my really good guy friend and I wana have sex with eachother very badly, we had a serious conversation about it. its just three things keep me hesitating about it:
1. Im not on birth control and dont plan to be (tho he says a condom will be fine because as a joke he put one on his friends arm, it stretched up to his elbow cuz it was XL-I was there as a witness-AND it didnt break)
2. I dont wana ruin our very close bond/friendship (tho sex could bring us closer..maybe?)
3. I am still a virgin (but my feelings for him are very strong and deep and I know he feels the same)
we tried dating twice, the first time we didnt know eachother or what we wanted from the realtionship it was very impulsive and short lived. we stayed friends after, got really close and now trust one another very much. then the seconf time we went out we thought we were too close of friends to date again but we still liked eachother.we still flirt & call eachother non stop. he says he is "done" w/ girlfriends...
2006-07-25 16:31:53 · 12 answers · asked by look_book_shook 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
he says he feels really close to me like he can tell me anything, I feel the same. we think sex is a good idea, he says he knows he wouldnt regret it, I know I wouldnt either. we hooked up w/ other people recently but both regret it...
2006-07-25 16:33:25 · update #1
Either get married or forget about having sex.
2006-07-28 05:34:49 · answer #1 · answered by achtung_heiss 7 · 2⤊ 2⤋
If you're a virgin, you should probably wait until you are at least dating the person you are going to lose your virginity to. After you have sex, there is going to be a good chance that you will develop stronger feelings for him, and will want more. If he really doesn't want to have a girlfriend, then you are just setting yourself up to be hurt when you want to date him and he just wants sex.
And you don't have to jump right in there and go all the way. Why not start a bit smaller and work your way up to sex?
I am confident though that after you have sex and lose your virginity, your friendship will never be the same. It will either grow into a relationship, or fail miserably. And seeing as how your first two attempts at dating didn't work, I don't suggest throwing away a really good friendship.
2006-07-25 23:43:04 · answer #2 · answered by Irony Of Poe 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I say you should go for it. If you've already dated, and you feel incredibly close to him, who better to lose it to than him. Personally, I had sex with my best friend, we never dated, but I don't regret having sex with him for a second. I'm so happy that I gave my virginity to someone that I care about so much and that I know will be in my life forever. It's not like we're ever going to 'break up' and we definitely won't regret it, because we love each other, we just don't want a relationship. I've actually grown a lot closer to him since it happened, because I can tell him absolutely everything.
2006-07-25 23:41:51 · answer #3 · answered by SeattleGirl 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go for it your heart is with him! Who better to take your virginity than your long time friend? If you tried dating twice & despite the relationship not working out you stayed friends then you can survive having sex. Just make sure you don't want more than he is willing to offer, you may be falling in love in which case then don't do it with him of he does not feel the same. Good Luck!
2006-07-25 23:36:42 · answer #4 · answered by Leididanger 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok, first of all.....sex with a friend....NO WAY!!
DANGER SIGNS ARE FLASHING.......ITS NOT A GOOD IDEA......TRUST ME, IT WILL MAKE THINGS WEIRD!!! I HAD S*X WITH A FRIEND ABOUT A YEAR AND A HALF AGO, AND WE STILL TALK....BUT IT'S USUALLY VERY STRAINED AND NERVOUS.......IT ACTUALLY HAS PRETTY MUCH DESTROYED OUR RELATIONSHIP......HE USED TO BE MY BEST FRIEND....I TOLD HIM EVERYTHING......AND NOW, WE DON'T TALK ABOUT PERSONAL THINGS...PRETTY MUCH, JUST "HOW YA DOIN?" AND THE WEATHER.......
Oh, and as for the condom......just b/c the one he put on his friends arm didn't break, doesn't mean the one he puts on his p*nis won't break either.....they're not all exactly the same.....so, theoretically, you could get pregnant (YES IT IS POSSIBLE TO GET PREG UR FIRST TIME)
2006-07-25 23:37:22 · answer #5 · answered by honey_bear_21_1999 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
all i can say is i had a really close male friend and then we started dating and now we are not that close we dont even talk no more unless we see each other on the street and if you listen to spawn you might as well prepare to ruin your life and get married to him
2006-07-25 23:37:51 · answer #6 · answered by Xtasy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u dont need to be on birth control im about to save u ok my and my girl are 15 and we do it and were fine without using condoms!!! look when u have sex make sure its not during 14days after ur period sperm lives up to 5 days so 14 days after ur period 14 th day is a no no during the 5 days after ur period then u can do it or be fore ur period on the 17th day after u period then u can do it and u fine remember it lives up to 5 days in ur u kno wat
2006-07-25 23:37:25 · answer #7 · answered by SeeKer 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
from the truth he just wants to tell you anything just to get in your pants. And your a virgin and he wants to be your first then hes gonna hit it and quit. ANd then never call u again.
2006-07-25 23:40:19 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well if ur sure u would b with him for ever (like marrage) bc if u wouldnt then u really shouldnt do him.... but if ur sure u love him then yes u should just be careful
2006-07-25 23:49:55 · answer #9 · answered by superbowlchamp75 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if u really trust him and u got a serious relationship then go on and enjoy butttt if u doubt tehn don't
2006-07-25 23:40:28 · answer #10 · answered by kavya k 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋