i need advice and insperation. please help?

Question

today i sat down and realized, im not living my life the way i should. i drink every weekend, i smoke every weekend, i have sex with guys who mean nothing to me to make myself feel better, and id hate to admit but ive lost my faith in god, i know hes there, but i have a hard time believing in him/her. i want to change my life for the better, i say i will but i never get that push to keep it up, i go back to my old ways. i have no family problems, and i feel like im blessed to have the people in my life that i do. i need help, i need guidence, i just need advice.

thank you to everyone who has written so far.i really apperciate your support to a complete stranger. guess i should add that i am 19 years old

Answer 1

Remind yourself every day that you're a strong person. Stop doing those things! Know that you are too good to be abused like that... especially abusing yourself. Remember the good times in your life and hold them dear, because the only way to keep having them is to become a better person. We all struggle, you just have to look at each day as a new beginning. Peace and good luck to you.

Answer 2

You sound pretty unhappy, and I'm sorry. I'm glad you're asking for help because you are worth helping! There is no way I can give you the answer, because that is something you'll have to find for yourself. I will tell you that praying and reading the Bible and going to church is what turned my life around. Even so, I doubt my faith sometimes. Most people do. That's just part of being human.

I can also tell you that I would look for friends who want the same things out of life that I do and who want the best for me. Anyone can party with you, but only true friends will love you and care about you no matter what.

I hope you don't mind, but I am going to say a prayer for you. Even if you don't believe in God, He believes in you!

I wish you the very best. Please take good care of yourself.

Answer 3

I have been there myself, but every day you have to remind yourself of who you belong to. First, you have already admitted you believe in GOD even if you have lost some faith. The enemies job is to keep you from building a relationship with GOD. So therefore as time goes on you end up going back to the familiar things....see the pattern. For the last 2 years I have been going through the 'fire", but I know in the end, I'll come out pure as gold. There will always be tempations, but there is always a way to escape. Read 1 Corinthians 10:13 There hath no temptation taken you but such as is common to man: but God [is] faithful, who will not suffer you to be tempted above that ye are able; but will with the temptation also make a way to escape, that ye may be able to bear ........in other words You are tempted in the same way we all have been . God is faithful. He will not let you be tempted any more than you can take. But when you are tempted, God will give you a way out so that you can stand up under it. God will keep you IF you want to be kelp! Please contact me!

Answer 4

sounds like you know what you should and shouldn't be doing. And what's working and whats not.
Just try to surround yourself with the people who encourage you to live your life in a positive way.
Go back to church. Maybe not the same church but another one-a new start. Keep busy so you cant do the things that make you feel bad.
Start hanging out less with the friends you drink, smoke and have sex with, and more with the ones where you just hang out and watch movies. Make new friends that expose you to different things.
Cutting all that out isn't realistic. it's tempting. and let's face it-fun once in a while. Just cut back. you've realized you've matured past this kind of stuff and it's not working for you-that's okay. and I'm sure if you told your friends they'd understand. and if they don't and give you crap, stand up for yourself, and if they still dont respect you for that...well...you know what they say.
Oh, sounds corny but maybe a dr Phil book. order online and no one will know.

Answer 5

The mere realization of the fact that you are living your life in a way you do not find acceptable is a step in the right direction! So many people never realize and/or never admit it to themselves.
You know what you want to change, I know it's hard. There are so many things I want to change myself and have the same frustrations. I used to go to church on a regular basis, then I stopped going and really grew away from God. I started going to church again (not as regularly as I used to) and I realize that I feel better when I do. I listen frequently to Christian music because they have inspirational stories which I find helpful.
Anyway, I don't know what magic words to say to help you achieve your goals. Just know that you can do it, you can rely on God (even if you've drifted from him), and I'm sure there are so many people that care deeply for you and will support you in your mission. Just keep your head held up high. Tell yourself (and believe it!) that you are better than that! You can do it, girl!! Do it for you before you do it for anyone else!

Answer 6

If you don't get this help and guidance you crave, maybe you're not so blessed as you think. You write as though you are ashamed of the things you feel. There is always reasons for what a person feels. But I would stop. Just stop. I mean give trying to solve your problems a rest. Just stop. You don't know what your problems are. Just stop and let it come to you. Do nothing for a few weekends. Lie in bed and let you mind go where it will.

Answer 7

I was in the same situation as a young woman. It can be a very sad and lonely existence. As hard as this might seem you probably should change the group you hang with. Read some books ~~Pilgrims Progress helped me alot. God is there. You are just going through a test ~~~ It's the time in your life where you have to take control and move in a healthier direction. Try going to a church ~~~ I like to go when no one is there and just meditate.

Answer 8

Don't be stressed because in same position all of been in this situation., this is the time to turnover of all your problems., Live for others help poor peoples, Start studies., get high marks and be a good human. In India we are suffering for food. In poverty we are in smiles and happy. Because we want to live., our love and affection with others never be changed., Careful dont take silly decisions., Be high in your life next time while I am meeting you may be good human or good scholar. Ok., [e-mail] this is email address., If any help ask me [phone] Ok be brave

Answer 9

how old are you ? where is your mother and father? i just want you to know that i used to be like you im only 18 though. i was about 13-14-15 then i quit.
after a while it got old everyone calling me names and being mean. my friends all turned on me and now they wanna kick my azz. but i mean its hard to stop doing something when its your thing. i would drink every weekend faithfully i never got high on pot though.
but i found a guy who was much older than me and he changed me for the better.
i dont know how to help you. you have to find it inside yourself.
i really hope you can stop, because there isnt a cure for aids.

Answer 10

Maybe you should try to find a new group of friends! I was like that when I was younger, I was doing much worse. I have tried every kind of drug besides crack and herion, Hate to say it but if it wasn't for my friends I would have never done that. Try going back to church. Talk to your pastor. Even your parents. Yes they might get mad because you have done some of these things, but they will be greatful that you have come to them for advise! If you fill awkward to do that, Talk to a preacher. Call a 18800 number for girls and bys hot lines! You'll find your vibe dont worry.