parents have money, but said were to young (25) and my parents are already paying for most things. his parents think we have to do it on our own, no help ! i dont know ?
2006-07-25 15:31:47 · 11 answers · asked by going crazy 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
apply for a loan. you should be able to get alot of cash gifts at your wedding. just ask for cash gifts.
2006-07-25 15:34:55 · answer #1 · answered by bluepuddle 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Personally, I don't think 25 is too young to get married. Have your fiancee ask his parents for a possible loan, that you MUST pay back as quickly as possible. However, I'd take another good hard look at the budget, and try to cut costs somewhere before asking them for financial help. You don't need to feed people an elaborate meal, you can get a cake and punch and call that a reception, or just do hor d'uerves and cake. Cut some of the floral budget, that's usually another expense that can quickly get out of hand. I would strongly advise against getting a loan, you don't need to start off your lives together in debt. You're going to have a lifetime of having to figure out how to live within a budget, there's no better time to learn than while planning the wedding. Best of luck to you both.
2006-07-26 01:34:51 · answer #2 · answered by basketcase88 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was 24 when I got married and my husband was 23 and we've been married over 12 years. Obviously you aren't going to ask his parents for money. They have already made their view very clear. They don't want you getting married. I agree with the person who said that if you can't afford the bash, don't have the bash. You should not under any circumstances go into debt to have a wedding, that's just stupid. Cut back on the number of guests or don't serve a full bar, just wine and beer. Have a cake and punch reception,. Also, I would find out the real reason his parents don't want you to marry, because the age thing is ridiculous, what's their real problem?
2006-07-26 01:43:44 · answer #3 · answered by maigen_obx 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you can't afford to throw a wedding bash, then you shouldn't throw a wedding bash!!!
Simplify! You can give the guests punch and cake. No one ever said that the wedding guests HAVE to get a meal! Keep it simple.
Oh yeah, going into debt just so that you can impress a bunch of people is a real great idea! Do you really want to start your marriage off in debt??? Or do you want your parents to go into debt so that you can have a party?
2006-07-25 22:35:32 · answer #4 · answered by grahamma 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Neither of your parents owe you anything. If your parents want to help you, be grateful! If his parents don't, you don't have the right to be angry. If you are old enough to be getting married, you are old enough to throw your own wedding. Maybe you can offer beautiful, delicious hordourves instead of buffet or sit down dinner. You show them! Be mature, take responsibility, and you throw a beautiful wedding that you can afford. In the end, you and your husband will be glad that you did not get yourself or your family in debt. Happy wedding planning!
2006-07-26 03:54:55 · answer #5 · answered by MegMaher 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have a potluck reception after the wedding. I've been to a couple of weddings like this. I think that its perfectly fine and you get all kinds of good food. Maybe when you mention this one of your parents they will be so upset that your thinking of doing this that one of them will come up with the cash if they really don't want you to do this. Then have your cake and punch after your meal.
2006-07-25 22:41:36 · answer #6 · answered by unicornfarie1 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well dont pegg them because then they are going to throw it on your face not theres son but you. if you dont have money to pay for a wedding then why are you getting married. people get married when they have financial stability. if you cant pay for a wedding then what makes you can live without your parents.
2006-07-25 22:39:18 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
send out another invite asking guests to bring food like a pot luck. they are family and friends, and they'd be happy to help you.
good luck!
also use jimmy johns or subway for sandwiches, or kentucky fried chicken sells chicken in bulk cheaply.
2006-07-25 23:42:50 · answer #8 · answered by pixiebdg 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hell ya do it on your own you cannot depend on them for everything. if you are grown up enought to be in a relationship you should be responsible to feed your selfs. its ok if you need it to get by for a week but you should be responsible and buy your own food
2006-07-25 22:36:09 · answer #9 · answered by kispioxman2000 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get a another job
2006-07-25 22:36:59 · answer #10 · answered by finesthaitian 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋