Who sometimes feels he/she is a burden or disappointment to their family and parents ?

Question

If so, what do you do about it ?

Answer 1

for me I have a pretty wide spread family. With my mom, I can't have an opinion or feeling's that she can't handle or she gets extremely defense. Her side of the family has always hated me. I am half black and white ( my mother's side is the white side). They have sat and judged me all my life. They have never done anything to really help or encourage me. They were my village and they completely failed me. I really don't have much to do with my mother's side of the family. I still love my mother very much even though she doesn't really know me. Some of cousin on my mother's side are cool. Mostly I talk to my dad and all my brother's and cousin's on his side. I deal with it the best I can by trying to learn from those mistakes, creating my own loving family, I try to keep company with less narrow minded people
and I moved far away lol!

Answer 2

This is quite common among teens especially. Some times parents truly do feel their children are a burden and would like them to go. Most of the rime it is misunderstanding between generations. If you are different than the rest of the family in looks and attitude then you will be some what shunned by the others. This may not be deliberate but it will many times be there. Some times it is that the child causes the problem. Many reasons and many answers. It may be good to just tell the rest of the family how you feel. Probably will not solve the problem though but it will put it in the openly.

Answer 3

I have felt like this for a long time but I'm trying to let go of these feelings now. You shouldn't worry about these kind of things. They are your parents and they are responsible for you. They chose to have children and thus they chose to pay for your life the first 18 to 24 years. If you worry to much about this, things can go quite wrong in your head, you could start feeling too guilty or you could take over responsibilities of your parents (such as worrying over financial affairs and the well being of your parents). If you really feel bad about your parents bringing you up, go see someone, your doctor, a shrink, ...

Good luck

Answer 4

I ran away at 15. That helped solve the tension. And when I go back everytime and feel it there, I'm glad I did. No matter what H*ll I went through when I wasn't "home". The feeling is mutual sometimes. But thats as bad as it gets.

Answer 5

Chin up sweetie! I used to feel this way too but just as I thought it couldn't get worse it did. Then my life took a 360 I am re-married have a new baby and somehow I am the one that bails my family out now. In due time honey in due time. You have the desire and you will make it!

Answer 6

I did, and then I just talked to them about it. They constantly reassured me that I wasnt. I felt bad about getting Bs in school or not being as musical as my bro. Whenever I got a B I never got a congrads only a you can do better. I reccomend just talking to them and work until you feel like the arnt dissapointed. Because parents never are.

Answer 7

i think every 1 feels like this every 1ce in awhile when u feel like this u can either go talk to someone mayb do something to take ur mind off af it but remember through it all no matter what u do no matter how u take whats going on ur parents love u and theres not anything in this world they would change about u because ur u and thats what makes u different and them love u even more best of luck to u

Answer 8

me i do i cant do anyting right and i dont hav a model like figure like every 1 in my family i fell a very low acceptance level 4 me in my family and i just find the good things about myself and when ever they make me feel bad i just think about how great a person i am and i hope that maby one day thell accept me 4 me

Answer 9

I got a job. Lolz.