ok theres this girl that i had met we were really good friends and everything and then i told her that i liked her and she told me she only saw me as a friend and that she hoped what she said would change anything between us and i told her no well it actually did i started treating her like a friend and she says that i really did change well its because before i use to treat her like a princess but we still see each other and stuff and she wants me to treat her like my girlfriend she gets mad when i tell her that i went somewhere with some girl friends well not mad but upset and like i think she does like me and like yesterday she asked me if i still liked her and i told her that i dont know i dont get her at all i would think she likes me now but then again i tought she liked me before and i was wrong so i can be wrong again what do you think ?
2006-07-25 19:46:32 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
thanks for the advice everyone you guys really helped and really get how i feel
2006-07-25 22:31:12 · update #1
It sounds like she wants the benefits of being your girlfriend (being treated like a princess) without having the responsibilities of being one (being in a committed relationship to you).
It is up to you how you want to proceed from here, decide if you think you want he for a girlfriend or just a friend and set clear parameters with her; if she says no, then she is just gaming you and if you do want to keep her as a friend you need to let her know if that is the case, she had no right to be upset with you seeing other girls or expected to be treated as anything other than a friend. Being treated like a princess is reserved for your future girlfriend, she is just you friend and will just be treated as a friend. If you find a girl that you do want as a girlfriend, she needs to understand your girlfriend will be your priority, not her.
If she throws a fit, you are better off not having her as a friend either, because she isn't...she is just using you to bolster her ego and self esteem.
2006-07-25 19:59:17 · answer #1 · answered by bottleblondemama 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She might just be afraid that starting a romantic relationship will somehow chance your relationship just as two close people. She likes the way you treated her before because it made her feel special, but it doesn't mean she's ready to take the step. She very well might like you if she gets jealous or however you want to put it when you go out with your other friends that are girls, but it doesn't mean she wants to commit. When she asked you if you still liked her, you should have said yes because she might have wanted reassurance so she could tell you she liked you too if she decided she was ready. But, don't just keep chasing after this girl, you already put your feelings out to her, and if she really does like you she will get over whatever it is that is stopping her now and tell you. Good luck, hope I helped.
2006-07-25 20:00:52 · answer #2 · answered by *Elle Marie* 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
to me what she saying is that she wants you to treat her like a girlfriend but she doesn't really like you in that way. Every girl would want their friends that are boys to treat them like princesses. If you want to catch that fish you gotta play a little game because she's playing with you. You gotta let her know that you can't be treating her like that because you have to save all that energy for the girl who wants to be your girlfriend. The thing is, she is going to miss getting treated like that when the next guy comes along and treats her bad, and believe me it is too common these days. You might even have to wait your turn but she will feel in her heart,what she's been missing but don't over-do it cause the girls always like bad boys first,I don't know why!
2006-07-25 19:57:11 · answer #3 · answered by blondearies123 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Man i kinda know the feeling, wierd isn't it?I don't get this type of girl either...the one i knew trashed me emotionaly and then went full 180 on me became jealous when i started looking at other girls... i never quite got it but i belive its some sort of fear that drives these types of girls, their afraid of commiting and geting hurt but don't shy away from taking your actions when you wanted her to be your gf for standard and actualy expect it...
2006-07-25 19:54:38 · answer #4 · answered by Lone Silver Wolf 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
simple,she now knows u like her,do u tell her that u went out with other chick cuz u want to c her reaction,next tym she's upset,ask her y or u can tease her by kissing her lightly,if she kisses u back then u should know she likes you too but just didnt know how to take it
2006-07-25 19:56:10 · answer #5 · answered by lady x 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you like her tell her again. but explain that you like her but you know she doesn't want more so don't expect special treatment.
2006-07-25 19:52:21 · answer #6 · answered by kaycee 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why not have a conversation with her? if you string together enough words, maybe the two of you will figure it out.
2006-07-25 19:58:08 · answer #7 · answered by sinned 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, simple question.....
All you have to do is, tell her how you feel...
Tell her love won't work only from one side...
Means, she also have to tell you how she feels about you...
Tell her...look into her eyes...tell her "I like you, I really want to know how you feel about me...I need to know....
I will be only yours if you tell me that..."
Tell her like that...
She will tell you what's on her mind...
2006-07-25 19:59:14 · answer #8 · answered by Kuku 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋