why am i always attracted to women that are taken? is this a common thing? or is something wrong with me?

Answer 1

Women who are taken are more attractive because they have more self confidence when they're with someone.... they're happy and it shows. That's why you're attracted to them! It's very common too.

Answer 2

Committment, challenge, thrill of doing something you know will get you into trouble... something that will bring attention to yourself without being "real bad". Breaking the taboo, anything that will go against mainstream acceptance. You just figured out that this may be one of the easiest to get away with and enjoy at the same time...
You probably have low self esteem and the belief that you can possibly take another man's woman is one way you can feel "manly". But, and I bet I am right, you have never come face to face with the husband yet, at least with him knowing you slept with or are having an affair with his wife... For that to happen, you would run like the devil was after you. This is from low self esteem, you don't have to really "get the girl", she is not available to "get". You fear confrontation and conflict. When the girl doesn't want you, who is she going to tell, hubby? to come beat you up contrary to having a real committed relationship that goes south and the new boyfriend comes gunning for you... With a "taken" women that is not likely to happen...
Look, get a back bone for God's sake. Go to a gym, take some martial arts classes, get a harley, learn how to work on a car, shoot a gun, do some guy stuff. Look in the mirror every single day and tell yourself that you are decent, a good person, and you can do anything you set your mind to. Accept your failures as failures and not some attack on your personally, then move the hell on.
Finally, Stop being so afraid .... Get hurt a few times..... you will be better for it... and so will the lucky girl that "gets" you...

Answer 3

you are attracted to women that you can't get or it is a challenge to get.Maybe because you are attractive and is use to a women coming after you and normally are easy. If you see a women and notice that she is happy with some one else and doesn't want you, you will want her just to see if you can get her like a game.Once you have had her, she is nothing.Like a game you have completed, it was fun but now you want some thing new and more challenging.It all in your head. I can tell what type of person you are,you are very attractive but games only go so far in life and looks doesn't last forever.In your future you will end up with one of the girls that you dogged out and thought was ugly, the same women will be beautiful and hard for you to keep playing the same games you played with her in the past. Or maybe it's because a women who is not single you don't have to spend quality time with. She only comes over to please you then have to return home to her man.Leaving you stress free and time to call another women over.

Answer 4

Not sure how common it is but I do know it happens. Maybe you feel safe being attracted to them because you can't really ever have them and in the long run it is easier to want them rather than really be with them.

If this is how you are.......you don';t really think of yourself as worthy as being good enough to have a girl of your own.
You are perpetually longing for someone that you will never have. This way you never have to live up to what a woman needs. This is your excuse for failure.

The girls who are taken don't have any defence up to you because they have a guy. You see them - unlike others girls who do whatever they have to do to get a guy-- so you arn't seeing that part of a girls personality - which might be too outgoing and threatening.

You are probably young...your time will come

Answer 5

I'm not particularly attracted to them but I find that taken women tend to be attracted to me. =D
Nothing wrong with that, just watch yourself. You could end up in big trouble if you make a move and the husband/boy friend finds out!

Answer 6

Some people might not really want to have a relationship, so they spend their time on someone they can't have. Like teenage girls have a crush on some movie star, knowing nothing will happen. But they can feel the emotions without having to be involved with a real person.

Answer 7

Theres nothing wrong with you at all. You oviously have a tasted for great girls... seeing as how someone else already thought they were great too! I think you just need to look some where else possibly. Because someone else always finds that great girl before you do... maybe you need to find a way to get ahead of everyone else by talking to a lot of different girls. You never know... when you start talking to one of them maybe you'll find that you really like her. :]

Answer 8

It's called lust, envy something like that. We want what we can't have. Do you ever try to attract these women or do you just admire from afar? It's a fantasy. It's ok and nothing is wrong with you.

Answer 9

I with through something like that but it wore off when they just used me, its a challenge, and I lost a really good boyfriend one time because of something that I had done before him and I never told him about it, Just think that if they're already with someone then you have to share and most men dont like sharing and if they'll do that to whoever they're with then they're likely to do it to you unless they get over that challenge BS.

Answer 10

It seems that maybe you like challenges. Maybe you want to test your skills and what not, to see if you can lure these women away from their spouses. It could be the thrill of a chase, forbidden fruit kind of thing.