I don't know what to do with my parents?

Question

i got into a fight and accidently told my mom to shut up which i didnt mean at all, i hadnt realized what i had done after i said it!! Now both my parents are angry and i feel horrible..i just dont know what to do but it's so fustrating! I barely go out, my brother when to college so they pay attention to everything i do and get mad at me so easily...and i jus feel so emotionally tired of always being the horrible child when i totally dont mean to do anything!! i cry so much and my eyes have been swollen for days I just need some advice pleeeease

Answer 1

I do hope things get better. Don't lose hope in making the change.

Answer 2

Hi there..Hope you are feeling a little better by now..Ok..for some advice..Well, we all make mistakes..and mistakes can either be corrected or learned from..In your case, I think both! I think you should apologize for the shut up thing..As for the relationship that is, or isnt maybe I should say, going on with your folks..Please ry and sit down and TALK to them..Explain how you feel hurt, and seems to me you feel sort of "less than". I can so understand..I just wish I had talked to my Mom a long time ago..For years, there was tension..I had such resentments for not being her "golden child"..my sister was...Anyway, it was hard to have the talk with her..It even took more than once..because tempers flared..voices raised..and it got us no where..That is why I say, TALK. You are a worthwhile person..You have a right to your feelings..You are also responsible for how you react or act on those feelings. I have a strong gut feeling you are going to be ok..and it will get better...I wish you the very best...

Answer 3

Well, you should apologize to your mom for telling her to shut up, you already know you shouldn't have done that.

If your brother's just gone off to college, I guarantee you they're feeling that. My oldest is going to go to college in 2 years, and I'm already tearing up whenever I think about it. It's a rough adjustment for a parent. You're probably missing your brother as well, your whole family is going through a period of adjustment.

Try telling your parents how your feel, they sound like they're basically good folks. They don't want you to feel bad, they don't want you to spend so much time crying. If you don't do things with friends you may be dealing with some depression issues as well, so you may need to get some help with that.

Best of luck to you and your folks.

Answer 4

you are not a horrible child. you need to go out more, but i get the impression that you may not be allowed to. Your parents sound intense....just say your sorry(even if you don't mean it) and avoid conflict with them, it's not worth you crying so much and being emotionally tired. Start planning and saving money for college, cos you gotta move out of home when you can. Just don't answer back, and do what they say just to keep them happy, you don't have to mean it, it just keeps the peace.

Answer 5

Well, sometimes it does get real frustrating with parents, but you should really give it some time, so everyone settles down. Afterwards sit them down, and tell them your very sorry, but also let them know how you feel. Explain to them how stressed out the situation is about your brother going to college, and how you feel about they been treating you lately. You might be surpised to find out, how happy your parents might feel that you've opened up to them, and maybe even bad for neglecting you lately. They might have no idea what your going through. Good Luck :o)

Answer 6

It happns to me once when I was about 23 year-old. And I was driving and had a big quarrel with my mom and even scolded her *F.... * And I nearly wanted to kill both of us together at that moment. After I have cooled down, I know I was in the wrong for using the word. I actually bought a sorry card with some 'sorry' words written in it and a flower, left it at her dressing table where she can see easily. She got touched actually and forgiven me....

Try this if you could not put sorry words in your mouth which I know it is hard.... It is so much easier to express in this way. Hopefully this could help you...

Answer 7

Just like you expressed yourself here, is exactly what you need to say to your parents...especially your mom. She probably has no idea how badly you're feeling. And you need to let her know that you realize your behavior wasnt appropriate. We arent always as nice as we should be when emotions become involved. It's easy to discuss things when we arent upset.
But disagreements usually involve being upset. So i'ts a vicious circle. I'm sure they will understand. You just need to realize that you all love each other and disagreements will arise, no matter how much family members love each other. Apology and forgiveness soothes many wounds. Please sooth your wounds. It's really lousy being sad and unhappy. Especially when you're able to fix it! Take care, and give your mom a loving HUG!

Answer 8

It's called the "almost empty nest" syndrome. Most older parents do this when one child goes to college and the younger one is at home. they tend to get overly protective and thier nerves are rattled a bit cause they have to worry about what's going on in thier college kids life, are they ok, are they home sick, hungry, ect..... don't try and let it get to you too badly. they don't mean anything by it, they are just living with the knowledge that one day soon you will be gone to college too. It's rough being a parent, but you have really opened my eyes up to kids point of view and for that i say thanks!

Answer 9

Dear zuki,

crying is not the solution..u have to apologize for ur behavour to ur parents..and they are definetly going to forgive u..coz parents are like this...just keep in mind they were hurt too..they didnt accept this behavour from u....u go to ur mom and say that how important she is for u and how horrible u r feeling from getting detached from u then she will realise that how soory u r and how much u love her.And u als ensure her this wont happen again.

Good Luck

Answer 10

You need to seat down with both parewnts and tell them you are very sorry about everything. They need to start trusting you, Tell them to give you another chance and they just have to learn to let you do things. They just might be up set with your brother gone. . So they have more time to look at you. You might of had it to easy up till now.. They sound like good parents , you all just have to learn to adjust to things. Pem

Answer 11

Try appologizing for the bad behavior and ask if you can all start over and be friends. maybe suggest going out for a burger since it is lonely without your brother being at the table.