I can't understand shy guys' behaviors. Help?

Question

I'm trying to understand shy guys' behavior in general. I'm shy myself, but it doesn't mean that I can see right through shy guys. It's kind of frustrating to try to interpret their actions. To guys reading this: Put yourself in a girl's shoes in this situation.

Let me set up the scenario:

At your store where you work, there's a certain guy who appears to have a crush on you but haven't told you up front. He always smiles, makes frequent eye contact, acts very friendly, is always interested in helping, and looks at you when you're not looking but quickly turns away as soon as you catch him looking at you. You're not too sure if he likes you, but you do know that he doesn't act this way towards other girls at work. It seems that because he's shy, the only way he chooses to let a girl know that he likes her is by purposely showing little signs and not by just telling her.

Later after noticing these signs from him and you think that he likes you, you begin to like him a little. But you just keep it to yourself and decide that you're not going to let him know how you feel. You're pretty good at hiding your true feelings and you don't show any signs that you like him. It's not like you deliberately try to hide your feelings by stop making eye contacts or avoiding him completely or stop saying hi to him. You act the exact same way you did before you liked him and treat him like he was just another person. Therefore, he doesn't have any clue that you like him.

Then one day, he stops showing any signs that he likes you by making less eye contact with you, is not talking as much as he used to, and he rarely runs into you. He just acts really busy. But he still treats other people the same.

Do you think this guy is now acting like he doesn't like you because:

He never liked you in the first place?

He used to like you, but now he has a girlfriend or there's another girl he likes? (I kind of doubt this one because just a couple days ago, I heard him talking to someone that he doesn't have a girlfriend. It sounded like he is frustrated about not having a girlfriend and is having difficulties looking for one. If there was another girl he liked then he wouldn't seem so down.)

Since you didn't show any signs of infatuation, he realized that you're not attracted to him. Therefore, he stopped trying?

Or what?

I'm so sorry, I had no idea this was gonna be long. It's just that I had so many experiences dealing with shy guys and I always had trouble interpreting their behaviors.

Answer 1

My guess is that since he thought you weren't into him, he stopped trying as much. I'm a shy guy myself so I know exactly what you're talking about. There's a good chance he still likes you though...

Answer 2

As a shy guy myself it is hard to come out and say such things or act as many other people will.But a single guy does like u he will not tell just show litle signs as u explained.to find out if he does or not this is what wouldwork on me...Talk about a hobby he may like thats always a good topic,if the conversation could leading into making plans into doing thta activity lets say fishing and or concerts for example,see if he would like to hangout and do this activity one day,if that works u will 3/4 the time have him tell u his true feelings for u at a time when your together and he is comfortable enough around u and now that your hanginng out tdoing thisactivity more apt to lower his guard and share to u his feelings...hope this helps...

Answer 3

look it is normal for all guys to look at the girl it is a kind of attraction between 2 sides and physically right.
There are many guys have a strong personality and they can tell you directly that you are cute and he liked you.But many are haven't this brave to tell you that but they also attracted and wish to tell you that but they afraid from your reaction so when they looking at you they are trying to read your eyes language or simply trying to get the sign from you if you can accept their opinion or not.
So you have to give them the sign that you don't mind to hear there opinion and you will not consider it a personal.

What i mean is that it is a kind of understanding each other without normal words and you have the key for that.

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Answer 4

seems like you perfectly understand why do you need help and the reason he is showing less signs is because obviously he hasnt the balls to ask you out himself so your gonna have to put on the pants and dont you think that if hes shy too that he doesnt think he can put up a wall. it amazes me how invisble shy people think they are he could probably read you like a book.

Answer 5

giving sign is not an option to know if some one like you.
it's always to have a chat with some one to knew what is her feeling.