I am a mother of two small children and both were breastfed. I feel that breastfeeding in public is tacky. Many say that it is a beautiful, natural thing and therefore it is OK to do (in public). However, I feel that making love with my spouse is a beautiful, natural thing and I don't think that it would be accepted so well if we did THAT in public (also it is illiegal). What makes breastfeeding mothers feel that the world agrees that their boobs are something that we want to see? I think that A LOT of those that do this in public feel that they are superior because they recently had a child and want everyone out there to know what a great mother they are for choosing to breastfeed. What do you think about this? I think that they should find a restroom to feed their child and to get over themselves!!
2006-07-25 16:22:29 · 35 answers · asked by witchywoman 3 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
I agree with you totally, except the part about doing it in a restroom - that is disgusting as well.
It is completely unnecessary to do it in public. They could easily go to their cars to do it, wait 'til they get home, or better yet pump a bottle full before they leave the house.
I also agree that they are just wanting attention from onlookers. "Wow, look at me, I had sex and nine months later I'm a somebody!"
2006-07-25 16:35:08 · answer #1 · answered by sweet_leaf 7 · 3⤊ 4⤋
Do you eat your dinner in a restroom? Probably not. Why should a baby?
I've yet to see a breastfeeding woman be anything other than discreet while breastfeeding in public. They all cover up with a receiving blanket or something else.
They have just as much right to be out enjoying some free time in public than anyone else. To say they should just stay home and not go out because their baby is breastfed, or to feed their baby in a public toilet is wrong and unfair.
You say that many of these women who do this in public feel superior. How do you know this? Do they wear sandwich boards proclaiming this or scream out as they're feeding their baby, "I'm superior! Look at my breasts!" I've yet to see this, either.
As with so many other things in life that make people uncomfortable...if you don't like it, don't look.
2006-07-25 23:44:10 · answer #2 · answered by brevejunkie 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Would YOU eat a meal in the restroom? Why should a baby have to? While I agree that breastfeeding women should be discreet and not let it all hang out just for modesty's sake, I don't feel there is anything intrinsicly wrong with breastfeeding in public when a baby is hungry and the mother is "in public." I did (but I did so discreetly).
2006-07-25 16:28:32 · answer #3 · answered by ld 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
The reason people are so opposed to this is because we are taught to feel ashamed of our bodies.
Some women don't pump breast milk because it detatches the bond they are forming with their baby.
Why would you say these women should get over theirselves? I'm sure they dont care one way or another what other people think about their breastfeeding. It doesn't make them a better mother. Does that mean that a baby that can't handle breast milk must have a bad mom? Or a mom who doesn't produce breast milk must be a bad mom? Whatever!!
A bigger concern should be that in some states it's legal for a woman to breast feed while driving a car.
2006-07-25 17:37:08 · answer #4 · answered by rccola1979 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If breastfeeding in public could be banned then so could anybody ingesting in public!! Hell breastfeeding is extra organic then those shoes you have on your ft! i think of this is disgusting that breastfeeding is even stated in the type of style!! So what? There could properly be fashions displaying there advantageous information yet a mom feeding her toddler is misguided? So ill
2016-11-03 00:27:10 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey, thank you SO MUCH for not jumping on this whip-out-a-teat-anywhere bandwagon. I have nothing against breastfeeding--I think it's the best way to feed an infant--but I remember when women at least went somewhere discreet, or put a towel over their shoulder. Now I see bare breasts in restaurants, churches--even funerals! I fully agree with you that there are a lot of beautiful, natural things we can do to bond with and nurture those whom we love, but that doesn't mean that it is appropriate to do them wherever we are standing at the moment.
2006-07-25 16:40:14 · answer #6 · answered by julz 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think that breastfeeding in public is totally fine, and most women are very discreet about it - using a blanket, for example. I wouldn't want to eat in the restroom, so I don't think moms and babes need to be relegated there. Our society has to quit obsessing about boobs! I also think it's good for children who are of different ages to be exposed to this as part of nature, because it is good for both mom and baby. I'm proud of women who make this choice, because it's not always easy.
2006-07-26 01:52:28 · answer #7 · answered by Lydia 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You have the right to think anything you wish. I, personally, find no problem with a mother breastfeeding her child in public. I wouldn't feed myself or my dog in a public restroom, why should someone feed her child?
2006-07-25 17:13:02 · answer #8 · answered by soxrcat 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree with you that too many women are too forward with the breastfeeding in public.
I am breastfeeding, but I am embarrased to do it in public, because I have modesty, and I dont' want ppl to see my breasts, even if they are "jsut a tool for feeding my child" they are also one of the parts on my body that serves a sexual function, and it is reserved for my husbands viewing pleasure only!
I have done it in public once, baby woudlnt' wait a second longer, but it was in a burger place, we were the only ones there, and I was sitting in a really secluded place with my husband sitting next to me and a blanket over my shoulder. It was discreet but I still felt somewhat uncomfortable.
2006-07-25 16:41:36 · answer #9 · answered by Amanda 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think it can be done in a very discreet way. I had a friend who did it and no one would even know even if they were talking to her. My own child wouldn't tolerate the blanket over her face, and I am very modest so I would go out to the car if I was in a restaurant or in a fitting room if I were shopping. It wouldn't bother me a bit though if someone else were doing it. I think it would be awful nurse the baby in a public restroom. I certainly wouldn't want to eat my dinner in there!
2006-07-25 16:31:03 · answer #10 · answered by Heather B 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I was a total breast-feeding fan. Breast fed both of my children till they were 2.
But if we were out in public I always searched for the most discreet place possible to take care of baby. I always carried several large baby blankets and sometimes we had to endure a hot car or a changing room.
I think breastfeeding is way too important to flaunt in peoples faces and turn them off to it. I don't care how many Hollywood celebs are baring their breasts it's still not nice!
2006-07-25 16:29:34 · answer #11 · answered by Makemeaspark 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋