My ex is getting out of prison and he is making threats to my family and I.?

Question

I am a single mother raising 2 boys, ages 9 and 6. I thought that after 6 years in prison he wouldn't do anything to me. We were in a relationship before he went away but it was very abusive. For some insane reason he doesnt believe it was that bad but it was. The first time i left him I was happy until he found me, he beat me. It took months before i was able to come outside without him thinking i was going to leave. Him going to prison was a blessing. After 6 years why does he still want to hurt me. I have to move quickly, I dont know where to go or do i have any savings. What do i do and where do i go to keep us safe????? I have only one month before he gets out. Does anyone know a good place we can go???????

Answer 1

come stay with my sister and me this is her Yahoo ID:lexis818

Answer 2

okay, i have a couple suggestions...
first, call the courthouse and get info on restrainting orders, ex partes, or adult and child protection orders...they differ from state to state. Also, he will have a probation or parole officer wherever he is released (county offices are in the phone book) Call the office and give them his name and DOC number if you have it and tell them that he is threatening you. Also I reccommend staying where you are and taking precautions instead of moving. You can have him served in jail with a protection order for you and your sons. That means that the prison officials are aware of the situation and his PO will know about it before he is ever released. Also call ADT or Brinks and have a security system installed. They are 99.00 and that is alot cheaper than moving. Also inform the school officials at your son's schools of the possibility of a problem and make sure that they have a copy of the protection order and u will know that they are safe while away at school. Make sure that you keep a cordless phone in your possesion and keep your security system armed and with the protection order issued before his release, if he does show up it is a felony offense and they will not waste any time responding since you did all of it prior to his out date...
I wish you luck and my prayers are with you...
if u need any help finding the resources available in your area, send me a message and I will help you.

Answer 3

First thing is go to the police and tell them about the threats. They will probably have you file a restraining order against him. Which he will probably violate and then he will go back to prison for violation of his parole.
Another thing you could do is move to another area with family or friends and do not tell anyone that yall knew together (friends, his family, etc) where you are going. Make sure you get an unlisted phone number.
If you have no family or friends that you can go to then call a shelter for battered/abused women and see if they can help you. Alot of times they can transport you to another county, town, and put you in a shelter there.
You didnt say what state you live in and laws are different in each, and available help is different in each.
I will keep you and your kids in my prayers and may God be with you.

Answer 4

Six years of prison didn't do anything but p*ss him off, you can believe that.

Now he's just going to be better at being mean.

Make no mistake, you are in REAL danger.

I don't know where you are, so I can't give any tips on where to go, but you better find a place where he can't trace you. Also, he may hurt your family if he's bent on getting even. They better be careful as well.

You've got children involved in this mess, so you HAVE to do something for their sake as well as your own. Go to a women's shelter and ask for help/advise. If you wait, you may not get a chance to save yourself later.

Be smart, be safe, be careful.

Answer 5

Well you should get a restraining order and make sure that you and your kids are carefull when going anywhere. Look for a womens center in your area. Maybe go to the local police office to ask where you can find one. Good Luck!

Answer 6

this is not good you should contact the police first and when released he should be given bail conditions, it can be added to these that he not approach,intimidate or harass you after doing this contact a woman's group they may be able to offer you some assistance and support

don't stay where you are and make sure you keep you family informed of what is and has being happening they may need some help to

Answer 7

Call the National Domestic Violence Hotline as soon as possible:

1-800-799-SAFE for info, help, and support services in your area.

Tell them you need to move--immediatley. And go to the website below for support. Take his Threats Seriously.

Oprah Winfrey did a whole show about domestic violence 2 months ago--featuring Yvette Cade who was set on fire by her husband. Yvette wanted to warn women not to end up like her--and PLEASE read her story. Save Yourself.

Answer 8

krd12 pretty much gave the right answer. I would only add that making threats is against the law, so you could get him re-arrested for them.

Document every single threat he makes against you and your family. Try to write down *exactly* what he said and when. That will help prosecutors put him back in jail where he obviously belongs.

Answer 9

He's in for another month; contact his probation/parole officer about the threats.
Also, most large cities (some smaller) have "safe houses" for folk in your situation - that shouldn't be hard to find. Stay safe.

Answer 10

Get all the evidence and take copies to an attorney, the police, the warden and the parole board. Let them know he is threatening you and your family and show them the proof.

Answer 11

Has he threatened you in letters or on the phone. You need to talk to the police and if you have proof show them. Ask them if they know where you could go, then they will realize that you are truly scared for your life.