My g/f moved away and she's doubting a lot of things. She doubts our relationship sometimes, but most of the time, she says she loves me and that she's just scared, but then she does the same thing over again. WTF IS GOING ON!!!
2006-07-25 14:48:50 · 27 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
she's just scared that u will be apart she'll miss u cuz she loves u
when she is in a stable calm mood she can think straight and tell u how she feels which is that she loves u but shes scared
and when shes worring and all tide up she can't really think straight so she just starts saying anything that comes to her mind
if u r willing to stay with her even when she moves convince her that and tell her that ur not going to let her go or cheat on her
~hope that helped ♥
2006-07-25 14:54:21 · answer #1 · answered by hotloverxo328 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Ugh! The dreaded long distance relationship. My boyfriend just moved a month ago and we decided to just stay friends. That sort of distance puts a lot of strain on a relationship. If you've been together a long time and both of you are willing to sacrifice to work this out, then it could work. But from the sounds of your girlfriend, it seems like she's wondering if the grass is greener on the other side. That's not good for a long distance relationship. I'd suggest being open to date other people. I think everyone needs to see what sort of options they have out there (so this could be a good opportunity for you too!). And marriages/relationships never work out when one or both of the partners are wondering what if. Get all the what ifs discovered and then they'll be ready to commit. And as cliche as this sounds, if it's meant to be, it will be. I've lost two guys because of distance, but that's just what I say when I wonder if we were supposed to stay together. For now, I'm happy. You and your girlfriend will be too. Good luck!
2006-07-25 21:55:50 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
She is very insecure. You need to have a long talk with her. Face to face if possible, if not, on the phone. You haven't said how far she moved or how long she will be gone for. I'm really proud of you for being such a sweet guy. Lots of guys are jerks and if the girl moves away they drop her like fire. You should probably do your best to see her as much as you can and talk to her as much as possible. If she decides you have to break up, don't take it personally and understand that she is probably under alot of stress from moving. Stay friends unless she turns out to be a butthole and in that case just spend more time with your other friends to get better.
2006-07-25 22:10:24 · answer #3 · answered by DJ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Long distance relationships are hard. Even the best relationship can be difficult to maintain from a distance.
Loving her may mean letting her go. Get used to the idea it may not last.
Don't put pressure on her. Just enjoy your conversations together - don't over analyse the relationship.
Fill your time with other things you enjoy. Get used to daily life without her. It's your reality now - learn how to enjoy it.
2006-07-25 21:55:41 · answer #4 · answered by mrpeabody 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In my humble opinion, your relationship is slowly falling apart.
It sounds to me like she is torn between her devotion to you and her loneliness. She probably has friends (and men) asking her out. She wants to go out and have fun, meet new people, but feels guilty because you are back home waiting for her, expecting her to be "good".
She probably does love you and does not want to lose you, but feels like the relationship will never progress any farther than it has because you two are so far apart.
And now there are people around her that can ease her loneliness, give her the companionship she desires, but you are still tied to her like an anchor. She doesn't want to hurt you by breaking up with you, so she sits in confusion, debating what to do. She then pushes that confusion onto you, hoping you will "take the hint" and do what she can't bring herself to do: END THE RELATIONSHIP.
Distance does not always make the heart grow fonder. Sorry...
T
2006-07-25 22:04:34 · answer #5 · answered by Theophania 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like she is insecure...try to find ways to make her feel special. Let her know that you are thinking of her. Depending on how far away she moved, you may be able to just show up and surprise her with a special kind of date, like a picnic by candlelite or show up at her door with flowers. If it is too far to drive, then call the local flower stores in her town and have someone deliver a single rose and let her know how you feel...sometimes with a woman the little things mean more than the big things. Just find ways to make sure she knows how much she means to you...
Good Luck To You
2006-07-25 21:53:53 · answer #6 · answered by lexxie124 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She's having doubts...that is what's going on. Long distance relaitonships usually do not last due to lack of trust and communication. Try talking to her and resolve the situation...
2006-07-25 21:58:56 · answer #7 · answered by sassper 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The reason why she is doubting the relationship is because she is not clear about the future. You and her need to talk openly and honestly.
2006-07-25 22:30:09 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sound like she confused and she need to tell you why she doubt your relation and why she moved.If she cannot give you a good answer you need to move on.Cause you need a strong woman not a weak unsure on your side.
2006-07-25 21:54:51 · answer #9 · answered by Happy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like she has a lot of insecurities, try to reassure her and calm her nerves a bit. But you don't want to have to be constantly comforting her. If it gets to that point you need to sit her down and kindly make her aware of it and tell her that you love her but you have to draw a line at some point. Good Luck!!!!!
2006-07-25 21:57:13 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋