We have a 5 year old daughter. Things are going really good with one kid - but what would 2 be like?
2006-07-25 16:09:09 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
My wife and I asked that same question 21 years ago after we had had our first child for almost one year. We both wanted another child, and we loved our first child dearly, so, based on our talking, we decided to have a second child. When our second child was born, we fell in love with her as strong as we did her brother when he was born 16 months earlier. Don't worry. Assuming you want a second child for loving reasons, God's got the "loving-your-second-child" issue all taken care of. You'll be very glad you did, and extremely disappointed if you don't. God Bless you.
2006-07-25 16:17:59 · answer #1 · answered by ? 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, I was an only child and I have 3 children. When I was a child I got pretty bored sometimes b/c I had no one to play with. But, I did get to spend a lot of quality one on one time with my parents. I have a 6 yr old, 4 yr old and 3 yr old. I wouldn't have it any other way. My children are so close and they love each other so much. They play together, sleep together, they do everything together! But, double the kids...double the work! It is a lot of work. 2 kids to bathe and dress in the morning. 2 night time routines. 2 plates to fix. 2 kids to try and spend individual time with. So, it just depends on the family. If you have another....you'll never wish you hadn't!! If you think you want to.....go for it!
2006-07-25 16:39:28 · answer #2 · answered by #3ontheway! 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Having one child is a selfish thing, no offense. Even just two. But go ahead and have one now. It's a good time to have one, two or three after this. The older child can help with the younger one and it's a good idea to involve them in almost everything with the child.
This child could even help pick out a name for the baby, pick out clothes, watch child-safe pregnancy and baby videos, go to the library to check out baby books and such, and when the baby is born have the older one give a gift to the new little one and visa versa.
It's so fun with more kids cuz they can give each other presents for christmas, birthdays, and you can match them in family pictures and have sibling pictures.
Also, they're all SO DIFFERENT from one another! It's so great fun!
I grew up in a house of 7 kids and I loved it. yes, we fought. yes, the house was a mess. But I wouldn't trade it for anything.
My husband grew up with 4 kids in his family and he LOVED it. They were all born within one year of each other and they're all BEST FRIENDS.
So, put your family together the way you feel is best, and cherish it! It's great!
2006-07-25 22:45:05 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's a personal decision. I always thought I would only have one child but I've never actually known what it was like to have only one child. Twins were my first, but I loved it so much now I have four. Any way if you're ready for another one go for it, your daughter would love to get to be the be sister.
2006-07-25 23:37:24 · answer #4 · answered by pebble 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
We have a six month old daughter and are asking the same question-even though we wouldn't have one for the next couple years. We started late, so we don't want to wait forever to decide. In the meantime, I am treating each day as a precious once in a lifetime event-in case we dont.
I loved the response you received from Randy-how poignant!
2006-07-25 16:39:50 · answer #5 · answered by jacqueline 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
5 is a great age to have another sibling, she would love to help out with the little one! it's not a big difference with 2, but it's just going through everything again, like getting up in the middle of the night, and bottle feeding, etc. i wish i had another child when my son was 5, but i didn't think i would love another child like i love him and now he's 8 and where trying to have another baby, so that's a huge difference in age, i say go for it! good luck!!
2006-07-25 16:39:49 · answer #6 · answered by ti'lee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well 1 kid is not enough especially for the child you have , so the family dynamics are just as great as they are with 1 only twice as great
2006-07-25 16:13:37 · answer #7 · answered by jojo 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have six children and if I waited until I could afford them I would never have any, my husband and I both have college degrees and even with two incomes it is still a challange. so answer this how would your daughter feel growing up without a brother or a sister to share with, I am one of 13 and survived just fine.
2006-07-25 17:53:44 · answer #8 · answered by osu2720@sbcglobal.net 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋