How do I even cope?

Question

I am so depressed. My fiancee' doesn't want me to come back home since I left earlier but the thing is he told me to leave. I am 15 weeks pregnant with our baby. I am acually thinking about cutting my wrists again and the only thing that has stopped me thus far is the baby because I would never do anything to hurt her. Yea maybe my fiancee' had a bit much to drink and probably won't remember tomorrow but it just hurts so bad. Nothing seems to ease the pain. I have been depressed in the past because it is a family problem. I have also cut before and it just seems to help ease the pain. How else can I cope with losing him? I can't do this!

Everyone who has answered thanks so much. I am still not doing so well without him. I can't even sleep. He is the only one that can keep me sane!

Answer 1

Well let me just start by saying... RELAX. I have been in your shoes. I was pregnant when my husband left. Twice!!!! Yeah i didn't learn the first time. But let me tell you there is nothing in life more precious then the baby that you are carrying. Your feelings are hurt and understandably so, but it's not about you anymore. There are two now. So whatever you do or dont do affects the two of you. That baby does not have a voice. It cant tell you everything is going to be okay, but it will be. My grandma always tells me that THIS TO SHALL PASS.. She's 90 and has been through a lot in her life and ya know what she is RIGHT. What seems like the end of the world today will soon be a distant memory. There is no feeling in the world like holding your baby for the first time and looking into that innocent face. It's 100% love. You have to do what's right by the baby, not the boyfriend. Guys come and go but that baby will be with you forever. make sure to take care of yourself. I hope you are seeing a doctor and taking your vitamins. That baby is counting on YOU. Be strong for the baby. A baby can sense stress and anger even in utero. It's been studied. So it is so important for you to relax. Do you have a friend you can call to hang out with? If you want to chat you let me know. Take care God Bless and remember this to shall pass.

Answer 2

First begin by surrounding yourself with close friends or family that are supportive. It is a serious thing to even consider harming yourself physically. Cutting, as you call it, is not going to solve anything. You said that this "pain" eases the pain. But what about the pain it may cause others like your family and friends who love you? And then there's the baby. You are going to be a mother soon, and so you need to keep your chin up, stop taking crap from boyfriend, and take control of your situation. You are a lot tougher than you may think.

Answer 3

I know it hon.it is us women that bear the burden of rasing the kids..He is probably scared like most men are of things they do not understand..well hey that is everyone to a point..Having a baby is a life changing experiance that is forever..Its scary..but the most beautiful, thing you will ever do... Dont cut yourself..Is that gonna bring him back? Help you sleep? What happens if you get an infection?? You are going to be a MOTHER it is time to put the baby first...and maybe accept the reality of being a single mother..I hope you work it out..For all 3 of you..

Answer 4

Please look up and telephone a suicide prevention hot line as soon as possible. Don't worry about the time. they are staffed 24/7. These people (God bless them), are trained to stabilise your situation and to start you on the road to sort out the mess using professional people that are knowlegeable about your problem and many others like it. They know all kinds of ways to do things and resources that neither of us are even aware of.
A chat with them will quickly make you feel better, and fill you with hope and positive thoughts. It IS NOT as bad a situation as you may think.
Counselling would probably help too.
Don't be ashamed A lot of us have been that down, including me. Believe it.
Please make the call now. (use 911 if you feel you cannot do it by yourself.
Good luck, and I'm with you, thinking about you
Dan.

Answer 5

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How do I even cope?
I am so depressed. My fiancee' doesn't want me to come back home since I left earlier but the thing is he told me to leave. I am 15 weeks pregnant with our baby. I am acually thinking about cutting my wrists again and the only thing that has stopped me thus far is the baby because I would...

Answer 6

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Answer 7

you need to talk to someone honey.Can you go to a professional for help? Is there a minister or a family member? How about a good friend? In the mean time take care of yourself and your baby. Remember that this too shall pass. Life wont be awful forever. good luck I will be praying for you.

Answer 8

Try attending al-anon meetings. The people there will help you cope with your bf drinking. It's a start anyway. As for the cutting, look up 'borderline personality disorder and see if this sounds like what you are going through.

Answer 9

That's a terrible thing to have to experience. I hope that things work out. But, to be honest, he may be the one that needs help. Try talking to a close friend or counselor. Look online for simple tips on avoiding cutting. I hope that you find what is truly best for you and your baby. Stay strong.

Answer 10

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