when me and my b/f got together he acted more like he cared about me than he does now he used to hold me at night and was a lot more affectionate than he is now. i know he is faithful and he loves me and sometimes he is still very loveable am i doing something wrong or is it just a guy thing
2006-07-25 14:41:48 · 12 answers · asked by babygirl 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I notice a lot of the girls have mentioned being comfortable. That's an interesting word, and a pretty good one too. Comfortable is one thing, as long as you're on the same page. Taking you for granted is another, and you want to watch out for that. It doesn't sound at all like he is slipping or anything. I might be opening myself up here, but here goes. There is a fine line here. I think comfortable is a great word because there is a level of give and take there. I hate to use the word infatuation, but it's something like that when you are drop dead crazy about someone and you start dating them, but it can't continue. Believe me, that does not mean he doesn't feel the same way about you as when you started dating. But neither person can go through an entire relationship feeling like one has to constantly impress the other. One or both would go nuts. That's an irony about relationships. If he still surprises you and does unexpected (and romantic) things, that's great. That comfort level has to be there, though. You mentioned that he's faithful. He's also apparently happy. You're doing something right. Every so often in a relationship, you're each going to need some reassurance, and that's not a bad thing at all. Constant insecurity from one person usually leads to suspicion and jealousy, and that can drive the other person away. Sounds like you're doing something right. You're balancing things well.
2006-07-25 14:59:32 · answer #1 · answered by spacedog1969 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think this is something that eventually happens to all couples in committed relationships. You come to a point in a relationship when it is no longer new and you are no longer in the honeymoon period. At that point of things you both need to make the effort to show each other that you still mean the world to each other!! Good Luck!!
2006-07-25 21:52:20 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's a guy thing. It happens with women too. We get too comfortable with the person. We don't have that "new " relationship feeling anymore.
2006-07-25 21:44:15 · answer #3 · answered by cutesquaw69 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How long have you been together? In reference to your question yes it's a guy thing. Guys don't like to cuddle.
2006-07-25 21:45:19 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is him...it is like when you get a new puppy...love it for a while never want to let go but later you still love it but find it boring to show it.
2006-07-25 21:44:54 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
its just that! he dont want the same thing! same routine! he wants to improve things!! he might think that you dont like what he is doing because it might get old! but if u like what he did! let him know! tell him that he is doing great and you enjoy being with him!
Guys like to do things based on what they see in movies!!
2006-07-25 21:46:42 · answer #6 · answered by vaiosoft 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that once a guy finally gets to know a girl, he doesn't feel that he needs to show his affection. He thinks you already know so he doesn't have to prove it.
2006-07-25 21:44:42 · answer #7 · answered by krd12 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You sound extremely insecure and your "boyfriend" does not sound like he is very interested in you. Hey, sweetie.....he is using you for sex and I suggest that you move on......or stop whining about your decision to stay with him
2006-07-25 21:45:42 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
A guy thing.....he has conquerd. Now it's maintenance.
Don't row that boat alone. Make him do his part.
2006-07-25 21:46:49 · answer #9 · answered by CraZyCaT 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it take 2 to make the relationship work. try doing it to him see how he reacts
2006-07-25 21:44:12 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋