I am scared that he rejects me that is why i have not sent him my picture.. Please help
2006-07-25 14:00:27 · 27 answers · asked by CaribbeanSunshine 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I'm sure with talking with him for a year that you have described yourself to him right?? First you need to be proud of who you are. Girl I'm not a big girl but I'm a thick girl with lots of curves. Course we would all love to change things about our body but yet we need to be comfortable with ourselves before we let someone in our lives. So basically we have to love our body before we can let someone else love it. So if your uncomfortable with who you are and your body then he will sense that and it will be unattractive to him. But to answer your question send him the picture of you. He will like you for you and if he doesn't then he is all about looks and not about who you are inside. But show the poor boy what you look like. I'm shocked he actually talked to you for that long without seeing a picture from you anyways! But remember be proud of who you are first!!! Be proud of your beautiful curves!!
2006-07-25 14:23:41 · answer #1 · answered by browneyegirl 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If he is not willing to accept you for what you are inside and out, then like all other men who are like that, he isn't worth your time. Sadly, most men do look first on the outside and make judgments, I wish that could be changed. However, hopefully because you two have had a good communicative relationship, he won't care what he sees because he should fully love the person that you are.
If you really don't want to send your picture, and you think that you really would lose him if you took my advice and just sent the pic, hoping that he accepts you like a decent man would. Then just tell him that you don't like the way that you look in pictures and you would rather him not see them, but that is only if you're really desperate to keep both of your relationships going, if only in fact that you really think that your picture would ruin the relationship.good luck.
2006-07-25 21:11:33 · answer #2 · answered by caitymercede 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Never be ashame of yourself. If you love yourself then don't worry about what other people think. Tell him the truth about your weight before sending the picture. Tell him you have more to love...
If you two have been having a great conversation online, then don't be afraid to send a picture. If you get rejected, then you know he's not worth your time.
2006-07-25 21:07:43 · answer #3 · answered by hunny_bunny 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like true love
Be yourself, sounds like he's interested in your personality and your cute features. I would be honest, chat with him and explain that your big bone, send pictures. Sometimes, life sucks. If people can't except us who we really are on the inside, than their not worth it. Their not seeing the whole picture or placing themselves in our shoes. I know what you mean, though. If I meet a guy anywhere, and their over weight well I'm interested with who they are inside.
Good Luck ~ Think Positive
2006-07-25 22:06:11 · answer #4 · answered by crystallamp 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
U just have to "go for the gold". Send him a pic and if he can't accept you for the person he has known for a year now...then he is a shallow jerk. I guess ppl will say he was misled but that is neither here nor there. Like I said, go for it. You would be surprised how many guys like cubby, thick or even big girls.
2006-07-25 21:05:46 · answer #5 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just be honest with him, don't be scared, I mean were you scared when you met this guy on-line, after one year of knowing him , you should of sent a picture a long time ago, come on just go for it , you only have one life to live, if you don't I will send him a picture of me ..........
2006-07-25 21:06:31 · answer #6 · answered by E.M. 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Send it to him. Have you mentioned that you're big? If not and you're nervous, tell him online first. He'll say he doesn't care and wants a picture anyway. So then send it. He obviously like YOU or he wouldn't have talked to you for a year.
2006-07-25 21:04:06 · answer #7 · answered by justme 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
send him the pic & if he knows that u r a big girl he wont care what u look like he should like the person inside & not in the pic. if he does not talk to u its because he is picky about what he wants u to look like i had that happen to me & the guy thinks i am a great person inside & out .& gl in what he says
2006-07-25 21:29:03 · answer #8 · answered by Jay LG 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i say do it and get it over with. the sooner you do, the sooner you can get on with your life. one of three things might happen.
1. he accepts you for you and you live happily ever after.
2. he rejects you and you don't live happily ever after. if this is the case, i recommend you get the pic issue out of the way before you offer your heart. it hurts less.
3. you find out he has a BBW fetish and you are willing to accept him.
2006-07-25 21:34:54 · answer #9 · answered by xknyghtmayre 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Send him your picture...
Dont judge him before he replies back...
that might change your feelings for him..
just send him ur pic and have an open mind...
you can deal with the things as and when they come..
dont worry about the negatives even before it comes..
Just be confident..GL
2006-07-25 21:05:59 · answer #10 · answered by fresh n honest 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋