My Girlfriend recently told me she doesnt want to be with me anymore. what shall i do ?

Question

Am having problems with my girl friend , she is told me that she doesnt want to be with me anymore , that we should carry one with our lives . i dont know what to do because i still care for her.

Answer 1

I think u mst act like a BRAVO.....Its high time dear...U cant force anyone to luv u ,right???Bcoz its a feeling wch comes from within-frim d innermost depth of HEART...I know its not easy for u 2 forget her but i think u r lucky in one way.Think if she wud hav done dis sum 3-4yrs later,it wud hav been more difficult for u 2 face the situation.If u care for sum 1 and if u r HONEST then i feel GOD has made sum 1 as caring and luving as u -JST FOR U,i mean to say ,sum1 made exclusively for you.So CHEER UP!

Answer 2

I AM 47. I have been told the same thing as you in many different ways such as phone calls not being returned, falling asleep on my couch,not caring about pleasing me in bed, etc. There is a saying in relationships: "The one who loves more loses because they are not in control." And its never 50/50! Ever. I would suggest going to barnes and noble and spending a day with a strong cup of coffee and pour over the books in the realtionship section. You need more insight than anyone here can give in one paragragh Dont worry, weve all been thru it. One answer I am finding that works for me is that when you are actively involved in something so passionate in building your career or life, all of the relationship stuff becomes much less painful. There is a saying:Instead of trying to find the right one, try being the right one." For some people monogomy is the only way, for others seeing 2-3 people at once helps them make better choices. Everyone is different.

Answer 3

I'm sorry that this has happened to you, but if you really do care for her, you need to accept what she says.

Love and attraction are funny things. You can't really control the way you feel, and you definitely can't control the way other people feel, so whatever you do, don't grovel, pester and whine at her to change her mind. It won't work, and it will make you look like a fool.

At the same time, you should try to learn from what has happened. Why did she not want to be with you? Did you not treat her right? Were you too needy - or maybe not attentive enough? Give this some serious thought, use the opportunity to make yourself a better person so you don't mess up next time.

Finally, there are 6 billion peple on the planet, and half of them are female, so don't get hung up on this one woman.

Take care.

Answer 4

when people are ready to leave, they do and it doesn't matter how much you care. it appears her mind is made up. there really isn't anything you can do about it, but heal your heart and that takes time. keep yourself as busy as possible and if you have friends, spend time with them. thinking about it, will make you hurt worse and if she doesn't want you anymore, then she's probably not hurting or laboring over things like you are. a break up can be devastating. above everything, take care of yourself and don't fall into depression. you're only inflicting pain on yourself and she has moved on and looking forward to carrying on with her life. i'm not sure what happened in your relationship, but some people can be so heartless. try to get yourself together, because the right person is still out there, you just haven't found them.

Answer 5

I'm really sorry dude, I've been through heartbreak and it sucks.
Especially when you think you've found the one but it seems to fall to pieces. But you have to remember that there are MANY fish in the sea, you just have to look and move on. It's great that you still care for her, at least you could let her know. But for whatever reason she does not want to continue the relationship. It may seem hard at first but concentrate on other girls, because if you pine after her forever, it will most likely go nowhere and you'll just end up making yourself more miserable. For some reason she just wasn't the one and someone else even more perfect for you (whether or not you want to believe it right now) is waiting for you. Still, try to end it on good terms tell her what she means to you, and that you really valued the relationship, and are very sad to see that its over. See how it goes from there. But don't keep going after her.

Answer 6

a million. 'type is the Spices of existence'- adult men continually think of that way. so as that they get bored to death with comparable menu. So ur BF alleges against u. If the man is surely good and has motives to circulate on u, then ok ! while u spoke to some classfriend with a large smile or on a similar time as talking in a team, u could hv ignored him to declare,'hi', that has made the flaws somewhat bitter. So meet him in seclusion and convince him there is no resaon of changing into hotty , finicky, vacillating & suspicious bloke. provide him love and keep away from xtra events ( what the guy doesnt like) and be an excellent female if u dont prefer to lose the man. 2. yet what's a lot in him that u hardship lots, timidly, cowed down and proceed to be in affliction ever ! think of over. If u choose, go away the present guy; hv yet another BF and stay Bindaas !!

Answer 7

That is a question that I'm sure is really prevalent on your mind. I'm sure its hard to think of much of anything else.

But that is just what you should do. Take some time for you. Spend time doing what you enjoy. Make sure you take care of yourself and try to eat well and sleep well.

You can still care for her in your mind, but just be strong and give her some time. Believe it or not there might be someone else better for you somewhere out there, even if its not right away.

Answer 8

It takes two to carry on a relationiship. Try to work out whatever was the problem in the relationship. If she doesn't want to do that, then she's not worth your time, and there is no point in allowing it to linger. Learning to let go is the hardest part of life, but it must be done one way or another. If she's happier without you, then let her be, as you may be as well.

Answer 9

Life has to go on. You may really love her and want to cling to the possibility of you too getting back together, but you can't let her take over you like that. As much as it may hurt, you have to move on, find something to occupy your mind. Meet new people, don't just cling to the next person that will give you attention, it might be too quick and you could get hurt again. Give yourself some time to think about what you want. You can't worry the rest of your life over some girl,even if it's love. You never know, she may be crawling back to you. Be strong, and not her weak little puppet. Please don't beg her, and become her slave, or overly nice to her hoping she'll take you back. Just move on.

Answer 10

man, be cool and don't make an azz out of yourself. Be a man and act like it's no big deal and go out and date as many chicks as you can and she'll come around someday wondering whats up. Play the bad boy for now. If you break down and cry and get all slimy melting thingie you will make it worse on yourself and future possibilities with this chick if you really dig her dude.

Answer 11

Run and don't ever look back. If she has these feeling now she will leave you at some point. Would you rather have it happen now or when your even more attached to her. She is doing you a massive favor by being honest. You could have kids together and have this happen (like me).