My g/f rang me this morning to say she was feeling down (she suffers from depression) and wasnt going to work. I offered to meet her for lunch, or meet her after work (offering to finish work early). She had a go at me, saying I was just making an excuse to see her.
How can I make her see that I was just trying to be supportive, cheer her up, get her out of the house?
Was I right to offer to meet her?
2006-07-25 23:18:04 · 15 answers · asked by OriginalBubble 6 in Health ➔ Mental Health
The reason I want to meet her is that she has taken o/d in the past, and I worry about her being on her own in the house.
2006-07-25 23:36:49 · update #1
Yeah you were totally in the right. Asking to hang out with someone who is depressed is exactly the right thing to do. Sitting around and sulking aint going to help.
2006-07-25 23:22:45 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 6⤊ 0⤋
I wonder if she thinks you dont trust her not to do anything silly again? Depressed people dont think the same and can become very paranoid, my friend gets like this she thinks i am checking up on her when i am just being supportive. Let it go over your head and keep offering the support, tell her you just enjoy spending time with her. I know my mate constantly thinks that everyone would be better off without her and doesnt think she is worthy of anyones time or effort so i always tell her what a great person she is, a good friend etc. Try not to take it to heart we take things out on those closest to us. I hope she gets better soon xx
2006-07-26 06:55:33 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
From what you say, you were right. But if at previous occasions when she was depressive she preferred being alone, then you should have thought of that before asking. Or if she said she wanted to be alone. Or if you had a quarrel, and you knew she'd rather not see you right now.
Take it easy, tell her you only wanted to try to cheer her up a bit, and if she would rather be alone right now, then it's her choice. I think.
2006-07-26 06:23:58 · answer #3 · answered by AlphaOne_ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dude,
U were right. But when a person is depressed, her reaction is not surprising. Just meet her all the same. Even if she is going to take her depression out on you, it will do her good.
2006-07-26 06:23:46 · answer #4 · answered by ks_anand_77 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should ask her Dr. what & how to do it. They also have support groups for families. I'm Bipolar & I've studied a lot. You can also do your homework on the net & books to help support her. I commend you giving her support. If she takes her meds & goes to talk therapy she will get better I see it all the time. I've experienced this I even had 1 suicide attempt when I went off my meds. I don't get serious suicide impulses anymore.
2006-07-26 06:31:32 · answer #5 · answered by Maui No Ka Oi 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ofcourse you should give all the help you can, but sometimes people need a bit of personal space. Don't worry, things said in anger should beter be forgotten, if you really care.
2006-07-26 06:21:58 · answer #6 · answered by Gungnir 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She must really need some anti- depressants. If I was feeling low I would be offended if you didnt come and see me. You sound like a top guy, just give her a chance to get some help, if not.........
2006-07-26 06:25:28 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
she wont OD we all get times like this i do and just want be by my self for a bit go round tomorrow or phone ask if shes OK don't say can i come round or test her to say babe i love you words are everything knowing someone cares and understands
2006-07-26 19:30:16 · answer #8 · answered by munchie 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u r absolutely rite!! normally when some1 is down and the person they need the most is the person they love..
but you are not wrong.. u tried ur best to be supported and she's not appreciate it then it's her problem..
if she's making noise bcos of that then fine.. don't see her..
2006-07-26 06:23:26 · answer #9 · answered by Cool Z 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Touche!
2006-07-26 06:25:02 · answer #10 · answered by loulabelle 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋