Should I give advise to an obese bus rider?

Question

It is obvious to me that people are getting bigger, but the seats on the bus are not. When a BIG rider gets on, it's as if there were an elephant in the middle of the room and everyone ignores it. Sometimes they take up 3 seats. Should I, or someone else say something to the obese or give advise?

Answer 1

Yes ,advise them to go walking,that would be good for his health on the one hand and would also save the other passengers the botheration on the other.

Answer 2

You should most certainly hand out advice to those around you if you don't mind receiving the same.

For example, would you want to enter this same bus and have a fellow rider tell you, "Wow, you look just like a prostitute, did you need to wear that much makeup?"

Or, "Hey, I saw the way you walked, are you mentally challenged?"

No, of course you don't want to hear these things. If you somehow feel that you are cluing someone in on their obesity, then sure. I can't imagine that the fat person who you are so generously advising is entirely in the dark that they are fat. They probably thought that they were flittingly slim and wow, you were able to provide them with the benefit of your insight.

I'm sorry if that seems harsh, but honestly, who in their right mind would want to have a stranger walk up to them and point out some sort of negative trait? No one. Heck, most people really don't want a loved one to point out a negative trait, so no, they most certainly do not want to hear this from a stranger.

Now, should one of these obese people come up to you and say, "Hey, do I appear overweight to you?" Then sure, with tact and some simple politeness, you could educate them as to your viewpoint on the matter. This is because they have asked you.

Anytime you are wandering throughout your day, and you get an urge similar in any way shape or form to the one presented in your question, take just a moment to step into the shoes of the person you are about to address and consider, for at least a few moments, what you might think if someone were to say to you what you are about to say to them.

Love as always,

Sebastian

Answer 3

What are you going to say? Do you think they don't know they are fat?

If a large person is riding the bus, think about the reasons; they can't afford a car, therefore they don't have a lot of money, therefore it is very hard for them to lose weight...now, all the thin people will snort and say "fat people are lazy, they just need to eat right and exercise", but poor fat people have it harder; they simply cannot afford to eat well; lean meats, sugar free or low fat foods, and dietary supplements are all way more than they can afford...which makes it much, much harder (note I do not say impossible) to lose weight.

Another thing, I am obese (325 lbs.), and yet I fit in ONE seat on buses, trains, palnes, etc..yes I am uncomfortable, and perhaps I may inconvenience a passenger next to me, but to take up three seats they would need to weigh over 600 lbs! How many of these people are you seeing that this is such a big problem?

Answer 4

That's an interesting thought. Maybe the obese rider is not aware of their global expanse and the effect it has on the bus tires, and ultimately wear and tear on the highway. It would be good if someone - I choose you - to tactfully draw this to their attention while offering to share a bag of carrots with them, and suggest that with a little hard work and commitment, they could transform themselves from a megaton hog to the body of a beautiful ballerina. Only I don't want to be there when you do it, okay?

Answer 5

errrrrrr.......


NO!
It's not your place too!
Also how is this your problem? Does it really affect your life in such a drastic way that you would feel compelled too?
What if someone on the bus complained about your perfume or body odour? How would you feel then multiply that by a 100 and then you would know how embarrased they would feel.
Don't you think that they probably realise that they are taking up more room than anyone else and that everyone is staring already?
Show some empathy, leave them alone, get off the bus and get on with your life.

Answer 6

No...yes, the person DID eat themselves to this point, but as much as society dumps on people like this, do you think it would feel any better to have your commentary on how their fatness is ruining your world? When you get off the bus, you will go shop for clothing that you can fit, walk home, play with your friends, and have fun----something the fat guy cant do.

Count your blessings, but don't sweat the small (or obese) stuff.

Answer 7

I would really, really advise you not to do this. I am legally blind, and the most well meaning people in the world are always asking me "hey, did you forget your glasses?" I really dread this conversation by now. I'm sure for the people who take up three seats its the same- betcha you're not the first to think of advising them. Trust me- unless you know EXACTLY what's going on, don't try to be helpful to people you've never seen before.

Answer 8

You could give advice to the obese bus rider if the obese bus rider asks for your advice, or if you know this person VERY well.

If this person is a stranger to you, and has not asked for your advice -- don't volunteer it

Answer 9

I wouldn't. Overweight people know they're overweight and take up too much room. Giving these people advice would really do no good. The only purpose it would serve would be to embarass them and make them probably more uncomfortable than they already are. Besides...what advice would you give them? Lose weight? They already know this.

Answer 10

Before you give advice, get the facts. Did this person eat their way to this point? Did this person inherit this condition,i.e. Genes? Or, does this person have a thyroid condition?
To give advice on such a personal matter can be outright mean and hateful, I know.

Answer 11

What's the point? If you're talking about giving them advice to lose weight, it may not be as simple as you think. For all you know they could have some sort of medical condition. Besides, I think it would be quite rude to do that.