How can I overcome these feelings?

Question

I always have negative thoughts about everything, always anticipating the worst. I constantly feel scared and alone. Why do I feel this way and how can I help myself without meds.

Answer 1

Go ahead and see a counselor. You probably just need a "tune up", but negative thoughts can spin out of control easily, so it's best to get some help before you really have problems. Best of luck, hang in there. There are a lot of people that feel the same way.

Answer 2

A few comments about these most serious feelings/thoughts you are encountering......
There are double the amount of words in the English language that describe negative emotion than positive ones. So there is nothing wrong with you in this respect.....I used to do the same then read a book entitled Learned Optimism.
There is no such thing as fear...........what is fear?
Future Events Appearing Real. Change the picture and you change the events outcome.
I would also follow the advice of one of the other post and get yourself a journal to write in every time you feel this way. The reason for this its called T.O.T.T. - Taking Out The Trash. We accumulate so much junk in our heads and this provides a way to get them out of your system. Last but not least, in order to break the patterns that don't help us it is important to do something big or outrageous in order to break the pattern. Start laughing out loud......or jump in a circle......sing your favorite song out loud....anything that forces the change of state. There is another great book on NLP-Neuro Linguistic Programming entitled Using your Brain for a Change. Read, Enjoy and know from this moment on that your perfect in every way shape and form...you can only get better from here. I commend your courage in posting this question and looking for solutions. Your a couple steps ahead from the rest of the world. Good luck. and HAVE FUN!

Answer 3

All of what you're asking about goes further than "how do I stop...?" It's more complicated than that. First off, you should start a journal. Try releasing your negativity there. Make a rule with yourself that you will only write your negative feelings in that journal. If that means you have to carry your journal with you everywhere for the first few weeks, do it. Then get to the point where you only write at home at night.

And during the day, when you think something negative, say something positive to yourself under your breath ( but out loud) to negate the negative thought.

That's a start.

Also,try the self help section of your local bookstore. They have tons of books on stuff like that.

Answer 4

I have the same problem. I'm still trying out how to fix it.

The best way to do so is probably talk to someone, not a friend, they are useless with this. A therapist is good. I am to much of a wuss to tell my family so I dont have a therapist, but people say it helps. You should probably do something before it gets worst. I started feeling the way you do two years ago. Now I have a hard time just walking into a store without getting scared. So take care of it now, tell a parent, or contact a therapist

Answer 5

you honestly either need a man in your life (not MEN i said MAN) or you need to busy up your life a bit more. i am the most negative thinker around my area.... i always think about the bad stuff and never the good.... i used to do it a lot more and it really was ruining my life. i met the guy i am with now, and since then, i have cut back on doing it in fear of losing him. i also think about what if..... and theyre ALL negative all the time. it is really all in your mind. dont ever take medication for anything like that. i used to and it only makes you feel worse..... and i mean real bad worse to the point where you migh attempt suicide. the way i look at it.... if you always think negative about everything, you never have anything to be upset about when the outcome is not positive..... right? hope this helps!

Answer 6

Having overcome this sort of phase myself, I have a few recommendations...

1) Get involved in anything that you are good at (or not so good at but can improve in) so that you can gain respect.

2)As respect leads to confidence, try new things... Sometimes new scenarios can trigger new moods to nullify the negative ones.

3)Strive to do your best even if there is some suffering involved as being able to endure physically and mentally leads to a completely different outlook on life. Don't be afraid... Try to understand everything around you.

Answer 7

As a retired mental health practitioner with 20+ years experience, I can tell you that it appears to be one of three things. Either your family-of-origin had chronic "dysfunctions" or addictions in it, thereby being labeled a "dysfunctional family", or you have some chronic, purely medical, problem that needs attention, or you have experienced some kind of trauma in your life that you have not "come to terms" with and you need to see a counselor about. My experience leads me to think it's either the "dysfunctional family" issue, which can be researched in any modern "popular psychology" literature and with counselors trained in that area, or a medical issue, such as glaucoma or diabetes or hormonal problems, just to name three. Please don't take my answer as the "beginning and end" of your research since there is so much more to look at. I would recommend you find a well trained counselor (not a psychiatrist if you want to stay away from meds, which I'm proud of you for taking that position). Be very assertive in checking out the prospective counselor's qualifications. They like to hide their own personal agendas or biases, or "disqualifications" (lack of licensing or certifications in certain areas of expertise). This is your life you're dealing with, and the fact that you are beginning to ask questions about it is very healthy. I wish you the best of luck in your pursuit of happiness, and, moreso, I pray God's Blessings on you. God Bless you.

Answer 8

Sometimes it may happen to all when you are in depression or worrying about yourself and future.

Do some regular excercise for relaxation. Approach any oppnent with positive attitude. Be confident what you knows and don't knows. Be polite and open minded.

identify good friends and share with him your feelings and thoughts. This will help you to get rid out of your negative thoughts.

Sometimes it may happen when you are having lack of knowledge and self confident.

Be positive and approch in positive way with smiley face.

All the best.

Regards

P. Ananth

Answer 9

try 2 realize it when u r doing it & if it happens b/c of who u r w/ find some1 else