how do I divert attention from my self so as to remain a virgin at university?

Question

i come from a religious background and i dont want to compromise what i believe just because i attend a public university. i'm 18 next month and am super outgoing. what do you think? hahah the thing is... i dont know if i'm put in a compromising situation if i would say no... so it has to be before then. i mean i havent even kissed a guy. i've been not allowed to date. :(

Answer 1

Tell everyone you have an STD, that will keep the boys and girls away!

Answer 2

When dude comes up and asks you for a date, tell him simply: I'm sorry; I don't date." When he asks why, you tell him simply, "Because I am a virgin and I am waiting for marriage."

When someone says, "You don't buy a car without test driving it first," you say, "Yes, but you don't buy the test drive model, you buy the one that's never been driven before."

When someone says, "If you don't date, how will you recognize that person that you're supposed to marry," you say, "Because I prayed and asked God to pick the right mate for me, to bring him into my life at the right time, and to tell me when I've found him." And then of course, make sure you do ask God to do this for you, because He will, if you ask.

I can say this definitively because this is what I did. I didn't date and I just expected that God would bring me my mate and let me know it. I even had a 22-point list of the qualities I wanted him to have. The day I met my husband, God spoke to both of us at the same time. We were engaged six hours after we met and married two and a half months later. Seven years and three kids (and a dog) later, we're still going strong. I was 29, and a virgin. And quite cute.

Answer 3

If you really want to remain untouched, then you have to let your fortitude be your guide. Don't drink too much so you can keep your guard up. Stay away from compromising situations and keep your mind on the big picture.
Be well aware that mostly all guys just want to get laid and think before you leap. Think how you will feel after wards...especially if it was a jerk. Remember why you're there. You will have plenty of time later...when you're more prepared and more settled in your life.

Answer 4

Try to avoid parties where a lot of guys will be. There are a lot of date rapes at universities and colleges. You may think a guy is being nice by bringing you a drink, but he could have put drugs in the drink that will make you pass out and then he can rape you. In other situations just tell any guys that start hitting on you that you aren't interested in having sex.

Answer 5

I'd suggest pretending to be a guy, but then you might get passes made at you by other women or by gay men. Or you could wear a button saying "Sorry, I have AIDS", but then people who also have AIDS will make passes at you. Gaining a lot of weight won't work, there are guys who like that. So I think the only solution is to wear a chastity belt and leave the key with your parents or your pastor.

Answer 6

Why not just be you? Cultivate some good girl friends and hang with them. Have them hold you accountable by being with you whenever you are going to be around guys. Don't put yourself in the situation for the temptation and you'll never have to worry about what to do when it happens, because it won't. I'M PROUD OF YA! Stay true to yourself, be proud of your virginity and remember: You can become like all the other girls who aren't virgins at any time YOU choose, but they can never again be like you!!!

Answer 7

First of all, don't wear any skimpy clothing. Cover your body tastefully so you don't draw unwanted attention to yourself. Then, focus on your studies and extra circular activities. That way, you won't have time for doing something you might regret. And last, just don't let yourself get into a position where you might be tempted to go against what you believe in. If you really want to stay a virgin, stay in a group with other girls. Never let yourself be alone with a guy. (If this is what you want). More power to you and good luck with it!

Answer 8

Dress conservatively and don't ever under any circumstances allow yourself to be alone with a guy, especially a guy you are attracted to. If you stay in groups, you are much less like to give in to temptation.

Answer 9

Sweetheart, hearts off to you. The situation you are in is perfect. Maintain your virginity until your career has began. Tell the guys butt off and mean it. I did it whilst I was attending college. When I left college I started dating and I felt I should have waited still. Good luck, but you can hold on still.

Answer 10

it all depends on how far u will go b4 losing ur virginity
if u tell a guy in college, he probably wont like u all that much any more
in college, all guys want is to get laid
if u wont to stay a virgin, go to a school with lots of smart kids who are also virgins

Answer 11

Join a good sorority. Most of the good ones are extremely difficult to get in the sack, so obviously they are helping each other.