid dates involving alcohol for a while.
Just call him, tell him you feel like a fool and you hope that that one incident hasn't put him off you. He did call you unprompted which is always a good sign. Oh and ask him when you are next hooking up.
If it makes you feel any better I did drunkenly (and fully clothed) pole-dance in a club for a random guy who dared me. I did seek permission off my boyfriend who was with me and he said yes but he was still mightily pissed off the next day. Apparently I should have been able to tell he meant no even in my inebriated state. LOL Well we split up not long after, but that was because he was a w**ker.
2006-07-26 01:43:13 · answer #3 · answered by poppyfields 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There's never anything wrong with saying, "I'm sorry." Send a quick e-mail and apologize for your drunken behavior. Then, ask if the plans are still on for the weekend. Make sure that you do not repeat the drunken "idiot" behavior this weekend, or it probably WILL be your last date.
Learn from your mistakes and don't be afraid to apologize. If he is worth keeping, he will forgive you and give you another chance to redeem yourself.
2006-07-26 01:01:41 · answer #4 · answered by Ifeelyourpain 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok babes, first off its hard to understand men so as to even think if hes annoyed with you or not! Why not put your own mind at ease - ring him, explain that you've been thinkin about the way you acted when you got drunk, and feel a bit embarrassed about how you acted. Tell him that you cant remember exactly what you did, but you're going to ease off the drink in future - wait for his reaction, if he agrees with you, then tell him that if he still wants you to go for a meal with him at his mates house that you promise you'll be on your best behaviour.
You may be upset over nothing, but at least this way you'll clear the air completely about it. Good luck!
2006-07-26 01:46:40 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't know, tough one. I have gotten drunk infront of a new guy so many times. Still make a prick of myself infront of my bf now and lived together for 3 years. Just don't call him for a while, if he really wants to call it a day you will soon know when youv'e had no contact for a bit. Play it cool, if he likes you he'll make the effort and do a bit of running. Don't go on about your drunken antics though, just forget about that and don't bring it up again.
2006-07-26 01:00:19 · answer #6 · answered by Gypsie 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your being paranoid. If you have been going out for 2 months and things are now official its unlikely one time being drunk will have put him off. I say see you soon all the time to my girlfriend, its more a force of habit than anything else. Remind him of the meal, you will probably find he has simply forgotten.
2006-07-26 00:57:20 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The fellas in my office say there is nothing more off putting than a drunk girl... fine if you just want to shag her, but a definate no no in a girlfriend....
They suggest... that you apologise for getting drunk... i would add something like you were feeling really nervous and overcompensated a bit with the drink and the reason you got so drunk is that you don't drink....
If however, you can't drink without getting totally rat-arsed, then leave the poor chap alone, he obviously doesn't like it.....
Ah... this is why i never get drunk...well not before everyone else is...lol!!!!!!
2006-07-26 01:09:12 · answer #8 · answered by Violent and bored 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As everyone says, you are being paranoid!
But I really understand your situation. We girls can't simply get these small things off of our head... It might be this, that, ant that which blew it...and actually, he isn't thinking of any of what you're worring about.
I think you shouldn't say sorry yet. Wait till you meet him next time, and tell him that you are embarrased by the way you acted last time, with a small chuckle. I think that's cute, and he will feel it cute also, if he's still into you.
2006-07-26 01:37:59 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just be open and apologize for the way you acted and make it clear you don't act that way all the time (or maybe you do and if that's the case then he may not want that type of girl- or maybe he does). you're not a mind-reader... once you've apologized see if he says something about it and see if his actions change towards you. if he continues to put you off and seem disinterested, move on! it's only been 2 months.
2006-07-26 00:58:53 · answer #10 · answered by AP 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋