I've been dating this guy I like for a few months already and he constantly tells me that he likes me. The thing is, is that some of the things that he does makes me re-think that he's just not that into me. For instance, since the time we first started going out til now, he's seldom told me what he does or who he hangs out with when he's not around me. I'm a pretty open communicator of my thoughts and happenings, so when I try to ask him, he is very vague. I'm quite concerned because he has a rough past and had done drugs for 10+ years and so I'm bound by this feeling that he might by lying or keeping something from me. I've communicated this concern to him, but he continues being vague. If he liked me, wouldn't he be trying to help by working on the problem? It's been 2 months already!! ALSO...Anytime he sees a hot celebrity or good looking girl, he ALWAYS make a sexual comment like "Damn, I'd hit that". I know he likes beautiful women, but is it right for him to do that infront me?
2006-07-25 20:39:37 · 6 answers · asked by softswtflwr 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
The BIG question is why do you put up with things from a guy.that you thinks isn't that in to you.
Guys also don't analyze things like girls do.
It sounds to me that you are vaiting for him to validate you and you just can't understand why he doesn't. And you have answered your own question....he is not that in to you.
You are doing what many woman do which is find a guy and obcess why he isn't what you need. Instead, be strong and tell the guy that you need to break up with him because you aren't getting what you need out of a relationship.
Two months is hardly enough time for a solid relationship to develop. Obvious you don't like things about him, like how he looks and talks about pretty woman. Thinks about it.........
you don't like that, Why put up with him. It probably won't change.
And make sure you don't ever marry a guy thinking that once you are married that things will get better--it just doesn't happen.
It sounds to me that you are NOT that into him.
Stop the drama and do what you need to do.
2006-07-25 20:51:13 · answer #1 · answered by clcalifornia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, if it's been 2 months and he's still being vague...chances are it's not going to develop into the relationship that you're lookin for (an open, honest, trusting relationship...which most of us seek). Secondly, that probably causes you to second guess everything he does and that is probably not something that you want to do in a relationship. Sounds like you want a relationship with a guy that you can trust and feel secure about. If you can't feel comfortable and secure in a relationship, find someone who can make you feel secure and loved. Lastly, I am a guy and I understand that some celebrities are definitely hot but I have never ever once mentioned that "I'd hit that" in front of my girlfriend because I think it's disrespectful. It's not a crime to think other women are hot...but it's definitely disrespectful to say something like that in front of your significant other. You deserve better...don't settle for less.
2006-07-26 03:51:24 · answer #2 · answered by Apples 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I believe personally if u love some one u should give them all the respect they deserve to have n like wise, i believe according to ur story he likes u but has a weakness of falling in for other women which most men i believe have but should'nt be doing this or showing this infront of u. best of luck ma dia.
2006-07-26 04:20:05 · answer #3 · answered by kiss me. 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
love makes u keep stupid pepo right?stay away from him 4 a while,when he asks u to go out with him,tellin him u have other plans with yo galfrends until he asks u why u are behaving strangly,tell him it hurts and confuses u alot be cuz u wont let me be part of yo life,what u do,where u chill from,so i thot of giving u more spare,if he never asks u,then he is not into u becuz he doesnt care wheather u around or not.
2006-07-26 03:55:44 · answer #4 · answered by lady x 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you truly love someone. Both people in the relationship. Needs to give up things that weaken the love. Because without giving in. Your putting in all you have.
2006-07-26 03:54:25 · answer #5 · answered by lovely soul with insite 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this is indecent behaviour plz dont mind, if he is not responsible renough and dont care and respect you it hardly matters.
2006-07-26 03:43:54 · answer #6 · answered by tiya2raj 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋