We always have chemistry when we just falling in love,but after mariied,that kind of feeling no more already,can you tell me how to maintain this thing still have even we are husband and wife?
2006-07-25 16:37:38 · 10 answers · asked by vivinjan 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
You have to make it a priority evey day! I think every newlywed couple runs into this problem at some point - the sparkle will wear off if you don't keep putting it back!
Talk to your husband, because it has to be a mutual thing. Come up with some ideas to spend more time together like when you were dating. You could even schedule a date night where spending time together is a priority.
Tomorrow, surprise him with something he likes: foot massage, breakfast in bed, something a little naughtier.... Hopefully he will reciprocate soon!
2006-07-25 16:42:02 · answer #1 · answered by amarie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have a date night once a week, once a month. Meet at the place instead of ariving together. (Like meeting for the first time) Or, have nights in. Make a nice dinner, candles, music, etc. Just remember that communication is key in marriage. Always be open and accepting with your partner. You should be able to talk to your partner about everything and anything even if you disagree. It's like being mentally "naked" in front of each other.
2006-07-25 16:48:55 · answer #2 · answered by Jeni 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey sweety all you have to do is be you! Dont stop doing things that make you laugh. Dont stop smiling at him and laughing when you should be upset. Dont forget that he is looking for a safe place to not be perfect just like you!! remember that how good is at his favorite thing is what you brag about so dont stop him from doing it so he can still here how great he is! But most of all dont for get that you both have dreams and they may not be the same. AND THAT IS OK!!!!! All you have to do is make sure you dont let go of your to get to his, or his to get to yours!! That is what cause you to be worth having and that is what makes him worth keeping. Oh and a little bit of spice like a kiss when your in the elevator, a tap when he is paying for your lunch, a picture(that says I have nothing on under this robe) in a letter sent to him at work will keep him leaving on time. A smile when you see him and a pat on the back even when he fails. That is what makes you his favorite and what makes him look foward to seeing you and it keep you be a great friend to be and have!! love songbird
2006-07-25 16:50:41 · answer #3 · answered by sngbrdlwys 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your relationship is different now that you are married. Married is different that dating. It's going to feel different, because it is different. Marriage is an issue of commitment. "Until death do us part" not "until I don't FEEL like it"
So, that feeling of chemistry will come and go. Do things that you were doing then. Date.
You are looking for that "rush". Maybe find some new things that you both can do together. Jump out of airplanes or have <@#$*&> in the backseat of the car or do civil war reinacting.
Whatever gets the two of you to connect in the same context.
2006-07-25 16:44:55 · answer #4 · answered by edaily777 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Many couples go throught this...and the fact that you realize it requires maintainence is a good thing...my personal suggestions would be:
1. start dating again (each other, i mean). find a babysitter and ask your husband out on dates. it can be cheap/romantic (picnics in the park) to fun/expensive (weekend getaways to resort)...the main thing here is to make sure you find time to spend alone with your partner...many couples figure that raising the children is the only thing that happens in a marriage
and once the kids leave the house...they're stuck w/ a stranger...which leads me to my next point
2. make sure you're still communicating and not just about the kids...`continue to share your interests, goals, fears, likes and dislikes with each other
i hope this helps :-D
2006-07-25 16:44:32 · answer #5 · answered by lookin 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think everyone will go through ruts, just don't let it go to far and it will come back naturally. Go out on a date again, or do something together you haven't done in a long time. It may not be the same, but it'll get the emotions going again.
2006-07-25 16:42:24 · answer #6 · answered by North of Heaven 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow, go on www.ivillage.com and go under love and sex where you will find a ton of information on how to maintain a great relationship with your partner. You can also subcribe to REDBOOK magasine which will help you a lot. I just love that there are help available to those who need it. Best of luck to you both!
2006-07-25 16:43:27 · answer #7 · answered by Sharon 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
there is a great book out that Oprah has endorsed its called 101 nights of passion there is also 101 nights of great sex. you read it as a couple. its actually a guide book on how to seduce and appreciate your partner. it is a MUST READ for all couples. it makes you take the time to make your loved one understand that they are special and loved.
good luck
2006-07-27 16:32:47 · answer #8 · answered by emismommy01 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Before marriage, u are lover. After marriage, u are like relative. It's just different type of feeling.
2006-07-25 16:45:56 · answer #9 · answered by Tan D 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
do something fun every once in a while. go out, do something special... try something new in bed.
2006-07-25 16:48:25 · answer #10 · answered by miss_coco 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋