the other day my parents found out that i was cutting (my arm) and they seemed really concerned and everything, but its been almost a week now and they havnt mentioned it again. At first i thought it was a good thing, but now im thinking, maybe they dont even~~~care! and now it seems like i was just doing it for attention, (which i WASNT) but still, idk. if it was my kid cutting, i would want them to get help, not just leave it alone!
2006-07-25 17:01:51 · 30 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Other - Health
Kandy, I am so sorry you are cutting yourself. I cut myself when I was in my 20s, and no one ever really understood what I was going through. Most people I confided in were irritated with me and didn't want to hear about it.
That being said, I think your parents are in denial because they are scared for you. Some people get really scared when they find out someone cuts because they don't understand it, and your parents may very well be wondering what they did wrong to make you so unhappy.
I know and you know you aren't doing it for attention, but that you do get some relief emotionally from doing it. Please, please tell your parents that you want some help. I'm sorry that they didn't hug you and do something to help you the first time, but give them another chance, okay?
2006-07-25 17:09:23 · answer #1 · answered by No Shortage 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You may not like hearing this but often times when someone inflicts injury to themselves it is a cry for help. This cry can be for a whole multitude of reasons but it is a serious effort and does need to be addressed immediately.
Your parents may have thought it was a harmless things kids do or they may be so caught up in their own problems they cant see past them.
First think real hard what it is that's bothering you, ask a close friend that knows you real well or pray about it if you know the Lord. A kind, loving youth pastor can be very helpful to bounce things like this off of. Then get help. This means getting some good counsel on how to deal with this dilemma from a wise source (counselor, pastor, older trusted friend like a grandmother).
Dont let this slide, it is serious and could develop into a much worse situation.
2006-07-26 01:00:04 · answer #2 · answered by foxray43 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If they are human at all, then they definately care about you. It's quite a difficult topic to talk about...and either your parents have been unable to cope with this occurrence themselves (maybe still in a state of shock) and have been unable to talk hold of the situation, or maybe they think it is best to bring up such a stressful topic, because of the chance that it might upset your emotion even more....
I dunno, but I hope it all works out in the end.
Please, find something physically or mentally challenging to distract yourself....some great advice is turn off the tv and computer for a little bit, go jogging with anybody you know, and get some lunch or sumtin', just think positive.
2006-07-26 00:10:05 · answer #3 · answered by krayzebboy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you want attention, even now. Maybe your parents are trying not to reward your behavior by giving you what you want. Cutting can be addictive because your body produces a drug like hormone when you do it. If you feel like cutting, go for a long run instead. Your body will produce the same chemical. Runs suck but so do cuts, that's why your body makes the chemical.
2006-07-26 00:10:54 · answer #4 · answered by goose1077 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well i had a friend with the same problem. so i suggest you stop if possible. i know it maybe hard to. now your parents do care about you. they might not say any thing, to you cause they might think if they say any thing you'll get mad a cut your self more, but you should sit down and talk to them about it. seek help there's a lot of different things to help like hot lines & groups.
2006-07-26 00:14:49 · answer #5 · answered by Pidg 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think your parents love you. Their continued silence about your self-mutilation is probably to due to the fact that they don't know how to help you. You probably freaked them out big time. Rather than waiting for them to ask you about it, don't you think it would be a good idea if you sat down with them and told them in plain English what is bothering you? Give them a reason why you cut yourself. If it wasn't for attention, then why'd you do it?
2006-07-26 00:12:29 · answer #6 · answered by Call Me Babs 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your parents could be so scared and worried for you, but don't know how to act and bringing it up in conversation might make you do it again. So maybe they're watching you but keeping quiet until you ask for help yourself. Parents don't always know whats best, parenting is a learning experience that never stops. If you are having problems talk to them or someone please.
2006-07-26 00:17:07 · answer #7 · answered by unwise_blonde 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They care! They don't have a clue how to help you. Kids don't come with an owner's manual. Parents have to learn on the fly just like everyone else, and they make mistakes just like everyone else. If you're not sure if they even care, ask them.
2006-07-26 00:11:41 · answer #8 · answered by Mom Z 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When you go back to school, maybe you should see a counselor. Perhaps if you need help, you will have to get it yourself. Some parents don't know what to do. My mother was always more concerned about how I reflected on her.
2006-07-26 00:08:49 · answer #9 · answered by Mr. Bodhisattva 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You probably freaked them out. I am sure they just don't know how to handle what they saw. No one wants to believe that their child has a problem. And you do, no offense. You need to get help and learn how to handle your emotions in a healthy way or you will have emotional problems all the way through adulthood, only in different ways. Trust me I know.
Your parents prob. love you very much.... Talk to them!
2006-07-26 00:07:41 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋