i wanna marry this guy, but i dont trust him, he claims that he loves me, he even cries for me when we argue. he doesnt like it when we argue, he spoil me and loves seeing me happy but.... he done and said things to me that i cannot forget. when we first went out he told me he was thinkin of someone else,. so i let him go.the girl h had feeling for went to the army then 5 months later he crawl back to me. since iam a person that believes that everyone deserve chances cause no one is perfect i took him back. so he asked me to marry him.I really love and care about him so i said yes.Then 3 months later we found out i was pregant.great you know but again while i was pregnant his x girlfriend tells him that if he wasnt with me he would be with her that he wanted to see her.and that he didnt care about my opinion.and he said words to her that he said the same to me and the girl he had feelings for.anyways it hurted to know he would say n do that, now i dont trust him n anythin,what do i do?
2006-07-25 20:58:28 · 14 answers · asked by babiismiilez 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
The guy is a loser. Ditch him.
2006-07-25 21:01:07 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't marry him! He sounds like a pig to me. You and your baby deserve much better than that. Don't fall for his "charm" and cry-baby tears. Real Men Know What They Want. Obviously he's confused. You can make it without him, find a man that will treat you with the respect you deserve, and let him know how it feels, to be questioned. Don't put up with his BS Immaturity.
If you don't trust him, what's there? I'm asking myself the same thing. And what curbside says is not true, there are plenty of mature men out there that would be willing to love you and your baby just as much as the blood father ever would.
2006-07-26 04:08:55 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Marriage needs trust in order to work. If you don't trust him then you really should NOT marry him! Without trust you will have a life full of many hardships that could be bipassed if the trust was there.
If you feel in your heart that he really is the one for you then maybe both of you should go to a counselor. Sometimes going to therapy together can help you get through the distrusting feelings that you have.
Good luck!
2006-07-26 07:09:09 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He sounds like he's not sure of himself right now so, you definitely shouldn't tie yourself down to him right now. Don't attach yourself to instability; he has a lot of growing to do himself and without this, he might drag you through more hard times. Don't marry him just because you're pregnant now. You'll later realize that your own romantic fulfillment and happiness means more to you than being with the father of your baby. I'm not saying you have to break up with him because I don't understand your situation in full detail, but you should definitely hold off on marriage. Also, although he may have said he cares for his ex-girlfriend, it may not be nearly as much as he feels for you. Realize that the people who have been around for you in your life will never fully escape your mind and/or heart. But again, you have to evaluate for yourself what the difference is in his feelings for each of you. Take it slow, tell him to be straight up with you, know that you can raise that child with or without him, and let the baby or outside pressures push you into marrying him.
2006-07-26 04:09:19 · answer #4 · answered by Kim 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you don't trust him you have to wonder what kind of marriage you are going to have. You say that you want to marry him but you didn't mention if you loved him or not.
Now people on here, that are all telling you how awful he is - they mean well. He DOES sound awful but keep in mind that none of us know him - only you. The thing is, a marriage without trust seems empty. Love without trust seems empty. And the fact that you are pregnant...well first of all that is the most important thing. Take care of yourself and your baby first and foremost.
If you decide you want to be with this guy, you should always keep in mind that if his ex girlfriend ever wanted him back he would leave you for her. Things like that don't change overnight. Personally I think you deserve better - I think you deserve someone who lives you. You should be their first choice. And you deserve someone who treats you like you are the most important person to them - it doesn't sound like this guy is doing that. Good luck with your choice.
2006-07-26 12:38:02 · answer #5 · answered by ykokorocks 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You kinda answered your own question when you said, "I wanna marry this guy, but..." It's the "but" that's the killer. Get away from this guy. Then go get your head straight. Stay away from anyone who even looks like he might be thinking about talking about the idea of marriage. Take care of yourself and your baby first. Then, when you feel like a whole person by yourself, maybe you can start thinking about getting married. If you feel complete on your own, and you meet a guy who's a whole person by himself, you can have a great relationship. But if you feel like you can't stand to be alone and you need a man to make you feel complete, you need to take a long, hard look at why you want to get married. You gotta be able to stand on your own before you try getting your whole life tangled up with someone else's. Whatever happens, good luck and may God bless you!
2006-07-26 04:15:08 · answer #6 · answered by Dinky 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sweety you had no trust at the start...With out trust you have no relationship...Get a divorce and KICK HIS SORRY A*S OUT OF YOUR HOUSE...And don't look back...You can make it on your own...You don't need a LOSER LIKE THIS A*S HOLE...
You Friend Clowmy
2006-07-26 04:08:01 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
listen my friend.
i think any relation marrige or another relation without double trust will not be good on the contrary it will make many problem to each of u in the future. so try to think well before doing any step.
take care xxx
2006-07-26 04:02:38 · answer #8 · answered by someone 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you repeted 3 times that you don't trust him...
if there is no trust in relationsships it's bound to go down sooner or later....
don't rush - wait if the situation will change and if you can trust him again one day...if not -leave, even though it might be difficult
2006-07-26 04:03:49 · answer #9 · answered by 42 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Uhh...you said "but I don't trust him"...if theres no trust, there's no love. And if there's no trust in a marriage...there will be DIVORCE!
2006-07-26 04:04:44 · answer #10 · answered by acharz 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
trust is one of the main foundations
in a marraige
if you dont trust him dont waste his or your time
2006-07-26 04:03:44 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋