Where can I find a good program or book to teach my 9 yr.old daughter manners and social proper behavior?

Answer 1

Miss Manners' Guide to Raising Perfect Children. It's not only good, sound advice, it's very, very funny!

Answer 2

The best place for a child to learn manners and social behavior is from her parents and family. Childern watch and learn everything from just seeing what u do. Make sure u are using proper manners and good social skills and u will give her a head start in life.

Answer 3

No offense, but children should learn thier manners from their parents and not from school! If she doesn't act properly, it either means she has had bad examples (from the home or from outside the home: friends, other relatives) or that she hasn't had enough examples (maybe you should spend more time together, on the weekends, if you have a job).
Conduct schools are up-tight, unnatural and unrealistic and you don't want children acting like that. And sometimes, proper social behaviour is a mask behind which not so nice people hide!

Answer 4

Personally, I read "Miss Manners Guide to Excruciatingly Correct Behavior" to get a feel for manners. It is a detailed reference book, filled to the brim with excellent articles that cover a vast array of social settings and how to respond properly in any given situation.

In fact, there are several sections of the bible-thick-book dedicated entirely to parents; it covers acceptable and unacceptable behavior for children according to what is expected of their age: from toddler, through teenage and young-adult years.

I want to express my appreciation for parents like you who make the effort to instill proper behavior into their children from an early age...however, if I may give but one advice:

I would like to pass on the idea of "living by example" as the best teacher for any child.

We live in times where lack of manners is the trend for many young adolescents, or so it seems. It is in my belief that it is largely due to the lack of proper parenthood that the majority of people my age behave the way they do.

Parents who are most successful in this area you seek to conquer are prime examples of what they preach.

In doing so, they are not only able to place proper social behavior into their family, but are able to create children who have a sense of self-pride in who they are –enough that they themselves take the initiative to do the right, to be different and act properly in pressuring social environments, because they have learned through their parent’s good example that it is a part of their identity that they want to keep, rather than discard once they reach more turbulent years.

I hope you do not take any offence in what I have just said; my intentions are not to accuse, but rather to help: an expression of something which I have learned from personal experience.

Being a young man of only 20 years, I would like to say that how my parents behaved made the greatest impression to me, and was far more valuable than any book or program they ever purchased.

On that note, I wish you the best of luck.

Answer 5

Actions really do speak louder than words. Parental role modeling helps teach children to be caring and kind. In fact, some studies show that children can show signs of empathy and concern from a very early age. In other words, parents have the power to nurture, guide, show and instill -- to teach kindness, responsibility, and gentleness in a rude and angry world.

Social skills are important in all aspects of your child’s life, from the playground to the classroom to the workplace. Social skills help others feel comfortable with us and help us make friends. These skills help us resolve conflicts in a healthy way. You can help your child learn social skills they will use for the rest of their lives -- tips from the Yuma Sun.

It's agreed: manners need to be taught. And teaching your children manners gives them "lifelong survival skills" according to one etiquette expert. In fact, "kids who don't have social graces are likely to have a more difficult time with friends, family and teachers." Today's Parent offers helpful advice for parents who want their kids to have some degree of civility.

Between the ages of 2 and 5, your child is most receptive to learning the rules of polite conduct. "When children are very young," says Linda Altman, a Georgia-based counselor and educator, "they want to do anything you ask. Grab the opportunity to teach appropriate behavior." In "Thank Goodness for Manners" from Scholastic parents will find some good suggestions.

When children are polite, kind and honest, they develop character -- and also make their parents look good! Here are some tips for raising polite, mannered children who can grow into polite, mannered adults.

Answer 6

You can find many books on this subject at any major book store (Barnes & Noble, for example). My favorite is Emily Post's Blue Book of Etiquette.

Answer 7

Possibly Ebay. Google helps A LOT.

Answer 8

You cant buy that.. you need to give your daughter the best advice you can give her and hope that she makes the correct choices.. a book isnt going to help!

Answer 9

i think the best thing to do is to set yourself as an example,that would be more effective.what you sow is what you reap.

Answer 10

http://life.familyeducation.com/manners-and-values/parenting/34452.html


Look there for books.