my 2 year old daughter is so mean can anyone tell me what to do?

Question

My 2 year old has an older sis 7 and a younger bro 8 months and from the day she was old enough she has been a demon she bites hits yells screams and no matter how we disapline her it does not work. 1 minute she is a little sweetheart the next she;s turns into satin( lol) i know my husbands side of the family runs Bi-polar but not my husband i don't know what to do i have asked the dr about it he says its normal but my oldest was never this way she gets into and climbs on everytrhing no matter what we do it dont help help me please asap before i go insaine LOL

I have talk to her dr about it and he said we will just wait and see. as for the bitting i do bite back but does no good i have done the time outs and stuck with it even put her in a diff room takin away toys and much more my nephew who is now 8 was the same way from the time he could walk he was just diagnosed with bi polar she has other probs too such has gurd kidney reflux and sleep apnia she was born early i have run out of ideas of what to do i have had to put chains on the doors to the outside to keep her from running off and locks on the cuboards and even the fridge my husband and i thought it was cause she is a middle child and have made out certian times every day just for her still no progress. she drinks coffee with my husband in the morn nothing. this is not normal for a 2 yr old girl not the trerr. 2s
ps sorry about the spelling not the worldest best speller lol thanks everyone

Answer 1

If its that bad you need to get her evaluated by a specialist. Check out websites on autism, add, adhd,etc...many of them will have checklists for you to print out so you can show the doctor what her symptoms are...dont give up, my son was misdiagnosed repeatedly until a school social worker noticed a certain pattern of behaviors and suggested I get him tested for autism.

Answer 2

My son went through that stage too. For about 2 1/2 years! He's 3 1/2 now. He was esp. bad around other children or when he was cranky, didnt get what he wanted, etc. I NEVER NEVER thought I could discipline like I did then. He bit his friend, I bit him back (not breaking skin or anything, just enough to stun) He threw a toy, automatic 2 min in time out (I had to forcefully hold him in the corner, but the easiest is the "naughty step" I just used the first step on the landing or a stool wherever I was) I would also put the toy out of sight for the whole day and remind him why he lost it by saying " You know, I wish you could play with your airplane, but its away because you threw something at mommy" Yelling does not help the situation. It just feeds into her energy. Make her stay in whatever punishment you are giving her and remind her why she is there. I did it to my son by saying "You are still on the naughty step because it hurts mommy (or whoever) when you throw something at me (or bite, hit, yell, steal a toy, etc.) You cant let your other children discipline him, you and her father should be the only ones to do so. It has to be consistant, even thought this is quite difficult in the store or during dinner time. In the store I would leave the cart with my husband or vice versa and stand outside on the sidewalk and tell my son why he wasnt allowed to help shop right now. Also, whenever he would share nicely or be VERY nice I would give him a treat (toy, snack, whatever). That helped a LOT too!!

The biggest things are... Patience, CONSISTANCY CONSISTANCY CONSISTANCY, being firm with all punishments, and reminding her during the whole punishment why she is there. Oh, one more thing, when I would give the toy back the next day I would remind him "You will lose this again if you throw (or whatever he did previously). Good luck, and remember it is just a stage, but if not corrected now it will continue!!

Answer 3

IMMEDIATELY make an appointment for a psychological evaluation!!! Make an appointment for a complete blood work up. Discuss these issues and the Bi-Polar that runs in the family.

My husbands supervisor at work has a daughter that is the SAME WAY. She would get on top of the teachers desk at school and threaten to throw chairs at her!!!

Ultimately they just recently put her on Prozac. A different girl. She has made an immediate improvement in the past 2 months. She is 8/9/10 yrs old.

Answer 4

Only advise I can give you comes from the golden rule -do onto others as you would have them do to you - treat her as she is treating others, be very careful not to reinforce unpleasant behavior with extra attention because then she will do more to get the attention, and always make the punishment fit the crime as close as possible - granted with hitting and biting it is very tough - maybe for biting she will get soup for dinner instead of the regular meal that would involve biting and chewing - just an idea - with problem children you must be creative - I had three and though I was not sure any of us would survive they are all happy healthy and productive adults (25, 20 and 19 at this time)
Good luck - T

Answer 5

I really dont believe that a 2 yr old can be bipolar. She is the middle child, may not be getting enough attention. I would try and pay extra attention to her. Put her in time out and be firm about it when she is misbehaving. But I think that she is just being a typical 2 yr old. If she is still behaving like this when she is like 5 or 6, then I would start worrying about bipolar.

Answer 6

I know just what you mean, except my oldest was that way! DON'T BITE HER BACK like someone suggested. Put a small amount of dishsoap(dawn works wonders) on the tip of your finger and rub it on her tongue and teeth. BELIEVE ME, she will stop the biting. As for the rest, (and I know this is hard to do, I have three), when she is hitting, yelling, screaming... make her sit down, if she won't on her own then MAKE her by sitting with her and holding her until she calms down. Another way might be to take her into a room with just you until she calms down. At two she is just wanting you to herself... attention... and no matter what you do, she knows that's how she'll get your attention. Good luck.

Answer 7

I think that you should get a second opinion about bi polor disease and I have a little boy and I found a really good book it is called spirited child it is a great book and I also think that she is seeking any attention even if it is bad she is probable jealous of the other siblings.
just stay positive for her if she gets mad at something stupid tickle her kiss her all over do tummy farts make the situation fun and maybe that will calm her down and give you some peace!!

Answer 8

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Answer 9

LOL!! Been there darlin! My 5yr. old was hyped up from the DAY she turned 2. She just started calming down when she went into preschool last year. They don't call it the terrible twos for nothing...and just because your other kids didn't act that way doesn't mean anything (spawn of satan?--> she doesn't have any marks on her forehead or anything does she?? j/k) Anyway...just continue as you are, being the parent that loves yet disciplines...and TRY to have patience~~

Answer 10

She might have some kind of bipolar disorder. Such agressive behaviour is definitely abnormal for a small kid like yours. I can see your dispair about this and I totally understand. Maybe you should take your kid to a psychiatrist or a neurologist, so they can give you a better diagnoses.

Answer 11

it could be bipolar, my hubby has it and we think my 2 yr old has it, but it is still to early for a 2 year old to be tested, and way to young to be medicated.
also it could be adhd, again to young to test and medicate, try giving her some caffine or sugar or both, if it calms her down it is most likeley adhd, my doc told me that, uppers have a reverse affect on adhd, that is why adderall is prscribed for adhd kids/adults, it is like speed and counteracts thier hyper tendancies.
try the caffine and sugar, just see if it helps, just not till right before bed incase it doesnt work and just makes life worse!