Yesterday, I asked guys to help me out,but just joked around, yet Im serious. I am a guy, and my best friend is a chic. We've been friends for years, and have been close,even closer than her previous boyfriends, and now I'm deeply in love with her. I donno what to tell her, please, someone help me out. Tell me what to do, how, where, time, place that I can break the news, coz I jus can't seem to think straight, And what reaction should I expect, will she be angry, annoyed................. SOMEONE HELP MEEEEEEEEEEEEE!!!!
2006-07-25 17:33:05 · 18 answers · asked by The GunnJack 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I recommend not asking her out. Someday the two of you will break up (most likely) and you will lose your girlfriend and your best friend at the same time.
2006-07-25 17:36:55 · answer #1 · answered by nolyad69 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am a woman, and my best friend is a man. Be sure that you are not mistaking your love for her as the love for a friend. I know that I had a hard time differentiating between the two with my best friend at first. If she really is your best friend you should just come right out and tell her. If she doesn't feel the same way I'm sure it won't be difficult for you to understand and the two of you can continue your awesome friendship. I don't see your best friend becoming annoyed or angry because you love her.
2006-07-25 17:39:41 · answer #2 · answered by whoareyou 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just remember... the best relationships start as friends.... ask urself if moving on in ur relationship with this chic is possibly worth losing ur friendship over.......... just as her like hypothetically, "if ur best friend, lets say, was like the perfect boy/girlfriend, would u date them?" something open-ended like that and see what she says, omg i know i would be scared to loose my friendship over (as a girl). and make sure when u do tell her, by urselves that u have NO INTENTION OF HURTING HER hey ya never know she could feel the same way and just be scared........ since u two are friends just ask her the easiest way u can as if u were just having a normal friends conversation with her. i wish u the best of luck relax, i know u must be going crazy. She might be mad, but just stay calm and be the more rational person about it! ;)
2006-07-25 17:42:48 · answer #3 · answered by Lisa S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you askin me? I'd start out slow, asking her on generic dates like off with other friends biking for the day. Don't make any demands, just be there. Keep doing that, until finally it's just you two. After a while, let her slide into the realization herself that you are wonderful together.
2006-07-25 17:46:18 · answer #4 · answered by slippped 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
chilax. omg ok a lot of ppl are saying to not go out with her bc yall might break up and never ltk again. its not true. if she cares about u as much as u do yall will do ok. u never no unless u try. its weird bc my best guy friend just admited to me that he liked me. dont do it on the fone. in person. go for a walk at the park or round tha neighborhood. ask her how she feels about u. she wont be angry with u. she has no reason. she wont be annoyed either. she will probly be flatterd. if it dont work out then its ok dont make it awkward. i told my bgf i just wantd to be "friends with benefits" and it was awkward tlkn to him. grls hate that. it will most likley work out tho. just chilax and let it flow. kiss her. much luck <3
2006-07-25 18:31:40 · answer #5 · answered by kole 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OMG i asked the same question about my best friend who is a guy.Well first tell her how you fell and then even thought you mught be cruched as i thought i would be tell her youell still be friends if she dosent feel thats way for you. she wont be annoyed shell be shocked kinda but in way she probaly knew it was comeing sooner or later,But YOU GOT TO TELL HER if you dont your only hurting your self and what might be a cahnce to be with her, iwas afriad to tell my best friend(a guy) to but then i finaly did it and now hes my boyfriend!
2006-07-25 17:48:13 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
hey buddy first relax you know her better than anyone right? then you should be able to guess her reaction but from experience annoyed and anger where not there for me my worst fear when my best friend told me that was his reaction when i didn't feel the same for him i didn't want to lose my friend he meant the world to me
you may get lucky and she may be harboring feelings for you sorry but the only way you are going to find out is to tell her and I wish you the best of luck
2006-07-25 17:40:50 · answer #7 · answered by aeval_anu 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had a very good friend, who is a guy. And i treat him very nice bcos i appreciate his friendship, but not relationship.
He tried so many times to confess about his feelings but everytime i felt hurt. Bcos i treated him as a friend i dont expect to go any further and i thought he'd treat me nice as a friend that's all.
If i'd fall for him, i'd have told him abt it. Afterall, we've known each other for so many yrs and i'd prefer it to stay that way.
2006-07-25 17:41:04 · answer #8 · answered by UltimateKitty 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think she would be angry, but you have to ask yourself the question is your friendship worth losing if things didn't work out between you 2? good luck wish i had a better answer for you.
2006-07-25 17:38:46 · answer #9 · answered by countrygirl6183 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dont do it. Girls hate it when guy friends want more out of their freindship. If you treasure her freindship then intimacy is out of the question. Beleive me, if you tell her anything it'll ruin the freindship and then you'll have neither. It'll never be the same. If anything, let her make the first bold move. At least you'll know how she feels.
2006-07-25 17:38:10 · answer #10 · answered by kermet_da_frog69 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋