How can i get my partner to...(Adults only)?

Question

THIS IS A SERIOUS QUESTION..

I love my boyfriend to death, and i love pleasing him all the time. I give him A LOT of oral sex because he really enjoys it and i dont mind it, but he wont return the favor. He doesn't want to try it, and I'm a little upset he wont do that for me. Its like our sex life is revolving about his needs. Question is.. should I just accept the fact that he's not into eating girls out and never takes the initiative to even finger me and get over it? we've talked but its like he's not listening...Do most guys enjoy doing these things?

***please be mature about your answers*****

Answer 1

Sounds like he is a selfish lover. I don't think you can change that; especially if you have already discussed it with him. Start looking within yourself and see if this is really the right man for you. Exercise your self esteem and make plans to change your future. I know that is a strong opinion, but in my experience, that is what I think.

Answer 2

I'm the opposite , I give more than i receive , to tell the truth , i really love being down there on a woman who enjoys it , but i also get little in return.
Naturally , after spending time down stairs , intercourse happens and both are pleased.
Unfortunately , i think it is just something that people have to live with , there are those who find receiving is good , but giving is disgusting , and you can't force someone to do what they don't like or want to do.

Answer 3

The touching and getting you aroused I think he could handle, although maybe just a little unsure about.

The "eating out" part I wouldn't push though. Some men (and women for vice versa) really just have a hard time with either the taste (not that you taste bad or what have you!! no offense!) or just the fact that it is a "submissive" position.

I know my guy enjoys that kind of thing. Maybe you just need to break you guy out of his comfort zone? Guide his fingers around one time, make a game of it - I touch you and you touch me? lol.

Hope that gives you some ideas?

Answer 4

It sounds like he doesn't take this issue very seriously, which makes me think that he doesn't take your relationship very seriously. If he only takes and doesn't give during the fun part, how will he behave when you need him in tough times? Pleasing my lover is, for me at least, part of the pleasure I get from sex. You and most people, I believe, feel the same way. Why are you with someone who isn't into pleasing you?

Answer 5

I am also a male n i think every male enjoys oral sex its girls dont allow there man to do the same.If man loves his women he will do any thing for her.

Answer 6

Tell him you won't give any more oral until he returns the favor. Eventually, he'll miss it enough to make the effort.

Answer 7

Seems you have found a taker, not a giver. No it isn't right, for him to just lay back and let you do everything for him. Part of the pleasure in sex, is pleasing your partner, and it works both ways, you please him and he pleases you. That is the only fair way to do it.
I hate to say it, but your relationship is too onesided, so kick his butt out and find a warm and giving partner, who will please and pleasure you, as you do him.

Answer 8

He's playing you SWEETIE!! One of the best things about making love is when two people are so into eachother that they only want to please one another. If he's not willing to that but is more then glad to receive you might want to check for cameras.

Answer 9

if you can deal with not getting any hold out for awhile and no oral for him till he makes some kind of effert to please you he will want to know why you stopped now that you'll have his attention try talking then

Answer 10

Why should he be the only one to experience the joys of fellatio? Tell him he better start learning self-fellatio if he doesn't go down on you. =)