please tell me if this is normal?

Question

ok well i am shy and wheni try to talk to my boyfriend face to face but when we are texting i can talk to him just fine is this normal and will it get better over time? its only been two weeks and any ideas how to make this better please help and please no rude comments

i meant when i try to talk to him face to face its hard but not when we are texting

Answer 1

This IS normal... but only because you allow yourself not to change the behavior. This will not fix itself- you have to make a conscious effort to text way less and practice speaking in person more. If you can't develop the ability to have a comfortable conversation in person, your relationship can't last. I had this same experience with a guy who lived in a different city and who I only texted or spoke with with over the phone. When we finally saw each other in person, it was incredibly awkward. Something about the "shield" of a phone allowed me to open up more there and clam up once it was taken away. I don't want you to have to suffer through this anymore! Good luck sweetie!

Answer 2

You are probably just like me, when I first meet a person I tend to be more able in talking to them on the phone and internet. However, I get over that within a short period of time (about a month), that's just my personality.

Maybe once you get more comfortable with the relationship you'll most likely be able to let go of some of your shyness and be able to openly talk with him in person. It's hard to think of things to talk about when you're only two weeks into a relationship, it's normal.

In the meanwhile, maybe while you spend time with him and you start to have those moments where you can't say anything, just simply say, " I'm really sorry if I'm being boring or anything, I'm really shy around you and I can't help it, want to pretend we're texting??." He may think it's funny and cute.However, that may be a unrealistic thing for you to say to him, it depends on what kind of relationship you have with him.

Also, have you ever considered that maybe he also has the same feelings as you about being able to talk more with texting? Maybe if you tell him about your feelings in a casual way you'll find that he is thinking the same things as you.

Honestly, almost all new relationship start out with the couple being extremely shy. That usually always passes with time. I hope that it happens with your relationship. good luck.

Answer 3

Sure, it is just that you haven't developed that social skill yet. Don't worry about it, you will get more confidence over time, and talking face to face, won't be any problem for you.
I'm sure you don't have that problem with most other people, so it's just because, yoiu care a lot for him, and don't want to make any mistakes.
When you are texting, you can think things over in your head, and get it all right, before you hit the send button. We can't do that when we talk face to face.
Although, I sure wish, some people could think before they speak.
Don't worry, you will be fine in time.

Answer 4

Some people are able to express themselves better by typing or writing. I know what you mean by being shy .

Shyness is something that you slowly overcome. It won't come to you overnight. You just have to learn to be confident and encounter him face to face. He's your boyfriend for a reason and you should consider that.

I used to be very shy too and i wanted so much to overcome it. I worked at it, I lacked confidence when I spoke to people.

I believe it or not, started speaking to groups of 2-300 people and it just completely built my confidence. It took a while, but I did it.
I felt that if I could speak to a crowd that I hardly knew and be complimented, then I could speak to one or two people and feel good about it

Just work at it, one day at a time and remember that he's your boyfriend because he loves you and thinks you are great!!

Good luck.
Hang tight

Answer 5

It's only been two weeks. It will get better. Try texing less and talking more. You may not have anything to say when your face to face because you already said everything in a text message.

Answer 6

It's ok i'd be like that too just text to him that your shy around him and stuff and he'll probabl feel the same way and dont worry about thatbut dont stay there for too long or he might get tired of it and move on to a more outgoing person and you wouldnt want that would you? Just be yourself and say hey how are you doing and just feel confident dont worry about saying the wrong thing he's your boyfriend he'll undertsand i mean if he's your bf he obviously cares about you enough to be with you in a little relationship dont be scared be yourself.

Answer 7

Hey you are not the only one like that. This guy I was dating we ended up breaking up because of lack of face to face communication BUT months later I found his cell number and we texted back and forth for hours. So when he came home to visit we had so much to talk about mostly the texts. Dont be worried just talk about what you talk about on the text messages.

Answer 8

The thing about texting is that it is impersonal. You aren't seeing the person you are talking to, their reactions to what you say, etc., and vice versa. It's more comfortable for you because you, in a way, get to hide behind your cell phone. When you talk face to face you're in a more vulnerable position. Yes, it will get better. The more time you spend together, the more comfortable you will get for sure!

Answer 9

You aren't in a bf/gf relationship. You have a buddy chat that comes face to face every once and a while.

Find someone you can talk face to face with. How many marriages do you know that would survive if all they did was text each other.

Answer 10

The only way I can think of to resolve the problem is for you two to start talking face-to-face more. Just save everything you have to say for when you meet in person, and then just come out with it. After a while, you'll prefer talking to him in person.