i have a record of being played or being a rebound. i'm dating this new guy (20 year old mexican) and i have no idea how to tell if he's into me for who i am or just looking into having sex. i really like him, and we ever get serious, i don't want to get hurt.
how can you differentiate love and lust?
2006-07-25 16:14:18 · 3 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
When I separate the person from who they are, i.e. a body part, that person has an incredible bottom, or they are hot, I am separating the person from who they are to how they appear/look. I am also idealizing who they are based on the objectification of their body, i.e., because that person is hot, I would like to get to know them, or somehow they are appealing emotionally mentally because they are hot. As I am objectifying, lust shows itself in fantasy. What would I like, what would I like to do with and to them. So I would say when the idealized picture of this person is replaced with reality, IE., who they really are. You can accept and be willing to see past faults, issues, problems because Love carries no jealousy, love doesn't judge, love don't do anything for self gratitude, love gives unconditionally, love is trust, love is respect, love is truth!
2006-07-26 20:25:15 · answer #1 · answered by Wolfie 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
To determine the difference, you eliminate the sexual aspect of the relationship. If you aren't having sex and he stills wants to be with you, then you know he is with you because he is into you as a person.
2006-07-25 23:21:26 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
slow the hell on down. grow some boobs and ask this guy straight out what he's wanting. if you're ballsy enough to be having sex with someone whom you're not even sure cares about you...you should be ballsy enough to ask.
2006-07-25 23:20:08 · answer #3 · answered by importance of being wilde 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋