I was letting my best friends little brother live with me and today he moved out. I had asked that he stay home through the week so that we could go to his doc apts and get him into school (he's 17 and wants to take a GED course) He wanted to go out every night and play. He really made me feel like the bad guy. I was only trying to help him get his life on track. Was it to much to ask of him?
2006-07-25 16:38:27 · 19 answers · asked by kwingfan13 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
His parents are Alcholics and his bro (my best friend) is in the army thats why he was with me.
2006-07-25 16:52:28 · update #1
no, he actually came to you for help, and when you gave it full heartedly, he rejected you.
you kept your end of the bargain, you did the right thing by him.
he is just not ready to do right for himself yet.
not your fault. cant help someone who wont help themselves.
2006-07-25 16:43:51 · answer #1 · answered by Storm 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you already answered your own question he's a 17 year old BOY, his problem is that he thinks he can take on the world and win, by the way even if he gets his GED most real jobs wont even look at his application, if you get a chance to talk to him let him know his best chance for a good job is to finish school.
You did nothing wrong
2006-07-25 23:48:12 · answer #2 · answered by wicked jester 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, you were attempting to set healthy boundaries regarding your expectations related to living with you. He needs a plan and you were willing to help him implement that plan. I take it you were doing him a favor by letting him live with you. You could be one in a long line that were setting limits that he did not want to respect. Don't feel badly. Look at it this way-you went out of your way to help a young person get straightened out-BUT he has to want that too. When some people are challenged they will attempt to place the blame elsewhere. Good luck!
2006-07-25 23:46:08 · answer #3 · answered by trulyone50 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no... its understandable what you were doing. but he is seventeen years old and hes doesnt want to listen to what other people have to say. he just wants to have fun. although maybe a ged course wouldnt be as bad as it sounds because hes already out of school and he prolly wont wanna go back since already being out, although he should, it just isnt the way its going to go right? thats just how our minds work. but anyway. sounds like you were just doing the best you could for him and he didn't like it.
2006-07-25 23:44:21 · answer #4 · answered by peace.love420 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO. You didn't, you were being a responsible adult.
Now you know what parents go through every day. You may have been able to turn his life around and save him, from himself.
Pat yourself on the back, for a job well done.
2006-07-25 23:54:35 · answer #5 · answered by johnb693 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, keeping in mind he's only 17... he probably thought it was great to have no supervision. Well, at least not like parents would provide. Sounds like he maybe took advantage of you. Its hard when we try to help the ones we love, and they dont seem to get it.
Dont let him make you feel bad, you did your part. He must do his.
2006-07-25 23:42:40 · answer #6 · answered by D'oh! 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You didnt do anything wrong, and no it wasnt too much to ask of him....he will have to find out the hard way how to get his life back on track...if he ever does. You tried to help and thats all you can do.
2006-07-25 23:46:48 · answer #7 · answered by ustech84 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is only interested in living in the moment right now, and feels that he doesn't want to answer to anybody. He'll mooch as long as he can to prevent accepting responsibility, or if lucky, he'll move back home and accept his parents rules.
2006-07-25 23:45:15 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you did the right thing, some people have to learn the hard way though. dont put this on you because its not, i had a similar experiance when my sis moved in with me, some people just take longer to grow up.
2006-07-25 23:43:05 · answer #9 · answered by n4il_p0lish2000 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Obviously he wasn't ready to get on track, but that's not your fault. One day he will realize what you tried to do for him, but right now he's just to immature to make the right decision.
2006-07-25 23:42:59 · answer #10 · answered by Billy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋