Maybe we like getting hurt. I'm being completely serious here. Maybe we like setting ourselves up so that eventually we crash and burn. So that each time we do fall we feel a little bit more human. Because only in our dreams can we not get hurt and maybe I don't like dreaming. So here we go back again, maybe we like the pain of breaking hearts and becoming sushi, all sliced and diced.
And why is it that even after the person has hurt us, we continue to love them, like nothing is wrong and nothing ever happened. Is it for composure reasons? Do we need to feel like we have that control, control over how we act when our heart feels like it no longer exists? I don't know, I really don't.
But I'm sick of it. I'm sick of constantly putting myself at the edge of the cliff just to fall again, seeing if anyone will be there to catch me at the bottom. And no one ever is. But when I finally have managed to get to the top of the cliff again, the bruises no longer evident, the scrapes no longer there, I jump again. Do we like the thrill of free falling, do we like the danger of the chance that someone might not be down there to catch us as we fall?
Because I'm sick of falling, I'm sick of completely trusting the one person that I should be able to trust and them not trusting me in return on the basis that I'm female, so I must be plotting to stab you in the back, and I must want to break your heart. But I don't want to, my hearts been broken enough as is and I wouldn't break the person's heart that I love, because my heart would get broken in the process.
I know it's hard to trust people. And I know it's hard to give up that control. But what about me? What about the fact that I'm free falling unsure of whether or not he'll be there to catch me. But I'm not saying I need him to catch me. Just somewhere in the game, it'd be nice if someone would....
2006-07-25 15:12:32 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
you are right i think
while im sitting here the man i love is in the states and im heart broken.
we loved each other for 4 years but hen all of a sudden the moove broke us appart he made a dissision and it wasnt me. while im here in mexico he is off braking someone elses heart. i guess you can say that i too was at the edge of the cliff, and there he was at least that is what i thought but i was wrong. and while going back up, there is another one ( man )
he wants me but i cant allow myself too love him back ( half me does half me doesnt ) i dont know what to do
i cant fall again the bruises and scrapes havnt healed yet and i cant let then be put there again
2006-07-28 15:25:13 · answer #1 · answered by Nicolette Martin 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Im going through the same thing. My bf and I are always arguing it comes to the point in where I get really hurts and its not once or twice its many times and for some reason I still love him and still with him. I figured that maybe we do like it. But it should not be that way. We should be strong enough to but it to an end. We should realize that we dont deserve to get hurt. We deserve to be treated so much better. Its hard! No its not wrong for thinking that and thanks i realized that its true. We like it because we dont do anything to make it stop. We are telling them that its ok. We need to let them know and u seem pretty strong urself. U should not feel this way nor should I or anyone else
2006-07-25 22:19:59 · answer #2 · answered by crazyfemale 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Getting hurt is all part of being in love. There comes a point where you have to put that love aside and do what is best for you. When you find the right person you can trust them completly and you won't get hurt as deeply.
No one likes to be hurt. If you didn't feel pain, you wouldn't be human.
2006-07-25 22:17:00 · answer #3 · answered by ♥dream_angel♥ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Putting yourself on the line is the risk you take if you want to have a genuine emotional relationship with someone. I wonder which is worse: closing yourself off and having superficial relationships so you won't get hurt again, or having the faith to expose your heart? Trust is a difficult path but the rewards are great. B
2006-07-25 22:20:38 · answer #4 · answered by Bethany 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are sick of it. Then stop doing it. We all tend to fall in cycles. Try thinking : "is this really the best for me?" Do you feel good with yourself and so comfortable with your own desitions that at the end you can say "yeah, i did good for myself, I'm proud of myself. And I feel love"
Obviously you don't right now, so, don't be afraid and break the cycle. I can asure you it will hurt like hell but you'll be fine.
2006-07-25 22:21:02 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You made me cry...that is exactly what I told my boyfriend today. I definitely agree..... I still think that you try again and/or love them still because it's human nature not to admit that you've failed, so you stay on it to get it "right" again. Simply because when it comes to matters of the heart the number one doesn't like to play a role. It takes more than one person for it to exist, it takes more than one chance to get it right, it takes more than one moment to convince yourself that love is there, the only thing is when one does finally play a role in love its tragic, the one broken heart ruins it all, the one issue can crash and burn anything.... but than only one person is for you... *sighs* here I GO AGAIN!...lol
2006-07-25 22:19:54 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Song by: The Get Up Kids
"I'll Catch You"
can you sleep as the sound hits your ears one at a time?
an unspokenbalance here,
unabridged for so many years
that i should stare at receivers to receive her isn't fair
don't worry i'll catch you
don't ever worry
your arms in mine, anytime
i wouldn't trade anything
you're still my everything
to my surprise, before my eyes, you arrive
don't worry I'll catch you
don't ever worry
i'm still breaking old habits, habits when you pulled the wool over me
i can see everything, everything remembering "jinx removing"
don't worry i'll catch you [x2]
don't ever worry
no need for reminding... you're still all that matters to me
2006-07-25 22:16:40 · answer #7 · answered by Larry 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are these the lyrics to Nirvana's posthumously unpublished song? You should refashion this as a Fiona Apple/Avril Lavigne song! Plenty of electric guitars, just to give it the right thump for your bump!
I'm not an accomplished heavy-metal/punk songwriter, otherwise i'd set this too music and then $$$$$$$!!!!
2006-07-25 22:20:07 · answer #8 · answered by Ezekiel 29 bumfuzzle~ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes we do it just to know that someone cares.
Sometimes they don't.
P.S. You are an excellent writer. When you strike it rich as an author there will be a mob of fans to catch you.
Best Wishes
2006-07-25 22:34:03 · answer #9 · answered by pseudonym 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Everyone has someone meant for them. I know what you mean by people like to get hurt. I am going out (or I think that I am) with this guy. He is a nice guy but is it because he likes me that I dont want me. I always flake on him. I make excuses not to see him. I do like him, but I think that i dont like commitment. I dont know. but i either have to get with him or leave him. but at this point i think that he dont want to see me anymore.
2006-07-25 22:22:07 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋