I'm almost 20 and I still live with my mom. My mom is very controlling. I've had my permit for 2 years and she has prevented me from getting my license that entire time. My girlfriend, who lives like 800 miles from me, has invited me to stay with her and her parents so I can go to college. Her parents what me to, but yet my mom doesnt want me to. She thinks my girlfriend is going to prevent me from going to college. Should I go and be with my girl or should I stay with my mom?
2006-07-25 14:32:45 · 11 answers · asked by Missy 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
P. S. I'm Missy's boyfriend using her account to ask this important question.
2006-07-25 14:34:26 · update #1
Hell yeah you should. Your mom's a control freak(sorry if that upsets you) and your girl obviously cares about you going to college, so how's that gonna stop you FROM going? It's more encouraging, not discouraging, so you should do it as long as her and her parents don't mind. Get out from your mom's thumb, she'll never WANT to let you go if you don't get out on your own. Show her you can take care of your own life and don't need her absolute control, or she'll keep you as long as you allow it. Move to your girl. Good idea, seriously.
2006-07-25 14:39:40 · answer #1 · answered by Pyromaniac 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
At 20-years old how does your Mom prevent you from getting your license. You only need to be 18 to get it without her signature. Do you work? Can you afford insurance? Can you afford a car, even a beat up one, but one with wheels that gets you where you need to go? Sounds to me like you are more tied to her apron strings then you want to be. Soon you will be old enough to vote? Are you going to ask her who to vote for? Someone said to get out there on your own. That's not bad advice. If you move in with your gf and her family all you are doing is going from one place to live under someone else's rule to another's. Things like college is a choice. If you have a will, you will find a way. And you can find it all on your own. Sooner or later you need to realize you need to grow up. You just may need to try now as that time. Sorry if I sound so rough on you, but your mom sure hasn't taken that stance, now has she? Frankly speaking, you're not her baby anymore. Your a young man. Act like one and you'll be a lot happier with yourself in the future.
2006-07-25 14:49:27 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its so not easy for someone to stay in some different person's homestead less than circumstances that they don't seem for use to. As you suggested your self however, your brother has a $3 dollar an hour earnings and that isn't any longer very nearly sufficient for him to pass out with a female friend. perchance he ought to judge getting a real pastime first earlier attempting to stay with someone because bringing yet another man or woman homestead on your moms and dads to help fairly isn't honest both!
2016-11-26 00:03:09 · answer #3 · answered by launius 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should move out and tell your mom that you love her but need to spread your wings and work some things out. I think you both could benifit from some therapy. I don't mean that in a bad way either, I just think there are some issues there that need to be worked through and you guys might need some help and guidance.
2006-07-25 14:38:24 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
instead of moving in with your g/fs parents why dont you find a dorm to live in & go to college? living with your g/f and her parents is a good idea until you find a dorm or a room mate to get an apartment but not a final solution. It usually just causes problems.
2006-07-25 14:37:53 · answer #5 · answered by i_lovethis_bar03 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
shound like your moms a control freak dude your 20 tell you mom to let you live your own life maybe you should go leave with your girlfriend and her parents but just go to collage to prove your mom wrong
2006-07-25 14:39:45 · answer #6 · answered by angeleyes12181@sbcglobal.net 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you plan to go to college and know you'll stick to that, then move in. It will help you grow up from your mom.
2006-07-25 14:35:16 · answer #7 · answered by krd12 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You shouldnt be doing that..
work something out so that your mom ll also be happy..
why cant you move to that place with your mom..?
2006-07-25 14:36:16 · answer #8 · answered by fresh n honest 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yea time to leave the nest.
2006-07-25 14:34:10 · answer #9 · answered by boxing_fan_4_wlad 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why not move out on your own? You're old enough.
2006-07-25 14:34:35 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋