Hi, I'm a 44yr old guy who is unlucky in love. I'm really genuine, kind, loving & nice so why am i alone?

Question

Since my divorce 10 years ago I had 1 short term and 1 more off than on relationship but nothing really fulfilling. I've been thinking that I must be totally ugly or something because although I can talk to women of all ages, I just can't ever get a 'yes' when I ask anyone out. It makes no difference what ages these women are, they just don't seem to fancy me. Strangly though, women of retirement age and older find me very attractive. So what am I doing wrong? I'm not George Clooney ok but I'm not ugly either, just an average everyday nice guy with a big heart and a lot of love to give, but I'm lonely at times even though I have friends. A partner does make a big difference in anyone's life and I could do with one. I even fail on dating sites to atract women because my hair is receeding (or at least I think thats the reason). Can anyone come up with any answers please. Thanks.

Answer 1

i am 46 year woman i know wot you mean ,i have been single 3 years now i always get the ones that are married .don't give up i am not

Answer 2

Hey, I am a 42 yr old successful female and have been divorced since 1999. I have a heck of a lot to give. I am career oriented and make a very good living, own a home. Kids are raised. They say my chances of falling in love and marrying now are pretty low, so I am thinking about just forgetting men all together.
The thing I find about men my age is all the baggage they carry. Ex wifes, kids that cannot seem to get out on their own, old flames and bad habits. They get set in their ways and believe things should be a certain way. They are not open to new experiences.
Looks is not what I am after, I am getting older too, things are starting to head south. I have gained a few extra pounds. Men who are older often think they are worthy of more than me. I actually had a date start kissing all over another woman who had just lost her husband 3 days before. I was so grossed out. I thought it was offensive. I could see the alterior motives. My age has made me wiser then when I was younger. Usually when a man finds out how much money I make, they suddenly are totally in love with me.
If I could just find some companionship I would be happy. Maybe we are looking in all the wrong places.

Answer 3

First you must ask yourself. How active am I in approaching
hese women you are interested in? Are you asking more than
one woman out per year? If not then this can be your first
mistake.

Next you are sending the "needy vibe" even in the way you
type. To most women this is very unattractive and those who it
is attractive are the wrong type of woman you want. I
recommend that you focus on making yourself happy and work
on your passions. This is the type of behavior women dig.

About the hair. I recommend you cut it all off... The reason
for this is that balding is NOT a choice whereas BALD is a
choice. Things that are in your relm of control you must control
them. Those things that are not dont worry about them.


Ok now time for the real help I would have to recommend a
website for you to check over. It isnt mine though i have learned
quite a bit through it.

Good Luck
Mr. Right

Answer 4

Hi There- I am in a similar situation as a women. First, you need to try and look within yourself. See if there is a pattern in your behaviors, that can or may be "sabotoging" your search. This will be a "self evaluation" of sorts. If you were a women, would you like to date you?
Some women are superficial, and some are not, as far as a receding hair line goes. If some one judges you on your hairline, they are probably not for you. But, not all women think on these terms.

Think about new ways to meet people, etc. don't try to hard, and be yourself. Take this time to work on yourself, I am not saying you have any issues, but maybe look into yourself and think about your life and at what point it is at. Usually, if you have things in your personal life that are out of order, it may flow into your love life. Are you emotionally ready for a relationship? Have you tried dating sites, if anything they will give you practice on dating and you will learn about what your preferences are, and improve your dating skills.

I know for myself, I did get dates, but I wasn't emotionally ready to date. It actually hindered my dating. So, I know now, this is a time to work on myself. I have also stopped worrying about dating, and last week I actually had an un expected date.

I hope this helps you in some way. You are probably a great guy, and that special someone is out there, just give it time!

Farmhouse168

Answer 5

True love/friendship will see past the physical appearance, so being ugly probably is not the problem. Have you tried starting a friendship with a women (before asking her out?)
I would say, what ever you have been doing to meet women up till now,STOP, it's not working! Where ever you have been going to met women, STOP!, it's not working! Shop at different stores, in a different town if you need to. Your gal is out there... you just need to change your search. Slow down and notice those around you, at work, grocery store, all the places that you go often. Watch and you will see someone who has been watching YOU.

Answer 6

If you give out the "desperate" vibe it's unattractive. People are attraced to confidence more than anything else. IT sucks but it's true. Start liking yourself and your own life. Treat yourself to dinner and a movie. It's not pathetic, it's empowering. And make and maintain close friendships. If you have a life that you love then love iwill find you. Appearance has very very litlte to do with it especially for a man.

Answer 7

you don't attract women because you're too boring
You're calm and confident around women who are not in your target group - and they like you well
But if one is attractive, you're so self-conscious that all she sees is your insecurity and receding hair: bad combination
My husband has somewhat thin hair too - so it's not one of his best features, but he is funny, smart and really cute - and the hair doesn't matter.
Next time you find a woman really intriguing, walk up to her with your head high, your shoulders straight and a behavior as if you are George Clooney. Women like to be with a winner.
If you're not brave, fake it - nobody can tell the difference.

Answer 8

A picture and a bank receipt would be needed before I give an assessment...my guess is one of the two or a combo of both has everything to with it (especially if you can't even get a date).

Women still want to feel like they're going to be taken care of: you need money!

And for the super independent ones out there, they want to be taken care of in other domains *wink, wink* soooo are you in shape?


a few tips would be: fix up on you're presentation. get a makeover, exude more confidence and learn how to give killer comments! also get out more and various places!

Answer 9

You sound ok to me... the things I find interesting in a man, is intelligence, a wicked sense of humour, honesy, integrity and for a man to have the ability to make me laugh and laugh at himself. A man can have a lot of sex appeal but not look like George Clooney and its sex appeal that works for me...

What can I say... a lot of my kindred women are very shallow. But not all of them.... I hope you get what you are looking for.

Answer 10

Remember in school, the most gorgeous or popular girl will choose the nastiest guy of all? There goes a chinese phrase that says women loves badmen! (Not BATMAN). So for once, try to act like as though Devil himself is your ally. How's that?

Answer 11

I have a brother who is in the process of going through divorce and he's lost most of his hair and he swears that's why his wife left him, but she was just a hoe! Your hairs not going to matter when you find the right woman she'll just love you for you!