I have 2 girls that just want mind. I have tryed taking all there things away not washing there clothes if its not in the hamper but they still will not lisson. they tell me " you have taken every thing away what more can you do" what do i do now?
2006-07-26 00:52:23 · 12 answers · asked by brandi g 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Grade-Schooler
since you don't say how old they are and you've taken their toys away. what I did when they wouldn't listen or put their stuff away is I would make them take one of their more favorite toys and put it in a bag (as if for the garbage) they'd get upset because they don't want to lose something they really like. Then I'd take the bag and hide it in my closet. It got to the point where instead of having me threaten to throw out their toys they would pick it up when I asked. As far as the clothes are concerned i did the same thing. (only i would wash them and put them back in the bag ew stinky laundry in the closet ? i think not haha) anyway. Other than that I took computer time away from them or a play date away. I wasn't going to let their friends come over if they weren't willing to clean up after themselves. Good luck
2006-07-26 02:19:47 · answer #1 · answered by christina s 3 · 7⤊ 1⤋
hi there ohhh do i have so much pity for you ....ive been there with my first 2 daughters and now my 3rd daughter is starting to push her luck on a daily basis but she knows exactly where the fine line lies and when she does push her luck to far and she has thats when i get my own back you see like most kids they have there tvs hifis and game consoles in there bedroom,favourite makeup lipstick if its boys you would know what there favourite thing is so whats my point .....quite simple really but boy does it have the right affect ,when the little sweet heart goes out thats when i go into her room and i REMOVE FUSES FROM PLUGS ,you should see the look on her face when the tv wont work and i keep the fuses til im happy that they have had time to think and sort there attuide out it can be as short a time as 3days or as long as a month you make sure that they cant get the fuses but you stick to youre guns and believe me they will learn that when they have pushed you to far there will be action ........oh they do tend to have a shouting session thats generally when i'll say why dont you go and watch some telly in youre room .....oh you cant now i wonder why ..........hope this helps ,good luck who ever said being a parent was easy was most defenitly lying !! take care
2006-07-26 16:09:48 · answer #2 · answered by a parent hows been there !! 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to be consistant with the dicipline and praise when they do right. If you say something mean it. Tell them that you are only required to provide the basics of food, clothing and shelter. Do not give them the best clothes, go to goodwill until they shape up, do not have any toys,tvs, etc in their rooms to play with or watch and as for the foods, do not cater meals to them. Eventually they will catch on. Good luck.
2006-07-26 11:54:55 · answer #3 · answered by AMY L 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Corporal punishment! As harsh/mean/cruel as some think it is, kids are kids because you can't always reason with them and you have to be the "big dog" and demand their respect though physical threat. I don't condone abuse of a child by any means, but I certainly would not have disrespected my parents/elders because I would have got my butt beat and yet I was not abused. Respect through love is not always possible sadly.
2006-07-26 08:04:52 · answer #4 · answered by Jim 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depending on how old they are, don't let them leave the house until they start to mind. Let them go to school and home. No friends, no phone, No TV, no nothing. If you need to go somewhere, have someone come over and watch them, no matter what age they are. Don't buy them anything unless they need it.
2006-07-26 12:09:33 · answer #5 · answered by sunflowerlizard 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
what are the ages? Be stern and follow through. you need to be clear because you are obviously having problems relating.
2006-07-26 08:25:52 · answer #6 · answered by sylvia styles 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why not let them wash their clothes and make the learn the hard way and teach them hard love .
2006-07-26 12:25:22 · answer #7 · answered by weeksfamilyof4 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Corporal punishment, spank their ***!! But they have to know your not waiting until you've lost your temper. They have to know your in control of yourself and that you still love them But you aren't putting up with it anymore.
2006-07-26 10:47:52 · answer #8 · answered by SR 76 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds to me that they need a good old a** beating. u know it is not against the law to spank your kids. but trust me sometimes that dont work my kids just laugh i aint found a kid yet that listens
2006-07-26 23:23:26 · answer #9 · answered by shell4678 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It would help to know what they are doing wrong.
2006-07-26 08:03:59 · answer #10 · answered by momma2mingbu 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋