My wife has days that she's fine and in a good mood. Then, she has days that she's depressed---wants to just lay around and sleep. She's very introverted and has done SI behavior since she was 12. She's now 29. I've tried talking to her about it, but she can't really explain how she feels...and she doesn't care to talk about it. She's a good wife and a good mother. Could she be bi-polar or is it something else? Any suggestions on how to help her?
2006-07-25 14:03:11 · 16 answers · asked by roadtoad 2 in Health ➔ Mental Health
I am a 30yo f. I also do the same things your wife does. In fact I went many years like that until I was forced to see a doctor by my loved ones. I was diagnosed w/ Bi polar. I am now on medication for it. I still have these up and down episodes only not as severe. But true bi polar is not diagnosed till she does other things besides sleep. It could be just simple depression. Does she get the blues alot? Or when she is not depressed is she in super hyper mode? Everything including her speech races 100 miles per hour? Look up symptoms for bi polar behavior. Also for depression.
The best thing to do though is bring her to a doctor.
Keep loving her and support her. Do not tell her to snap out of it cuz it may not be that simple.
I am sure you do not do that.
Honestly the best route will be a doctor for a consultation.
Bless you and your family....
2006-07-25 14:15:50 · answer #1 · answered by Spay-n-Neuter-Your-Pets 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think that your wife may suffer from chronic depression.Bi-polor usually has some episodes of mania.I think alot of the reason she doesn't want to talk about it alot is the fact that she may feel guilty about needing to lay in the bed or sleep.One sign of depression is not taking care of your health, so the fact that she hasn't been to the doctor yet is a good sign.I think she needs to see a dr about this there are great anti-depressants out there such as lexapro or cymbalta.You need to explain to her very nicely that you see some changes in her and as her husband it is your place to tell her this.She needs to see a dr because you think she suffers from depression and she and the family could benefit from her going to the doctor to get treatment.Explain how she holds the house together and you want her to feel well.I hope this helps you.Please get her to the dr.
2006-07-25 14:59:26 · answer #2 · answered by daddysgirl92280 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sound like it may by Bipolar Disporder / Depressive Type. Like most mental illness bipolar disorder is determined by levels of severity and type. You said your wife "has days that she's fine and in a good mood," which sounds to me like she doesn't get to a manic state, or has manic episodes. Rather, she display's symptoms of the more depressive side of the illness. She, and you, should see a doctor together. You can even begin with your family doctor, doesn't have to be a psyc. doctor to start off.
2006-07-25 15:36:54 · answer #3 · answered by I know the answer 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My suggestion would be to have her see her doctor and get referred to a good psychiatrist. Sounds like she may have some Bipolar & Depression symptoms. Have her call her doctor now before it starts to affect other parts of her life, especially with the kids. Maybe she just needs some counseling or maybe she needs to try some different meds to help her. Hope this helps! Good luck!
2006-07-25 14:11:05 · answer #4 · answered by Jamie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She could be. Take her to a therapist. If it isn't a psychiatrist, then it should be one that is tied into a psychiatrist because she may need medication. Many people are afraid of medication, but it can make a difference in their lives and the people around them. I hope you can motivate her to do this. I'm sure that the down period she is having must be really bad for her.
2006-07-25 14:09:40 · answer #5 · answered by Simmi 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Could be chronic depression. My husband suffers from it and it took many years before he finally got some help. He has been on medication for over 10 years and that coupled with periodic counseling sessions has made a lot of difference in our lives.
2006-07-25 14:08:15 · answer #6 · answered by knittinmama 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She could be bi-polar. As far as suggestions on how to help her.. Well, basically you can't... Unless she wants to be helped. Sad but true. The best you can do is listen to what she does tell you and try the best you can to understand.
2006-07-25 14:08:31 · answer #7 · answered by technical_13 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she's not on meds then take her to a doctor if she doesn't want to go then call a doctor that does house calls. When you suffer from depression you can't explain it and you sleep alot like not enough like your wife because when your sick you have to sleep.
2006-07-25 14:10:38 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
its probably hormonal. some women have pms for a week or two before their period. she could have her hormones checked out to see if there is an imbalance. if her liver or bowel is toxic (in need of a cleanse) she may have too much estrogen in her body. the liver metabolizes estrogen and all toxins. drinking 2 qts of water a day helps.
2006-07-25 14:09:37 · answer #9 · answered by echomuse 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can help her by being there for her. Is it that she doesn't want to talk about it because she doesn't see it as a problem? Or is it that she doesn't want to talk about it because it IS a problem? Be there for her, let her know you're there if she needs you. But if it's not bothering her, try not to press the subject.
2006-07-25 14:46:03 · answer #10 · answered by christa s 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋