So I'm going off to college in a few short weeks, and I'm also currently in a long distance relationship. We met a few years ago, slowly became friends, and during a vacation this year finally became a couple.
At first when we got together, everyone was happy for me because they know I'd fallen for this guy a long time ago. And then just about a week ago, suddenly everybody's attitudes changed: Dump him.
When I ask why, they say because I'm too young for an LDR, and since I'm going to college, I should have freedom to hook up with whoever I want.
I'm the happiest I've ever been.
And I WILL have freedom in college. Since my boyfriend is so far away, I'll basically have all the time in the world to spend with my friends & studies, except for when he's visiting.
I am not a random hookups kind of girl. I never have been.
I like parties, I love being with friends, and I plan on taking full advantage of the college social scene, except for the random sex. Is that so wrong?
2006-07-25 14:05:45 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Wow, I didn't expect so many responses so quickly. Thank you guys a lot <3
I am going to stick with him. Really, screw everybody else. They don't know what's best for me.
They all assume that I'll be chained to my dorm room waiting for his calls and e-mails and things, which is completely untrue. He's not going to stop me from enjoying college. If anything he's adding to the enjoyment :)
Thanks again guys! I appreciate it.
2006-07-25 14:13:15 · update #1
Sometimes long distance relationships don't work, but if you decide to call it quits with your bf, don't do it just because everyone else wants you to. You have to make that decision for yourself.
2006-07-25 14:10:42 · answer #1 · answered by Lola 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Hell no there's nothing wrong with that at all. Keep your boyfriend if you still care about him. College is great and you won't miss out by having a boyfriend. Especially if he's far away. If anything it will make the guys you do meet like you even more if they know you are taken.
Don't let the LDR get in the way of either of your experiences. It doesn't have to be a problem, it will help you get thru the tough times of early college away from home having him to talk to.
What the hell do your friends know. They're jealous of what you have and how happy you are. they want you to have to go in alone like them. Remember, misery loves company.
2006-07-25 14:13:22 · answer #2 · answered by dml2410 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ofcourse not. It's you choice they want you to be happy but you already are, let them know. Keep it going. You are not to young for LDR. For pete's sake , your going to college plus it's not liek you won't be studying or anything. Don't break up if you are happy because at the end of everything, you know you made the right decision since you seem to love him. You are old enough to know you have to listen to your heart and not what anyone else tells you, you learn that in high school. So do what feels right to you and don't dump him, you can still have fun. Good luck!
2006-07-25 14:10:30 · answer #3 · answered by Lindsay 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no there's nothing wrong with that. YOU should make YOUR OWN choice and see what's best for you and your relationship. If you can deal with a long distance relationship then i don't see the problem. It requires a lot of trust, and it will be hard but if you can do that, then I don't see the problem. Good luck
2006-07-25 14:11:02 · answer #4 · answered by GC 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's your choice to make, and it's your life. If the guy is controlling, and your friends are telling you to break it off for obvios reasons that have to do with him being negative in anyways than maybe you should listen to them. But if truly think yuo love him, and hes honestly good to you than its your life, and it isnt any ones business what you do with it.
2006-07-25 14:12:17 · answer #5 · answered by chicata25 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. In fact I think it's real admirable you sticking by him like this. From looking at this question I can see you have really approached this with all maturity and discretion. Congratulations. I hope everything turns out well for you and your boyfriend.
2006-07-25 14:09:52 · answer #6 · answered by Crossroads Keeper 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you love him, stay with him. Don't let everyone tell you what to do. You never know what will happen in life but don't let others make all your decisions for you. You're an adult now, do what you think is best.
2006-07-25 14:09:12 · answer #7 · answered by Miss. Bliss 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no it's not wrong in your eyes...but in todays world everybody is out to get as many d*cks as they possibly can...so what you need to do and what your bf needs to do (if he's that serious about yall relationship) is to forget everybody else and what they are saying and concentrate on yall...cuz if you listen to everybody they'll mess you up and then you'll be screwed...and they'll still be in their miserable little world trying to ruin someone else's relationship...and you also need to watch out cuz one of them could be telling you to break up with your man so that they can have him...it's happened plenty of times b4 u...
2006-07-25 14:11:30 · answer #8 · answered by klee0926 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no and u know what if ure friends tell u to break up with the guy u really like they arent ure friends but if u dont wanna hurt any1s feelings tell your friends they arent the boss of you
2006-07-25 14:09:58 · answer #9 · answered by zorroplaya2 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
never listen to ur friends
don't have random sex
ur friends don't know whats best for you
if your weak minded then listen to them
2006-07-25 14:09:09 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋