My dads in jail... HELP PLZ!?

Question

My parents got a devorce and a restraining order (you can't go near the person with the order). My dad didn't follow it at all and than he got a gf and broke into her house after she got a restraining order...And now i'm in love and it makes my life even harder.. sometimes i wanna just die... My dad will be in jail for 4 years and i haven't seen him in a year already.... Any advice?

My parents got a devorce and a restraining order (you can't go near the person with the order). My dad didn't follow it at all and than he got a gf and broke into her house after she got a restraining order...And now i'm in love and it makes my life even harder.. sometimes i wanna just die... My dad will be in jail for 4 years and i haven't seen him in a year already.... Any advice? And yes I hate him...

And I can't vist him.. its agains to law.

Answer 1

y dont u go visit him or something?!! he'd be really glad to see you!!! In most relationships like this it's really awful being away from a person you love and it seems like its not fair because of the situation. It's better if you forget what was in the past and just think more about the future of things! You should always think of the good things that you have! This is just another trial in your life that you need to pass! If you survive this you can survive almost any problem which will come in your life, which will come sometime when you least expect it. all you have to do is be prepared and go with the flow of life. Be happy and never show your fears.
sorry bout your dad though!!! and good luck

Answer 2

Your are a very confused gurl at the moment.
(1) You love your parents but unable to do so because of the restraining order. It is good that you still visit him
(2) You are in love... with some guy but not been abled to tell him that you come from a broken family. Worst still your dad in prison and you have not seen him for more than a year. You are afraid to lose him if he finds you been so heartless to your dad and you are not from a good family.
(3) Dieing -- never have than thought in you ok. Death doesn't solve any anything. It damages all things in fact. It is the courage to face reality and shoulder those burdens that makes you a better person. Seeing the breakups, the irresponsibilities of things happened, you begins to be a better fighter and knows your responsibilities. So face it and approach matters in a positive way. Your bf will prefer such a person as a partner for life.

Answer 3

Sometimes parents act like kids. I sort of know how you feel, my mom went to jail a few times for drunk driving when I was younger. Parents make mistakes and we still have to love them. You just need to focus on your life and do good for yourself. Thats the best thing you can do right now. Try to stay strong and remember that this is something that you can't control. You can't change your dads situation no matter how hard you try.

Answer 4

I'm sorry to hear about your troubles. No kid should have to deal with such a life. There really isn't anything you can about your dad. He has made bad choices in his life and only he can turn things around. What's important now is what YOU choose to do with YOUR life. Please start thinking seriously about what you'd like to do after school (career wise) and start moving toward that goal. Talk to your counselor at school, read books about various careers that you might be interested. This world needs more good people out here and you have a purpose for being here.

Answer 5

Hai dear

Some times things go really worng but when it happens we have to strive for them, speaking is easy rather than implementing them, i know this but even then ou have to work out.

Now listen care fully we here in this world beither to die nor to kill any body but we were here to find out something and some body i sujjest get to the people who are really siffering like you help others in such a way who they need shoulder to leen as you need right now with in few day,months,years you doesnt even know what was your past.

Every Long journey Starts with a single step.
Failures are the stepping stones for success
Bye and take care do not take any hasty descissions

Answer 6

Love your father, but leave him behind or visit him in jail. If your'e in love, tell 'em about it, they might understand, and they could help you, too! Just don't worry, but whatever you do, listen to your instinct, wiegh your pros and cons, and make the right desicion about anything you do, and whatever you do: DO NOT WANT TO DIE. :) I think that's hypocritcal advice.... And I doubt it helped, but my folks are divorced, too, and they naturally jsut don't go near each other, so I know it can be hard. But believe it, things will work out once you reach common ground, how you get to that ground is your choice.

Answer 7

Your father has made a mess of his life. -That's HIS problem. YOUR job is to get on with your own. I'm sure you miss him, but there's not much you can do about his situation- other than call or write to him once in a while. Enjoy being in love- & keep your chin up. Life rumbles on...

Answer 8

Dont worry and chill!! Hey girl I must be between your age and Im really happy you are asking for advice from the community.

You know what, dont worry, dont ever think about killing yourself. There are groups around that are there to help you in this situations.

Call this number: 1-888-TEEN-LINK

Answer 9

I say forget about him. Sounds like somebody unhealthy to be around anyway. Spend more time w/ your mom. Better off without a dad than a psycho one.

Answer 10

Remind yourself that what is happening to your parents doesn't define who you are. You have problems, but you are not a problem. Stay in touch with your father. It will be good to have an ongoing relationship with him rather than try to reestablish one when he gets out. I will pray for you and your family.